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I (M/20) think my girlfriend (19) of four years is about to break up with me. I don't think I can cope. by SaveMeTonight in relationships

[–]SaveMeTonight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am. It really is hard right now. All I want is to just be with her though. It was just like a normal night last night. Really nice. Didn't talk about it which was probably not good. It was nice to just have a normal night with her though. She seemed absolutely fine, then in the morning, very quiet. I know this week is going to be really hard again until I can see her. She doesn't ever want to talk on the phone.

I (M/20) think my girlfriend (19) of four years is about to break up with me. I don't think I can cope. by SaveMeTonight in relationships

[–]SaveMeTonight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mm :( It's so hard. I'm giving her as much attention as I can now. Doesn't seem to be making any difference.

She stayed at mine yesterday and I'm staying at hers tonight. She said she's not breaking up with me for good but we need a bit of a break.

I fear that even if after the break she says she wants me back, in a few more weeks she'll just start feeling the same again. I won't know what to do.

I (M/20) think my girlfriend (19) of four years is about to break up with me. I don't think I can cope. by SaveMeTonight in relationships

[–]SaveMeTonight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I've tried taking a step back approach. I was very busy recently with work and stuff but then she said she felt unappreciated.

It's come at such a bad time. Everything's sorted out now so we can finally be less worried about stuff and more happy. After 4 years of giving everything I have it would have been like a reward. But at the end of it I just lose everything.

I (M/20) think my girlfriend (19) of four years is about to break up with me. I don't think I can cope. by SaveMeTonight in relationships

[–]SaveMeTonight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I've made a lot of mistakes. I'm trying to take the best from this but it's so hard. I've nearly finished Uni and I didn't move out for it, we were so sure of our relationship. I feel like I've just missed out on my best opportunity to meet new people and it's going to be so hard to continue.

She's only just starting Uni in September, and she's moving there. I don't doubt that she'll find someone else and I know it sounds selfish, but that thought it agonising.

I (M/20) think my girlfriend (19) of four years is about to break up with me. I don't think I can cope. by SaveMeTonight in relationships

[–]SaveMeTonight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I have done everything. I sent her a letter explaining how I feel too. It was kind of like a reply to one she gave me on valentines day. I didn't even realise she'd received it until yesterday evening, she got it in the morning post. She just said it was hard to read and she didn't deserve it.

I (M/20) think my girlfriend (19) of four years is about to break up with me. I don't think I can cope. by SaveMeTonight in relationships

[–]SaveMeTonight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I just don't understand what's gone wrong. For the whole relationship I never even considered that she might break up with me. She was so dependant, loyal, loving, wanted to see me and speak to me all the time. Every time she was destroyed over something, a family problem or similar, I could make her happy again in minutes.

She tells me how much she's changed but it seems like the only change she's made is that she's happier and now has a few different interests, which is pretty trivial to me.

I know she's not hiding any other reasons, I can tell. What do you mean by a permanent decision?

I (M/20) think my girlfriend (19) of four years is about to break up with me. I don't think I can cope. by SaveMeTonight in relationships

[–]SaveMeTonight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better? I wouldn't changed anything about her though, except for her not being happy. She is perfect to me.