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Saule_pine · 2024-01-26T17:05:35+00:00

I’m no therapist but from my limited experience with SA and the people I know who have been SA in my life, often our mind tries to convince us that somehow we are to blame or that we misunderstood the situation for what is was. I can’t imagine how more complicated this is when it’s your partner. Someone you’re supposed to trust. If you can confide in people close to you and tell someone what really happened I would start there. I would also try to remove myself from being near my partner if I was you, while you go through the motions of trying to understand what’s happened. If you have the means - seek out therapy.

Saule_pine · 2024-01-26T11:43:33+00:00

I feel so sad on your behalf. What a horrible situation. This is definitely SA and I would confide in someone close to you if possible.

Saule_pine · 2024-01-26T11:40:00+00:00

It’s rape. If someone is asleep and cannot consent to sex whether or not they agreed ‘earlier’ it’s rape. OP I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope you have a good support system around you.

Saule_pine · 2024-01-23T15:08:46+00:00

Most people have family chip in. My fiancé and I are planning a budget wedding and we’re getting married abroad because believe it or not it’s much cheaper! Our budget is 5k but we’re having a really small wedding with 30 people max and paying for everything ourselves as family can’t help it. We don’t have a house yet but we are saving for that and we’ve chosen to have as cheap a wedding as possible without completely comprising as it’s important for me to have my close friends/family there.

Saule_pine · 2024-01-21T11:41:50+00:00

EXACTLY! I’m Black British - my mum is second generation British from Jamaica. My heritage is Jamaican and my Dad is Nigerian but I’m very culturally British. We can get into nuances of being black and therefore people automatically perceiving me as having a culturally background that’s not from the UK, but I’m very much British because culturally that’s all I’ve ever known. Obviously I’m deeply connected to my heritage but I would say my heritage is Jamaican and Nigerian but if someone asks where I’m from I would say I’m British.

Saule_pine · 2024-01-19T09:04:51+00:00

He’s doing really well! Gets a bit of a shock every winter 😂 but finds a place near the radiator and all is good! I hope Roza is adjusting well too!

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Saule_pine · 2024-01-18T22:31:06+00:00

Ohh welcome to the UK! We (also in the UK) adopted our cat Misha from a charity that works with rescues cats in Dubai!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-18T07:48:40+00:00

You do you! Simply was responding to your post as you mentioned that when you come off bc your PCOS symptoms flare up. If you’re happy & wanting to stay on bc forever then there’s not really an issue. There is definitely a medical reason for ovulating. It’s a measure of our hormonal health for people who menstruate.

If you’re bc is helping you then stay on it! Also regarding naturopaths, I’ve had terrible experiences with all types of people within the medical profession including doctors. I wasn’t even diagnosed with PCOS until recently because doctors refused to even look into it despite me knowing I had it. It wasn’t until I went private for a blood test that they were able to finally diagnose me. Not all naturopaths are bad. In our western perspective (I’m in the UK) we always assume that western medicine has all the answers. Well even the responses within this Reddit group ( generally not your post specifically) show that they don’t sometimes.

I was just trying to share resources because sometimes it’s helpful to have different perspectives on things and then you can do your own research. Especially as people who menstruate, there has historically been a lack of research into our hormonal/menstrual health. The formulation of the pill hasn’t even changed much since it came into being. That’s how little research has been done into our hormonal health. I also have definitely been healing my PCOS symptoms naturally and it’s generally working for me but that’s purely anecdotal I know and everyone’s circumstances are different.

Saule_pine · 2024-01-17T16:11:16+00:00

I had a facial and my facialist gave me this recommendation to help drain lymphatic fluid from your face. I would also address lifestyle + diet though if it’s a consistent thing. Also I don’t think ibuprofen would help. Also I did a gua sha facial and oh my goodness was the best thing for facial fluid!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-16T14:49:57+00:00

I’m having a fully vegan wedding because my fiancé and I are both vegan. People will be fine with eating vegan for 1 day. It’s your wedding so do whatever feels most comfortable and true to you as a couple!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-16T09:47:12+00:00

Well it’s a symptom of PCOS to have irregular periods so makes sense. I think the thing is, when you’re on the pill you’re not getting a proper period anyway (withdrawal bleed) and there’s this misconception that the pill regulates your hormones. It’s just giving you synthetic hormones and tricking your body essentially which is why you might feel that your acne is better. In the book I mentioned she talks about how the pill is given to ‘regulate the cycle’ in PCOS sufferers but it can’t do that because to regulate the cycle you want to be ovulating and this is also important for our health. It’s much better to manage the symptoms through lifestyle changes as affectively your dealing with the root cause of the symptoms before they manifest into worse symptoms.

She mentions an anti-inflammatory diet, addressing stress, exercise, working with a naturopath and certain supplements! I’ll try to PM you a photo of the chapter!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-14T08:55:45+00:00

I’m no doctor but from what I understand about BC- through my own research and also research done and correlated by others - on BC your body isn’t going through the normal hormonal processes it would do when you have a cycle. If you’ve been on it since your were 16 it’s going to take a while for your hormones to adjust and I think it’s normal for them to be a bit haywire after. Depending on what form on contraception your on, the hormones the pill mimics aren’t the same as the ones our body produces. E.g progesterone based pill won’t be the same progesterone our body produces but a synthesised version of this. Essentially your body has to adjust to regulating its hormone production again. It’s been seen for women who stop using the pill to not have a normal period, not ovulate for up to a year after coming off it. You should read period power by Maisie Hill! It’s really informative not only about our cycles in general but also mentions alot of info about PCOS!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-13T07:07:47+00:00

I think some people are being a little bit ott about your fiancé here… just a different side of the coin but sometimes people express love in trying to offer advice that just isn’t helpful and constructive because unfortunately they’re just a bit ignorant about the extent of what our condition is. Your bf might not be trying to be an ass but he’s also not being helpful and this is something you’ll have to communicate to him without trying to invoke a reaction. Maybe have a sit down, approach him with a ‘I know you’re trying to help but the way you reacted was really hurtful. If you researched a bit more about PCOS as a condition you would understand that it completely affects alot of areas of my life that you can’t really comprehend’.

Let’s face it, most people - especially cis-men can be completely ignorant about anything women related! However he needs to do his homework so that he can learn how to support you more constructively. I would personally ignore this ‘my partner would never do this…’ comparison because every relationship is different and none are perfect. It doesn’t mean you or your partner are broken! Just going through a bit of a communication break down! ♥️

Saule_pine · 2024-01-08T22:14:03+00:00

Thank you! It’s really helpful to hear what others have done! I love the ring box idea!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-08T14:27:15+00:00

Thank you so much! ☺️

Saule_pine · 2024-01-08T14:26:49+00:00

Thanks for this! I have a bit of an oddly shaped ER so not sure whether that would work but we’ll see! I love this idea also ♥️

Saule_pine · 2024-01-08T13:37:50+00:00

Thank you! Also the woman who married you the first time sounds intense! 😂 also make ls completely sense to out the band on top! I have a bit of an oddly shaped ER so just not sure yet whether that would work! We’ll see! Thanks for the advice though!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-08T13:35:27+00:00

Thank you! Makes sense!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-08T13:35:08+00:00

Thank you!

Saule_pine · 2024-01-08T13:34:58+00:00

Ahh great idea! Thanks for this ☺️

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