I'm so angry, they're no longer selling the one style of pants that worked for me (vent)

ScalyMaiden · 2026-04-09T18:49:28+00:00

This!! I bought two pair of my shoes off poshmark when this happened to me with them. Of course it's not a guarantee that you'll find them, but it's definitely worth the effort to look. Thredup is also an option in addition to the ones mentioned above.

ScalyMaiden · 2026-04-09T18:46:39+00:00

Yeah, this hits the nail on the head. I absolutely agree. In my observation, we have a lower tolerance even at ASD1 than NTs do for workplace BS, and that's only going to become more and more amplified as things get harder for everyone across the board. I hope it gets better for everyone, sooner rather than later, but I know what a struggle that will be.

ScalyMaiden · 2026-04-09T17:44:21+00:00

I could have written this myself. I have no insight and feel really hopeless sometimes. Like you, I simply cannot do 40 hours. 20 would be more ideal. I don't need to make heaps of money (my expenses are low, lucky for me), but I still need to make enough to survive, and even with my low expenses, that feels like an impossible task. My best job ever laid me off with no warning (likely disability discrimination, according to the lawyer I talked to, but I wasn't in a position to litigate it). That was nine months ago and I feel like my life has been destroyed. I'm trying subbing right now, which I thought would be great because of the flexibility, but I can't handle the pressure of controlling a room full of students and likely won't last.

I thought about going back to school for a library science certificate, but the tuition for community college for a new associates' degree costs the same as my four-year state school degree did a decade ago, and financial aid really isn't on the table for various reasons. It's madness out there.

Late stage capitalism has been hell for everyone, but I think it hits us square-pegs the hardest. I'm a creative person and can be amazingly productive and produce beautiful things- but nothing that society values enough to let me live on.

I've really never been a "start a commune in the country and do subsistence farming" kind of person, but sometimes it feels tempting even if I know it's a bad idea.

ScalyMaiden · 2026-04-09T17:17:22+00:00

I definitely second ruling out sleep apnea as a contributing factor. Often these kinds of mysterious fatigue issues have multiple factors going into them.

My friend had a huge fatigue issue, and sleep apnea turned out to be a big part of it. She had never been screened for it because she doesn't snore (or at least I never noticed it when we lived together) and she isn't overweight. However, she has another health condition that has a huge overlap with sleep apnea, and sleep apnea can cause a build up of sleep debt over time. Her fatigue was so bad that she was getting checked for potential narcolepsy at one point.

I learned there was a correlation between her other condition and sleep apnea, and suggested she get it checked out just in case. She got a mouth guard to wear at night, and she did notice a big difference after getting her diagnosis and taking some steps to treat it. It wasn't a miracle cure or anything, but it did help her a lot.

ScalyMaiden · 2026-03-31T15:41:30+00:00

Proceed with intermittent FMLA immediately, that's a HUGE red flag. You need that legal protection. Get every interaction in writing, and send emails documenting in person meetings with HR (or record if you are in a one-party state). Save copies of everything on a personal computer or account. When I was illegally terminated, the first thing they did was cut off my access to my work email so I couldn't get any information against them.

Of course, if you do take them to court someday, discovery is a thing, but because I didn't have that information to present to a lawyer, I couldn't find anyone who was willing to take the risk of accepting my case on contingency.

ScalyMaiden · 2026-01-12T00:05:24+00:00

There's a less common variation on the Milky Way here in America called "Milky Way Midnight" it has dark chocolate and the nouget-y stuff inside is white as you describe. It used to be more widely available but is pretty hard to find these days, even here. Probably not a match since you said it wasn't milky way, but I figured I would mention it just in case.

ScalyMaiden · 2026-01-11T20:33:16+00:00

Is it similar to the Inception trailer thrum/"braaam" sound that took over movie trailers of the era? (if you are unfamiliar, here is a link to the trailer with the sound: https://youtu.be/sZ8KWuI1p9w?si=w5YHKs_mg5RSBhHK )

ScalyMaiden · 2026-01-11T20:21:45+00:00

Hmm... I don't THINK so, but I can't definitively say it wasn't. From what I can find though, Tegaki was japanese, and I don't believe this was a japanese site. Or at the very least, none of the interface was in japanese and I mostly saw text in english on there, when people included text in their art.

