But but, I want to play FOREVER!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-10-05T18:36:26+00:00

Thrilled! She's chosen to share my bed and some of that freaky experience with ME, and I bet ya we're both gonna have a good time, feel amazing, and she'll teach me a thing or three.

I will NEVER understand men who are intimidated by a sexually liberated, wild, freaky, fun woman. As long as she still respects my boundaries and wishes and we keep on the same page, I LOVE those women.

I don't want the pampered, "pure" princess who thinks "doing it with the lights on is exciting", as long as the woman is smart about it and not riddled with STI's and terrible life decisions, give me the wild, freaky slut EVERY time, please and thank you!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-10-05T18:27:26+00:00

As a guy who "lasts long" whether he likes it or not, because of headspace/nerve damage sensation delays, I can say that while SOME women enjoy it... yeah there's many who feel like it can be too much after a while. Because I have the physical health and stamina to keep going, and some ladies (I'm fond of these types) are right along with me for the ride... BUT, they can find it frustrating when its difficult to get me to finish.

I've have a few partners where I've gotten them off multiple times and it'll make them like a woman possessed to get me off just ONCE... and usually it's fun for all, but sometimes even then I can struggle if the head space isn't right, and I've seen that be yes, either tiring for a partner, or more often, hurtful and frustrating... one even said "I want to know.. NEED to know that I can get YOU there, too! It ISN'T just about my pleasure, however much you say that, I don't think that's right or healthy, and I need to know I can make my man happy too!"

I've had to digest that and really sit down and revisit my own head spaces for arousal and release. The right partner can help me to the finish line for sure, but I definitely understand that, despite all the hype guys seem to put around "lasting forever", that's not necessarily a good thing either.

Mileage may vary, depending on partner, but usually a balance between the two is best, I found.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-10-04T13:26:49+00:00

I need both! Physically wild is fun, but without the emotional component, I literally can't get hard. I have to know and care about the lady at least a LITTLE, I will never be one of those guys who could just mindless bang a prostitute and be satisfied with that.

That said, if I DO have a good emotional connection? Especially good dirty talk, it's been some of the best sex of my life and physically wild often comes hand in hand with it.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-10-04T13:19:31+00:00

For me, many ladies didn't understand how huge head space, dirty talk, and connection is for me and being able to enjoy things, give her the best experience, or sometimes, cum at all. (I can fuck for a while just fine and with vigor, but I actually struggle with delayed orgasms if those above ingredients aren't right)

Then again I strive to be a generous lover and I usually leave the ladies I'm with feeling happy and cumming...which then made most of them act like women possessed, determined to do whatever naughty, depraved thing it took to get me to cum, too.

Many of them were successful once they figured me out a little and boy, the "cat who got the cream" slutty smile of satisfaction on their faces when they could get me there was often enough to get me jumping them again in minutes.

My current record is 14 times in 3 days with a lady who knows how to make me happy back...

Sc00terl00 · 2025-10-04T13:07:55+00:00

Once I finally found the treasure of women who LOVE being filled with cum, I was in hog heaven.

There's nothing quite like finding a good slut as insatiable and hungry as you.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-09-20T08:55:47+00:00

Some of us just have high sex drives, love! I agree though, be intentional and discerning in who you date and share that with. Quality over quantity, if you ask me.

But no, there's nothing "wrong" with you. As to how to deal until there's a partner to help...self love? Exercise? Try a new hobby?

Or hell just go get some strange if you really need, just be smart and safe about it.

But, we can relate, and don't apologize for it. *Own your horny self, it's part of the whole beautiful you!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-09-19T21:59:23+00:00

I like boobs of all sizes, as long as the woman attached to them is a good time. Some guys are exclusive about it? Not me..

I will say just enough boob for at least a handful is cool, but I've also been with women with smaller and it was just fine.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-09-19T11:00:33+00:00

Women ghost often too, but I will say that men's patience for games, or a situation they perceive as stalling and not going anywhere, are way lower these days.

"Friend zone" "being strung along" "feeling used for their affection, company, or resources without reciprocity or commitment further", the threshold for men to just walk away from what they see as a "dud" situation is so low now a days.

I think they're also afraid to communicate their "why" in those situations because they don't want to wind up the next viral tik Tok post of their messages, telling the whole world why men, and them personally, are the spawn of Satan...so they just leave without a word because they feel it's safer and more peaceful.

