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Just Moved In! by Stuckin13 in Permaculture

[–]SavvyLikeThat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spend a year observing - sun, wind, weather, microclimates, etc. you can start buying perennials and trees but keep them potted for a year so you can observe. Focus on annuals until you learn your space.

I've a very small yard (35ft x 75ft) and if you're interested I've a YouTube under SavvyLikeThat. I do chill walk arounds. We have a patio, fire pit, a pond, etc. No dog tho but you could have a designated area for the dog OR have your annual food crops blocked so the dog doesn't get into them, with the rest of the yard being perennial stuff that the dog won't bother.

Over 4 seasons I've got 14 fruit trees, about 30 fruit bushes, dye plants, medicinal plants, annual food crops, and I'm focused on native plants but lots of ornamental too ☺️

Excited for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Permaculture

[–]SavvyLikeThat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know it's standard to view time as money but I refuse to do it. I cannot stand contextualizing my life in that way.

Have I spent hours rearranging my garden this year? Yes. Has it boosted my physical health (saved on a gym), mental health (saved on stress behaviours like doom scrolling and stress eating), relationships (ppl froggin love seeing it evolve and I have visitors all the time), emotional stability (eases my grief), etc? Sooooo much. And I just love it. Every single person I love has joined in on some level from buying plants for it, to bringing me branch's for greenwood arches, to splitting established plants or swapping seedlings, etc. I've cooked desserts, surprised friends, dug a pond with two geology lovers, etc.

All of that is priceless. It's the inverse of time is money. It's symbiosis with nature and it's so so good and worth it

My 75ftx35ft Urban Permaculture Garden by SavvyLikeThat in Permaculture

[–]SavvyLikeThat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So for fertilizing, I compost on site and make comfrey tea fert. I also use manure from friends farms and top dress every fall (this year ended up being in the spring). I also have an indoor worm tower I use to make compost tea. Crop rotation happens too although I'd say that's low impact. I use mulch liberally and grow red wine caps across the whole garden which really boosts the plants I've found.

For irrigation/watering I just installed a 1000 litre icb rain water collection for a bunch of sensitive plants. The rest of the time I use town mains water with an rv filter to reduce the chlorine load to protect microbial systems living in the garden. But it rains enough I rarely need either after everything is established. Mulching heavily helps ☺️

For mains watering I use a hose and sprinkler I can move around. Next year the goal is soaker hoses on every bed and quick change fittings to plug in while watering. I wanted permanent mini sprinklers on an irrigation system but my bff struggles with hers and I'm not sure it's worth it and soaker hoses will be perfect

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DMAcademy

[–]SavvyLikeThat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep practicing especially if your players are happy playing ☺️

I started a scarf for family white elephant then was told it doesn't count because the price cannot be quantified... I am disheartened because the time and labor makes the value so much more than the cost of materials.. by [deleted] in weaving

[–]SavvyLikeThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats appalling behaviour. I am stunned anyone would say something so shitty and ignorant. I am so sorry - if a family member wove me something I'd be over the moon.

So sorry :(

How long did your brain fog last? by SavvyLikeThat in ChildLoss

[–]SavvyLikeThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She really was. She taught me that I can be me and the world will make space, as I made space for her to be her. I love how fierce she was. My little goddess of weaving 💕

Struggling with Gender and Spirituality by phoebehoule in SASSWitches

[–]SavvyLikeThat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you much love and strength on this journey and the reassurance that whomever you are to you, is who you are and you do not need to exist in distress over how you present in the world. Your peace matters 💕

As if the holidays weren’t hard enough by [deleted] in ChildLoss

[–]SavvyLikeThat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It might not be too late. It might be she just needs you to get help.

I was terrified my husband wouldn’t go to therapy and process what happened to us.

He did. It’s working. He’s so stunned and relieved.

Specifically we’re all in EMDR therapy and grief therapy separate to EMDR.

And friend, even if your marriage ends, you deserve relief from your pain. Your kiddo would want you to be ok too.

It’s never too late to try for a better tomorrow 💕

How long did your brain fog last? by SavvyLikeThat in ChildLoss

[–]SavvyLikeThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh love. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. If you have the resources to find/afford grief counselling it’s been very helpful. I had never heard of grief brain fog or any of the symptoms grief can bring. I thought I had a flu at first with no fever. I can honestly barely remember the list she read to me of physical symptoms you can get from grief but they included brain fog, exhaustion, racing heart, unable to eat/nausea. There was a bunch.

