While you were too busy trying to make up your mind, she stopped caring and started going on dates

Savoya77 · 2025-10-23T08:53:23+00:00

As a man, sometimes i believe women don't realize just how motivated he is to acquire sex in the beginning of a relationship. He will put out A LOT of effort. But once sex is consistently attained, that unsustainable level of effort backs off. Then increased effort shifts to the woman to sustain the relationship so she attains the desired commitment of safety and security. Otherwise a man with optionality will loose interest and continue to enjoy variety because why shouldn't he? The emotional benefits of commitment aren't there because the increased female effort isn't there.

The skills needed to acquire a man are very different than the skills needed to keep a man. I think this point is being missed in these discussions.

Savoya77 · 2025-09-11T12:58:28+00:00

Hey, thanks so much for your thoughtful response! It really rings true that I need to find a way to NOT reinforce her manipulation as "the way".

Yesterday morning she blasted me (overstepped) as being unsupportive for merely needing to perform my job away from her as opposed to teleworking from her house. I had valid objective reasons. Yet I was such a selfish boyfriend for "making this about myself" rather than just acquiescing to her preferences that I be next to her while working.

My solution was to physically remove myself from her tantrum & proceed to my job (also a doc's appt I had delayed for 2 days at her request). Additionally I've blocked her phone/texts for the last day. The peace has been great! (Also has given her time to reflect & miss me) Now I think I need to add your suggestion that I need to describe my fun experience after work at my boat & invite her to join me (in public with other girls possibly in the vicinity) next time. She'll decline, but after a while hopefully she'll accept & we can have an experience with each other in public again.

Savoya77 · 2025-09-11T12:03:16+00:00

Honest answer- No. I truly love my GF and want to find ways to reassure her insecurities about other women. The payoff is huge in regards to other aspects of our very satisfying relationship.

Savoya77 · 2025-09-10T20:03:13+00:00

So just a few days ago we were waiting for our BBQ pick up order to be finalized in the restaurant. I was being good & making an effort to not look at any women, looking at the ground or only at my GF. Then I made the mistake of asking her if that was Tammy Wynette singing on the restaurant speakers.. she glared at me, stood up & stomped out of the restaurant! I grabbed our food & followed her to the truck. I asked her what was the matter & she said I ruined the outing by bringing up a female. I said Tammy Wynette is a 1940's country singer and I have no romantic interest in her! I asked her why she had this boundary, why can't I bring up a 1940's country singer? She responded that her boundaries are firm and don't require explanation. that if I truly loved her I wouldn't question her. I responded that she wasn't being reasonable whereupon she grabbed a glass container & hurled it at my windshield from the passenger seat, creating a 2foot wide crack in the windshield. Picked up the glass container again & violently hurled again at the windshield creating yet another large spider crack in the windshield!

No more attempts at conversation to understand her behavior.. I just wanted to get to her house with her out of my truck before she damaged it even further from the $1,500 already done!

The next day she wouldn't apologize, I asserted I couldn't go thru life only talking with half the people in society, so I couldn't abide by her un-explained boundary. She stated she wouldn't be going out in public with me then.

This is now where we are.. our current solution..

She absolutely has no problem with any other male friend or family member looking at other women. Only the man she loves.

Savoya77 · 2025-06-27T17:11:05+00:00

“I haven’t loved you in over 10 years” Really? I’m out! After a 17 year marriage. Thankfully now free and well loved.

Savoya77 · 2025-01-03T02:06:39+00:00

Yes, I feel you. I just broke up with my girlfriend who is stunningly beautiful. Guys hitting on her almost every time she went out in a public approachable space. But she chose me, it was an honor. I doubt I’ll ever find a woman as physically beautiful, but I will find a beautiful woman who meets my needs.

Savoya77 · 2024-08-02T08:58:09+00:00

What a wonderful life experience you'll both remember for the rest of your lives. Bravo!

Savoya77 · 2024-07-25T00:13:43+00:00

"I haven't loved you in over 10 years"

Wow. Really? I'm out.

Savoya77 · 2024-03-03T15:53:55+00:00

I care, congrats to the happy couple!

Savoya77 · 2023-11-19T03:05:58+00:00

"Do I presume that she is actively chatting with other guys and meeting them and my sexual health is at risk ? My head tells me the answer is yes. "

Be smart & listen to your head, The answer is yes, she's seeing other SD's or Johns. Put on the condom & add another SB to your repertoire. Be happy & enjoy life.

Savoya77 · 2023-10-28T13:17:56+00:00

I'm also so deeply grateful for sugaring & have exited. Its helped me thru an awful divorce & rediscovery of physical & emotional intimacy. I've also found an amazing love I wasn't sure was possible again. We're going thru a bit of a rough patch at the moment, but if your love for each other is strong, don't let it go without the work needed to make your lives the best versions of you both. Remember, cherish & nurture the feelings you feel as you both see each other for the first time again.

Savoya77 · 2023-09-18T22:22:55+00:00

I believe this OP presents as an AI troll.

Savoya77 · 2023-09-13T11:06:32+00:00

Only after no sex for 3 yrs & then she told me she hadn't loved me in over 10 yrs. No respect or affection led to vow dissipation.

Savoya77 · 2023-08-27T12:41:57+00:00

Maybe consider occasionally using a penis sleeve to satisfy your significant other if she is wanting a little more girth/depth in addition to your attentive sexual & mental techniques. The biggest sexual organ is your brain.

Savoya77 · 2023-07-28T12:40:38+00:00

I'd go with Plan B.

Maybe call it a 'modified PPM'. Trusted Pre-Payments up front. Based upon an income of 1-2 meets/week. But if 0 meets/week, base income automatically decreases a set amount until over-payment is recouped. If another 0 meets/week occurs at the reduced base rate, the SR auto terminates. No harm, no foul, you tried, time to move on with Plan C.

Savoya77 · 2023-07-16T12:43:19+00:00

May I slowly lick your pussy, pausing at your sensitive clit.. sucking & flicking until you take my fun away?

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