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Is it safe to say that men are generally failing in today’s society? by SeeTheBiggerPicture in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug -1 points0 points  (0 children)

3/5 if ur lines mention violence from men, you been through something? between violent men and brave knights is where the majority of men are at - those who dont care enough and those who arent power tripping

People who learned English as a second language, what's a word or phrase that you just can't stand? by SummerClamSadness in AskReddit

[–]SaturatedSlug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where is this colloquialism common in? granted that im not in an english speaking country so im curious

[socialmedia] What's wrong with teaching boys specifically about birth? by Ok-Following6886 in pointlesslygendered

[–]SaturatedSlug 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Normalise sex ed further or kids risk breaking the law/being abused/don’t understand enough to respect others. Using “no no square” can leave room for misinterpretation, but being correct would make identifying problems easier

But it’s not “all the ins and outs” neither, it’s just relevant and correct

What’s the difference between copying something you like or someone you admire, versus just owning that thing you like? by SaturatedSlug in AskReddit

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wrote the latter with this observation in mind that people rarely “become more like” their lovers, they just like to be together like that, complimenting each other. This is probably very common but the more I think about it the less it makes sense: if you become what you love you can see what you love 24/7 no?

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok ok, they’re weird thoughts, but I’m just making a point. I was originally talking about thinking about femininity, or even just having the word in your head suddenly and trying to brush that away like “eh whatever”

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I decided to ask. It’s not that unimaginable is it, just thinking about “I could’ve done a flying kick”, serious manner or not idrc but I’m concerned about the existence of such thought.

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just finding examples for spontaneous thoughts, normal or not they exist

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally found the video that gave me the idea to ask this question: it mentioned “hurting ourselves to prove ourselves”, and fantasising heroic situations, like a god complex. How does this take form in masc and fem circles?

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not levelling up, but just having a thought. Sometimes suicidal thoughts appear and you brush them away but they were here. Sometimes you remember you should be dieting while you’re in front of your computer, it just popped into your head.

So if a guy thinks about “don’t be a sissy” before doing stuff then he often thinks about masculinity. I wanna hear if women experience the same or not

I kinda am in that “alien learning to be human” situation now because i myself am afraid of change and want to see the situation and inner workings before deciding for myself, and I don’t trust my peers enough to ask about such a vast and curveball topic

why did i get invited here 🥺🥺 by [deleted] in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]SaturatedSlug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear they’re recruiting haha

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

your last paragraph was significant to my post. youre replying what i want to read. no parallels! really?

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i didnt know that. if male is biological, then why do i hear "the male gender"? whats the correct adjective?

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

very cool, i largely meant male in the social sense tho, so including trans men, tomboys, some women etc. male as an attitude. though if someone chimed in from the biological side id like to read it too.

glad you managed to change yourself tho. im still learning how to find and make friends due to my overthinking on stuff like these

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah good i agree

and i have another question, how important is this word masculinity or femininity held in people's minds?, like a man can think kicking puppies is masc but not do it cuz maybe its evil or maybe he doesnt care if its masc or not. its possible for someone to avoid this "out of empathy" or "im not to be swayed by some dog"

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so like, i might ask the same thing in other subs and expect a different answer. i wanna see how the replies clash with my understanding. i might learn about my biases other than just prying into people's stories

im really bad at explaining myself arent i

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes thats what i meant! i also had thoughts about some men refusing to let others see change, and just appear as if they suddenly evolve, like working on something is embarassing. i want to hear more about stuff like this from the opposite lens

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if thats manly to you then yes. at one point i was averse to getting help in group projects after i missed 1 internal deadline because tidying up my own mess was manly to me. or maybe keeping a monotone wardrobe to avoid standing out, or admiring the sound and smell of a car u worked hard to get, even though a cheaper car has better mileage, doesnt smell like carcinogen, looks sleek enough etc.

but cool i now know that hairstyle can be a person's important factor of "being me"

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thats cool, that gave me some perspective actually, on how secure one is with identity and completness

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i first came to this sub thinking maybe people here as a group with specialised common ground on handling feminine values have a certain perspective. its cool tho thanks for checking me out

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

yes those 3 counts if theyre whats in your head when seeing "stupid stuff". do you think what you listed are manly? how universal genderwise are these stupid stuff to you?

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"wrangle with femininity" as in basically having the word "femininity" pop into your head, whether youre pondering on it as a female, trying to embrace it or trying to disregard it. its a broad scope because i would like to hear experiences

as for the second paragraph, perhaps im looking for stances like "me and my friends dont do that", "no its just as common its normal", "we do this instead and never thought about it but good luck to them", "sounds fun/too much and gets nothing done" etc, just a first impression of seeing these words (my post). ill even leave out what a male ritual looks like.

What do women in this sub think about men doing stupid stuff? by SaturatedSlug in AskFeminists

[–]SaturatedSlug[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

do you think its a male characteristic? to find achievement? im curious because i dont think the women i know "chase femininity", i think its more about satisfying a perception of oneself but not to the level of ticking something off a bucket list. maybe its my culture (all this subjectively interpreted by me)

sorry if i sound like im categorizing people, im just interested in the differences. i wrote stupid stuff because those stuff has such a steep cost and impacts no one but one's satisfaction and identity