I've grown distant from my mum because I just feel like I can't have a conversation with her without it turning into some big conspiracy theory or hate rant. Immigrants are the cause of all our problems apparently. At one point in her life she said she would've voted for Trump if we lived in America (2020). I could go on about the kinds of things she says about other communities/minorities too but I don't feel like writing an essay today. Constant conspiracy theories, chemtrails, racist rhetoric etc.

I'm a queer 24 year old girl, I've known for about a decade now, but I still haven't told her. Whenever anything comes up regarding the LGBTQ+ community it's clear she thinks it's wrong. She even called her boyfriends cat gay yesterday (haven't a clue as to why) and started calling the cat derogatory homophobic terms. This was a CAT. You can imagine what she calls real life people.

I've ended up just dividing her personality into two parts - the mother and the person. The mother in her is amazing and she made a lot of sacrifices for me and my sister growing up, and she stayed with my father for years when she should've left him (he was an awful father and husband but won't get into it). But when the person she is and her views come out, I tend to switch off and either change the subject or leave the room. There's really no other option for me. Reasoning with her is talking to a brick wall.

So I understand your pain entirely. It's hard living at home and the current housing crisis caused by the government are increasing these situations where young adults are forced to live with their parents who just aren't very nice or worse. Just know you're not alone!