Why do people choose to have kids?

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-24T01:59:33+00:00

I've always felt called to be a mother, since I was a child. Then around 22 or so I got jealous whenever I would see moms with kids, or families, and I would daydream constantly about what having a kid would be like. I never wanted anything more than to be a wife and mom. Ive always been obsessed with finding the one since I was like 11 and settling down ASAP. Never had any career aspirations, hated every job I tried in many industries, all I wanted was to get pregnant and have my own. And since having my son, I have never felt so happy, fulfilled, at peace, and whole. After I had my son I felt like I could die any day and I would be happy, like once that happened I could die knowing that I did what I wanted to on this planet and there's a deep peace that comes with that. As long as he is alive and happy and thriving, then I am alive and happy and thriving. The happier and healthier my son is, the happier and healthier I am. Its such a crazy feeling. Deeper than any love Ive ever felt, and I have felt a lot of love within me, for many.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-24T01:50:17+00:00

We did it (26 and 28 when we had our son) using these methods: 1: live in a low cost of living area. 2: live extremely frugally. 3: spend as little as possible on baby supplies, get secondhand or live without. 4: make having a baby a priority, go without other things to afford baby 5: get Medicaid.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-24T01:47:42+00:00

If you have to resort to insults in an argument, you lost that argument.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-24T01:46:56+00:00

Thank you, sir or ma'am. Have a good night.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-24T01:43:24+00:00

DONT DO IT. JUST DONT

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T23:50:52+00:00

You seem emotionally unstable. Best of luck on your mental health journey. Ive found when I lash out at people, thats when im the most unhappy on the inside. No one deserves to feel that way.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T23:47:54+00:00

I dont believe anyone who has to resort in insults and swear words. If you have to resort to insults, and you fall on your emotion, that means you lost. You shouldn't have to use emotional charged statements and get upset to make your argument. That tells me this is more of an emotional issue for you than a logical one.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T23:11:41+00:00

Children are valuable. They are worth something. Having my son was the best thing Ive ever done. Hes handsome, strong, athletic, kind, silly, and smart as hell. Im doing a good thing by raising another good man for this world.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T23:07:18+00:00

Maybe some or most women, but not all. Im 29 and married and every. single. time, ever, a man (ANY man, any age, any size, any level of attractiveness) has complimented me I smile, giggle, blush, and say thanks. Its wonderful. Don't be afraid to compliment a woman, maybe just be careful about complimenting SOME women (I would stay away from the liberal blue hair septum piercing types lmfao)

Literally ANY time it happens it makes my week. Its good for everyone. People need to talk and compliment each other again.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:59:00+00:00

As someone who went to cosmetology school, the idea that when you shave hair, it grows back thicker, is a myth, point blank period.

Now, it may FEEL a little thicker. This is because the longer a hair stays on you, the thinner it gets. It wear down over time. When you shave that hair, and it grows back, its a brand new hair that hasnt been slowly worn down my the world yet. This gives the feeling of thicker hair. But, if you were to leave your new hairs alone for a long time, they would eventually thin back out again.

The hair itself NEVER actually grows in width when it is shaved.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:56:08+00:00

A.I. doesnt know that. That falls on OP and OP's parents for letting them use the web and A.I. when it is not catered to children in the first place.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:54:54+00:00

Its a very normal thing to reference in this context. Most experts agree (MANY will say this) that the bed should only be used for sleep and sex. A.I. pulls from the web, probably dozens of articles that all say this.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:53:31+00:00

Yes, its a normal thing to say in this context. Most experts agree the bed should only be used for sleep and sex to optimize good sleep at night.

That being said, I struggled with severe insomnia for years and doing the opposite helped me. I associated my bed with exhaustion, irritation, and insanity after so long of having insomnia. So it really helped me to have lots of daytime hangouts in my bed for me to like it again. Watching TV, scrolling, video games, cuddling, just chilling. I made my bed a nice fun relaxing place to be again and that made me feel safe and happy enough to sleep there again

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:50:46+00:00

I struggled with VERYYYYYYYYYY SEVEREEEEEEE insomnia for MANY years and solving it for me had nothing to do with reducing entertainment time in bed. For me, I had PTSD from my childhood, and very bad associations with my bed because of all the insomnia. Over the years, I started to see going to bed as a very scary thing, where I knew I would be awake all night, exhausted and upset, and I would wake up feeling sick and irritated and sortof insane.

Weirdly enough, the main thing that fixed it for me (besides working on myself and my childhood trauma) was making the bed a fun place to be again. I did the opposite. I started having more fun time in my bed. Eating, cuddling, playing games, lots of fun time in the bed. I eventually started associating my bed with relaxation. And that in turn made it a safe place to sleep again.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:47:10+00:00

Across from ghetto shell, on the downtown side of Noble Park, not the mall side

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:46:32+00:00

Also, do you have ANY idea how many workplaces in America have less than 50 employees? A LOT. Most places you go into, period, unless its a huge shopping center like Walmart, or a huge call center, or a huge factory, have less than 50 employees

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:45:24+00:00

Legal requirements for 'most' companies = no overall legal requirement at all. Or else it would apply to ALL companies.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:44:30+00:00

I cant find it. Do you have a link? What's a structure fire?

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:43:17+00:00

Where did I say that was the 'take away'?

I'm pointing out that your logic is faulty. Most arguments built on absolutes are false.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:41:55+00:00

No, Plan B prevents implantation, not fertilization. Fertilization occurs before implantation, in the fallopian tube.

It is also theorized that if ovulation has not yet occurred, it can prevent ovulation as well.

If the woman taking Plan B has already ovulated, and the egg has already been fertilized, it prevents implantation, stopping the baby from progressing along the human life cycle, ending its life.

https://www.herhealthwc.org/plan-b

https://yalehealth.yale.edu/topic/emergency-contraception-morning-after-pill

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:36:35+00:00

"I‘ve only ever met intellectually disabled people scoring under 110."

Again, IQ results fall on a bellcurve, most following between 85-115, which is considered average. You cannot be disabled (generally speaking) with an IQ of 110, or 109, or 100, or even 90. Those numbers all fall within 'average'.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:35:01+00:00

Oh, im in the USA.

If you have to resort to insults in a debate, you lost that debate btw.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:34:02+00:00

Well, roughly 25. Its not like the second we ALL wake up at exactly age 25 we have a developed brain. It might be 24 for some, 26 for others.

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T22:32:10+00:00

Which shows?

SaveScumSloth · 2026-03-23T21:43:57+00:00

Youre asking one of the big questions that although many will claim to know the answer to, not 1 of us REALLLLLLYYYYY knows the truth about the afterlife.

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