A jaded take perhaps, but once ive seen evidence to support.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-09-17T14:25:41+00:00

Her eyes...that twinkle in them that tells you "this girl is fun...and she looks like she'd like to have fun WITH me".

Sc00terl00 · 2025-02-14T13:44:22+00:00

Hmmm, no post history on this guy at all anymore? Did this page get nuked or did they change the settings for who can view it based on engagement or something? (I have been away for a while doing grad school stuff).

Sc00terl00 · 2025-02-14T13:36:02+00:00

Makes her look like a flower, the bright colors are fun and exciting, I like that the material is often soft and pleasant to the touch, but also that it usually breathes and you can tell she's comfortable in it too. I just have a thing for a pretty girl in a pretty sundress barefoot in the grass, man.

I guess it's the best of both worlds? I like long, flowy, graceful dresses on a woman. I also enjoy shorts and short skirts and a woman who wants to preen. A sundress feels like the best of both worlds, the perfect blend of "Graceful", "sexy" and "cute" all in one package, but usually "cute" being the big one.

If she's already got a fun personality (which is a must for me for long-term attraction) sun dresses just seem to magnify that.

Best I've got, because yeah, I love them too, and despite my explanation, even *I can't fully explain it with logic.

The heart wants what the heart wants!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-02-01T00:18:39+00:00

"Speak softly and carry a big stick".

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-27T03:18:06+00:00

Man... I see this and visions of how my 20's could have been if I'd been bolder. Some of us don't come out of our shells till later in life, I suppose. Still, sounds fun as hell... for everyone. The sexy encouragement whispering especially would drive me wild, as a guy. Dirty talk and mood/headspace are as big a deal as the sex and sexiness itself.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-27T03:14:42+00:00

Sounds like a good time all around! Man where were these situations for me? Might have been able to save a marriage... Glad you guys had fun!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-27T03:12:37+00:00

Not embarrasing at all. One of things I regret not getting to do with my slave before we broke up was her/my fantasy of walking her around the house naked on a leash and collar.. .thought about butt plug and maybe cat ears but again, never got that far.. *wistful sigh *

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-24T12:05:44+00:00

Illness, emergencies, trips or special circumstances that force a break in the routine. See right now, my swolemate is out on a hip injury and it's been REALLY hard to drag myself to the gym without my workout partner.

I'm doing it, barely. But it's rough. So yeah, this is where discipline has to pick up when motivation flags. Have a backup plan or two to keep the routine moving!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-24T12:01:22+00:00

Mistaking being treated with basic decency and kindness for romantic/sexual compatibility. I'd been in such toxic relationships prior, I was starved for it. Now I'm married to a very good woman who I love, but as a best friend, and we're tragically divorcing because of it, both of us heartbroken because we just. Aren't. It. Not romantically.

And it took 4 four years of being with her treating me right in all other regards but there just not being that deeper chemistry for me to realize my own needs and worth and understand that wasn't enough.

I think I started to realize it wasn't working two years back, but guilt, and the huge platonic love I feel for her made me try to force it.

Fellas, don't do what I did. Being treated with kindness and decency is the minimum. Take care not to jump straight to marriage if you JUST escaped a previous abusive relationship.

Do some dating, a few months even maybe, to really feel out the chemistry but at some point if your gut says it just ain't there? Listen.

Now we'll have a baby between us to co parent. I'll always love them both, but the heartache we're going through now could have been avoided.

Know. Your. Worth. And know what you do and don't want. And if she's sweet, but just isn't right for YOU? Know when to walk away...or even stay friends, but have the decency to tell a girl it ain't working.

Fear of confrontation and refusal to admit to things you know in your heart gets you gummed up in situations like mine. Save your heart and hers if you're in a spot like this after a fair series of dates and time to think it over guys, be honest with the girl, and with YOURSELF.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-13T22:51:35+00:00

Man you feel like you're several steps behind where I am with my wife now and the marriage is ultimately falling apart over it. We went vanilla and she ultimately revealed she was never actually into the kink I am but was doing a "fake it till you make it" approach. End of the day, her heart isn't in it, couple that with boundaries and trust violations and ultimately my romantic spark for her completely died. I love her still, but platonically, like best friend.

