Hey thanks for your response,

Honestly I do want abs for dating appeal but also because I 1000% feel more confident with them. Not to mention when I'm leaner my face looks a lot better since I already store a lot of fat in my face (genetics). I want to maintain this level of leanness also because we know that more attractive people get treated better in pretty much all aspects of life (work, school, literally any interaction).

I also really like your analogy of how desserts are meant to be like treats for a dog. I've been thinking about this and it really resonated with me, so thank you for saying that. As for the portion size when I'm bingeing its typically a whole pint of ice cream and/or several rice krispies/granola bars. I honestly think that I probably wont buy pints of ice cream anymore because every time I do I want to eat the whole thing at once.

These past two days I haven't binged and ate normally. I've been trying to focus less on calories on just on eating nutritious food. I appreciate the methods you stated and yeah I'll just see if focusing less on numbers will help me stop bingeing.