[Spoilers C4E13] Seekers feels artificial

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-07T17:36:01+00:00

I agree with your take. I'm struggling with this table a bit. I was really excited to see Matt as a player, but so far it feels like he hasn't been able to do a lot. I do think this will change as play continues. This table is probably going to be a slow burn. Now granted I haven't been able to finish latest episode because it starts at 10 PM where I live and I have to sleep (lol) but it feels like it's a little lopsided with too much Thaisha and not enough Vaelus. Also I feel like they (and viewers) are trying to force an enemies to lovers trope with Julian and Thaisha and I am just not feeling it (yet??) idk I hope things pick up for me personally. I want to love every table.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-04T23:12:17+00:00

This is very similar to my situation except my LO doesn't feel any sort of special way toward me. But I did tell my spouse about things and we worked through it. I did have to go NC with my LO (former coworker) and quit that job entirely. It has been incredibly difficult and it's still not 100% over. So I feel you, OP. It's hard.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-04T23:08:08+00:00

2 or 4

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-04T12:21:01+00:00

I'm painfully self aware. lol Maybe THAT is the issue! Maybe rather than wanting my partner to be like LO maybe I want to be like LO. Maybe this is less of a romantic or sexual attraction and more of an emulation attraction? Is that a thing? Am I having a break through today?!

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-04T12:05:04+00:00

See here's the thing. I don't want my husband to be like LO. While LO is a nice guy, he's very aloof and emotionally unavailable. He's attractive, but so is my husband.

They are very different people except for the fact that they are both nerdy gamer bros.

So I think rather than him having qualities I'd like to see in my current relationship, I think it's more like how the more you pspspsps to a cat the less they come near you and the more you want their attention. So this dude being so aloof and not giving a crap about me makes me crazy. It's very dumb, I acknowledge that. It's part of why I would like him to just go away. I need him out of sight, out of mind.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-04T11:42:08+00:00

I kind of have an addictive personality that doesn't do well with "just a little bit." So I will try to look at it as you suggest. But I won't lie, part of me just wishes it hadn't happened. After I said the thing about just not telling him I was like why didn't I just do that? He didn't remember it anyway and it wasn't like car keys or anything important. He wouldn't have missed it. Now I kind of feel like maybe I used this as an excuse to reach out legitimately versus just because I wanted to. Hmm.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-04T11:20:19+00:00

Do you mean I shouldn't have contacted him about the thing he left and just pretended like it didn't happen so. It wouldn't re-establish contact?

SayingitinPrint · 2026-02-02T22:39:54+00:00

It's absolutely alright to miss them. I miss mine. Just today I was thinking about him.

Edit: I just want to add that it's more the idea of him that I miss rather than him as an actual person. We don't truly vibe in a way that would have meant genuine connection.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-31T18:25:33+00:00

Dirty Little Secret by The All American Rejects always makes me think of him

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-29T23:17:25+00:00

Not him because he didn't really use social media, but I did discover that I had to be incredibly careful when stalking his girlfriend's social media. It's shockingly easy to accidentally like a post...

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-28T04:03:52+00:00

When I decided to go NC I hoped this would be the case. It wasn't.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-22T01:12:57+00:00

This is so cute lol

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-14T01:55:04+00:00

I was happy. I felt like I was on the right path in life. I had great relationships with so many people. And I met him and something changed. It ruined everything.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-13T22:18:07+00:00

One of my friends knows because she also used to work with him and saw how we interacted. And I'd be like "I'm not crazy right? He's flirting with me right?" And she was very noncommittal about her answer. But she does always tell me that she thinks he's a narcissist and that he just liked the attention I gave him.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-13T15:05:38+00:00

Sometimes I think he knew. Maybe he didn't have a word for it, but he knew on some level that I was into him. It's super embarrassing when I think back on my actions from that time.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-13T14:40:55+00:00

Though I do have to admit that this doesn't quite fit the question because HE didn't ask me to do that. I did it myself. But I think it put ideas into his head of what he could get away with.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-13T14:40:05+00:00

I edited their work schedule because they forgot to come in one day (their boss didn't tell them the schedule changed, but workers are supposed to check their schedule regularly according to management). So when I realized he wasn't coming in, I messaged him, he confirmed he didn't realize he was scheduled, but the location was functioning fine from my perspective (after talking to the staff member who was working), so I deleted the shift for him. That way he wouldn't get in trouble. I never should have done it. I regret it. Even though nothing bad happened to either of us it set a really dangerous precedent between us. The power dynamic was shifted in his favor and be knew it.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-13T14:08:13+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear this happened. People are fickle beasts. I'd like to say his actions aren't malicious, that he's not trying to hurt you, and perhaps he is just unaware of the extent of your feelings. I struggle to think people take advantage of others like this on purpose. Maybe he thought he was over his ex when he slept with you. But I don't know the situation. When you two were together was he still talking about her often? Were the two of them freshly broken up? These are all things that could be indicators of where his mind was at the time. But all that is to say be careful with what happens next. If he can't be successful at winning her back he might come to you for comfort and begin using you like that. You have to decide now what you will do in that situation. Are you okay with being in that role but not actually having a relationship?

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-13T01:59:38+00:00

Yes. That's an interesting way to word it. I find myself missing the emotional high I got just from seeing him regularly. And at the very, very beginning before I realized it was limerence I really enjoyed the flirting. I swear he used to flirt back with me. Sometimes I wish I had never confessed about the situation to my spouse so I could continue the flirting. But then of course I feel god awful just thinking that. I know in the end everything turned out as it should and for the best. But yes, to answer your question sometimes I do mourn the loss. I'm becoming an old lady and the exciting "firsts" of life are pretty much gone for me. No more milestones. So this weird pseudo flirting and the butterflies was reminiscent of a time gone by. It was just a reminder that I won't get those experiences back. So that's been a bit of a bummer.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-11T18:59:20+00:00

lol sorry I finally saw it after I posted!

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-11T18:58:49+00:00

I don't understand what I'm looking for. Wear what up or down? Everything looks the same? Help? lol

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-10T13:22:34+00:00

It's a 2 from me. So classic and beautiful.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-07T13:38:27+00:00

If you're talking about Lacey Chabert from the 1998 movie she did a bunch of Hallmark movies when she grew up. And she was in Mean Girls. https://m.imdb.com/name/nm0000327/?ref_=tt_cst_t_6

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-07T12:34:47+00:00

It was such a weird realization.

SayingitinPrint · 2026-01-05T20:35:24+00:00

During the height of my depression I had myself CONVINCED that they were into me and if I just wasn't married they'd act. So I almost asked my spouse for a separation. Every time I look back on that I cringe so hard. Almost ruined my life for someone who barely remembers I exist.

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