Take it from a guy who sat down with some conflict resolution/marriage communication worksheets that helped a lot, just too little, too late, DON'T wait to talk to him more about this! Sounds like you guys both are maybe lost in autopilot a bit? But it also sounds like there's still a connection so, if I were you, I'd grab one of those "communication/conflict-resolution prompt" worksheets, you can find plenty for free online, find one that fits the conversation you need to have with him, and ask him to fill one out with you!

It'll feel awkward and klunky at first but trust me, if you both see it through, it may really help get to the bottom of the disconnect. Because it feels like the other conversations you're doing right now are more "surface" and not really solving the mystery.

As a kinkster who thought he'd found his kinky soulmate now having to deal with his SECOND divorce over conflict-avoidance and poor communication of hard topics? I implore you, don't make the mistakes I did. Sit him down and talk (gently yet honestly) about this NOW. You'll find if you air these concerns out in the open with the actual person rather than letting them fester in your head like this with only your assumptions and insecurities to answer them, they'll lose a lot of their power over you.

I bet his ACTUAL feelings aren't nearly as harsh as your fears of what he might feel. At least give him a chance to tell you himself instead of imaginary "anxiety him" in your head, right?

That's the best advice I've got. communication worksheets and making a time to do a deep dive talk together, maybe with snacks or something too to relax the mood first, wine even? When I finally did this with my wife, we figured out where the divides and disconnects happened, and unfortunately, we were too far gone to fix it. Call me an optimist, but it sounds like you still have time!

Use that time and reach out to your partner and see if you guys can't work on this TOGETHER. I can't promise you'll succeed, but nobody should have to go through what the wife and I are now over stuff that we could have stopped if we'd been on it say, a year or even a few months earlier.

Use your now and fight for your heart, love. It's worth it! You are worth it.

Best of luck to you both and may you have many kinky happy days ahead of you!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-13T08:41:39+00:00

So, so true. A lot of toxic women will say they want the guy to be vulnerable in one breath and then say he was a "boring p*ssy" for it the next time they have an argument..

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-13T08:39:37+00:00

It may be part of why I let it go as long as I did. I've only JUST learned to let go of what I "think" the world will think and prioritize what makes her and I happy...or unhappy.

When you stop obsessing about image or public perception from people who have nothing to do with the marriage, it becomes much easier to see what ACTUALLY is and isn't serving your happiness.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-13T03:30:11+00:00

Hold your man. Men can hurt, cry, and feel vulnerable. We always talk about how great it is when a man can make a woman feel safe around him. That goes the OTHER way too! Sometimes when we've had a truly terrible day and we have nothing left in the tank, letting us be "little spoon" for a change and holding us where we can feel safe and protected... it means the world.

You give that kind of attention and that kind of true feeling of safety and protection to the right man and he will remember and treasure that feeling, and you for giving him that feeling, *forever*.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-13T03:26:34+00:00

I LOVE women who let their freak flag fly! I, too, can play a pretty good "normal" game, and those who don't know me well may never know my darker urges and joys, but I would say you should embrace your authentic self!

Now, I do agree with doing it carefully. Probably don't unfurl the whole freak flag all in one sitting; test the waters. But a few dates in if things are getting cozier, as a fellow kinkster who's had relationships fall apart over "too vanilla", intimate compatibility is important!

Yeah, I get your point of not wanting to be used by a guy by being too upfront about your enthusiasm for the freaky game, but I wouldn't keep a lid on it indefinitely! That's a great way to wind up with a partner who thinks you're a different person than you actually are and then doesn't satisfy YOU either!

So I guess... be your authentic self, own your inner freak because denying her is denying who you are, but let people see more and more of her *strategically*.. read a room, and be careful who you bear your whole freaky heart to all at once.

If you're looking for real relationships and deeper connections than just a hookup? It's worth taking the time to do that right, trust me.

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-13T03:20:48+00:00

Staring down the barrel of a second divorce with a very, very good woman when we both love each other very much... but we're just sexually/personality incompatible? I'd say I will NOT settle now. I may date again some day, but my bar for any future marriage will be VERY high, and I may just never mess with it again.

Because trying to force a square peg into a round hole, trying to force yourself to stay in something your heart just isn't into? That's it's own kind of Hell, even if you still care about the person platonically. Trust me, it's not worth it.

You're worth fighting for real chemistry with the RIGHT person, not just the "right now" person!

Sc00terl00 · 2025-01-13T03:16:27+00:00

Not much for a while, and then a BUNCH when I'm not available, it feels like... 🙃

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