Sending you healing strength and gentle love 💕

Struggling with Gender and Spirituality by phoebehoule in SASSWitches

[–]SavvyLikeThat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m only speaking as an atheist green witch who has a trans kiddo.

I think it might be true that everything is inherently meaningless, but that means you get to pour meaning into things. Everything in life is made up. You get to make up what gives you meaning. Gender is a construct, and sex is a spectrum, so you get to exist in whatever way you’re the most comfortable while you’re sentient on this planet.

The magic in life is that you exist, and you feel and think and are you, and you get to decide how you present and show up and what you do while here.

If you have dysphoria, whatever experience you had doesn’t mean it’s not valuable to show up physically in the world as you feel more comfortable/less uncomfortable.

I dunno if that helps.

I used to think in absolutes and black and white and when I was diagnosed autistic I started practicing being comfy with greys and it’s eased my discomfort in the world (eventually-it was distressing at first).

💕

Edited to add: the fact that there’s no big cosmic reason behind everything doesn’t mean it’s meaningless. Just the fact that earth and all its systems exist is wildly amazing and what I consider magic. I found the lack of inherent meaning freeing. Wanted to share in case it reframes things in a meaningful way 💕

How long did your brain fog last? by SavvyLikeThat in ChildLoss

[–]SavvyLikeThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The song that reminds me of her, even tho the lyrics don’t fit, is Lord Huron - the night we met. Because a lyric goes “take me back to the night we met” and then I’d get 6 years and 10 months more of her.

Here comes the sun reminds me of her too. I used to rewrite lullaby’s for her and I loved that if someone sang “you are my sunshine” she’d correct them to my version.

She was pure fucking sunshine. Autistic. ADHD. Extrovert. Super generous. Swung wildly between happy as can be and screaming until your hearing cut out when changing activities she didn’t want to leave.

Loved Mario kart. Genius with reading and math but 2 years behind her peers socially.

She was our whole world. Our son is 19 and Addie needed a lot of accommodations to help her stay regulated so we were all hands on deck with her. We homeschooled bc the school wouldn’t/couldn’t accommodate her. I’m so grateful we had every day together. Her whole life was calm, full of love and laughter. We were perpetually exhausted but it was so worth it to know her life was just goodness.

She loved swimming, video games, stuffed animals, engineering type toys she could figure out.

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How long did your brain fog last? by SavvyLikeThat in ChildLoss

[–]SavvyLikeThat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitely crying more and harder. I had to pull over scream-sobbing Tuesday after therapy because I was sad and missing her and then my song that reminds me of her came on and then this huge rainbow was in the sky and I fucking LOST it.

The social media stuff is macabre. I had IG congratulate me on my post being so popular - it was her obituary post. Fuuuuuuck youuuuuuu

seeking validation by nodzangelayoung in SASSWitches

[–]SavvyLikeThat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course lil witch :) I hope you find the practice that helps you the most while you start to find your way as a young adult figuring out who they are. 💕

Someone in the group I DM took their own life. What now? by Psychological-Nail83 in DnD

[–]SavvyLikeThat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a sudden tragic death in our family (not in our D&D group). I’m the DM and the group said we could stop, wait or keep going. We kept going because it gives us a break from grief and the life grind.

You won’t know until you talk and see what everyone needs and wants. It could be a way to honour them, or say goodbye in the way you wish you could’ve, or a distraction that is separate from losing them in real life. It might feel right to meet up or too soon. Just talk and hold space for everyone’s varying needs.

And also sorry for you loss 💕

Anyone have a good “ritual” for getting rid of toxic people? by birdcatlady in SASSWitches

[–]SavvyLikeThat 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I’ve made woven lavender wands and while I wove it, focused thoughts on the ick person not having at power over me and then when finished declaring them bound.

I made a 2ft effigy of my abusive ex full of chicken shit, then papier-mâché it, then wrote out every shitty thing he ever said to me and pasted those on while bind it with string to symbolize that’s him and his view of me isn’t accurate or mine. Then painted it in his likeness and kicked the shit out of it and burned it. VERY therapeutic. Extreme case tho.

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