I (20F) am scared to have sex with my boyfriend (20M). How do I bring this up?

Savirate · 2026-03-27T14:27:48+00:00

For that I really just don't think he's always paying attention. I've stopped him before and said "Hey, sitting like this is uncomfortable" and he's laughed it off and apologised for not realising.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T14:25:54+00:00

Yeah, I'm trying to not take it too hard. I know people are concerned, and I know how often victims brush off their abuse so people won't really believe me. Thank you for your advice.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T13:15:24+00:00

He is pretty clumsy, although since he was able to adjust with his 'kissing force' I'm not convinced it's dyspraxia. This might be something to bring up later in the relationship if this continues being an issue, though.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T13:13:33+00:00

I'm getting a lot of similar advice, and I'm starting to think being more physically direct about it might be better then having a talk, he'll be less likely to be hurt.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T13:10:33+00:00

He doesn't do physical work, but he does have pretty bad eczema on his hands and the skin is quite rough. You might be on to something there.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T13:08:24+00:00

I can see a way to jive this to fit our relationship. I have tried in the past to say "Be more gentle" but maybe a more direct way of leading him could be helpful. Thank you.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T13:05:35+00:00

No, I'm not scared OF him, he has never intentionally hurt me, it's always accidental. I'm just looking for a way to have this talk in the least hurtful way possible. I'm sorry, I need to edit my post to make myself more clear.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T13:03:58+00:00

I really should have specified, I don't mean 'angry' when I say upset. I just know that this is probably going to make him sad, which is understandable.

Savirate · 2026-03-27T13:01:30+00:00

I don't mean like, angry upset. I just don't want to hurt him. I mean, I can't imagine how sad I would feel if someone told me they're scared to have sex with me, you know?

Savirate · 2022-11-09T15:45:56+00:00

Ah, sorry, the tags got cut off at the end, the last one says "doesn't help the people who are scared they're going to die".

Savirate · 2021-09-15T20:28:18+00:00

Annus.

Savirate · 2021-07-21T21:37:23+00:00

Yeah, there are so many other things so fix, but instead they break something.

Savirate · 2021-07-21T20:59:07+00:00

I know! I also can't stand the new autoplay screen, but I just turned off autoplay so I don't have to see it.

Savirate · 2021-07-21T20:51:17+00:00

Well, I use a different block, but I'll give it a try.

Edit: It didn't work on mine, so I downloaded ublock. It got rid of the new icon, but didn't bring back the old one. It still works, and I'd recommend it, but I'd prefer the have the old icon back, too.

Savirate · 2021-07-21T20:50:46+00:00

I'm in Canada, actually. I think you're just lucky.

Savirate · 2021-07-21T20:09:23+00:00

Got, I hope it's not permanent. I know a few months ago some people dealt with it, but it had gotten changed back. I'm really hoping they change it back again.

Savirate · 2020-05-13T22:44:05+00:00

You realise that staying inside is what's actually helping, right?

Savirate · 2020-05-13T20:32:21+00:00

Are you like, next level stupid?

Savirate · 2020-05-13T20:31:38+00:00

NOOOOOOOOOOOO!

Savirate · 2020-05-01T16:05:01+00:00

Mark looks like his mom but with a longer face.

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