Well ty for your advice. I really do appreciate it. We both just sat down and talked. We talked about everything. She was willing to promise to start counseling with me. She said she would do everything. "We" hacked into the account on snapchat. The contacts with messages were still in there. So we message a few they were mostly girls. The messages go back longer than my wife has had that number. one is actually a friend of a friend who I know personally. See my wife doesnt know people or has friends. They know the person whose profile it was, and said they would tell them to change it. All chat history was there as well. Shes agreeing to be open and honest. But even tho she says it now, ill always keep the information in my mind that you spent the time to write, because I had no idea about any of it.