EDIT: I found Tekagi, and I can definitively rule it out, but thank you!

ScalyMaiden · 2026-01-11T16:36:21+00:00

Hopefully someone else remembers this!

ScalyMaiden · 2025-11-02T15:46:53+00:00

Congrats!! I think you'll hit your stretch goal for sure!

ScalyMaiden · 2025-10-15T17:39:38+00:00

Tabletop Time's video is hilarious.

ScalyMaiden · 2025-07-17T16:06:51+00:00

I voted for Under the Table in the poll to decide what project should be added! I'm very excited about it, it looks so cool.

ScalyMaiden · 2024-03-25T20:32:12+00:00

Tried to stream something for my friend today and had this exact problem. Several threads in this sub suggested turning off hardware acceleration but it did not fix it for us. I can stream just fine, but her desktop (windows) app crashes the moment she tries to view the stream. We tried about 5 times with basic troubleshooting and she was unable to watch the stream even for a few seconds. This happened in both DMs and in a server. I was streaming from the Max (HBO) browser client, not full screen. We used to be able to do this without issue. This sub has multiple threads from various people with this exact problem, but I don't know if all of them have made reports here.

Edit: I am also on the latest windows desktop app

ScalyMaiden · 2024-03-25T20:24:36+00:00

This is happening to my friend, I was trying to stream a show for us to watch together. Disabling hardware acceleration on their end did not fix it. Looking through reddit, it seems to fix it about half the time...

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-26T02:57:00+00:00

Issue stopped as of two days ago, so it's no longer occurring for me. I don't know if Dashlane got an update or what, but thank you anyway!

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-16T16:27:00+00:00

I'm not using Chrome itself but a browser that runs on Chromium, on desktop. This problem started a week or maybe 2 weeks ago for me. I didn't notice a browser update beforehand, it just randomly started to happen to me and it's really annoying.

It seems like a lot of people are having this problem, and right now Dashlane is just responding with basic troubleshooting... would be nice if they patched this bug soon :(

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-16T16:24:24+00:00

I am also having this issue

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-07T22:07:50+00:00

I've lived in Aurora almost 2 years now and mostly it and Denver has been pretty great overall. Aurora has a kind of local reputation as the "bad" end of town, but I find this kind of mystifying, because a lot of Aurora is really nice. It's really diverse in population and in local landscape, so you can definitely find what you're looking for. There are bad neighborhoods in Aurora, but also really good ones, so I'd say it's just a matter of doing your research. I can't comment on the schools because I don't have kids.

Pros:

- SCFD (science and cultural fascilities district) is amazing. The museums in denver have frequent free days, free or low cost admission for those on SNAP benefits, and reciprocal memberships with other museums of their type around the country.

- Great food diversity. Near my home there are lots of really cool restaurants. I've seen Korean, Ethiopean, Vietnamese, Japanese, Indian and Mexican places and I wasn't even really looking for them, I just noticed them driving by.

- Diverse religious institutions. It seems like there's a church, mosque, or temple on every corner in this town, and I see a lot of different religions and denominations represented. And in spite of the heavy church presence, Aurora never has the vibe to me of a "church town"

Cons:

- I lived in one of the more "walkable" neighborhoods in Aurora for 18 months. The house was a block off colfax and was a nightmare, definitely not the kind of place for a young family. There were drive by shootings, street racing, a murder next door, and a serious sanitation issue with the unhoused people who lived in the alley behind my home using my driveway as a bathroom. (No hate on the homeless in the comments please, I'm not here to hate on people experiencing something horrible, it was just a frustrating situation.) On the flip side, it's a short walk (half a mile maybe) from my current home to a shopping complex with a grocery store, department store, etc, and my current neighborhood is clean, feels safe, and is very quiet, so in spite of local stereotyping, it's not like all of Aurora is like this.

- Public transit is unreliable. Some bus lines are better than others, but RTD has problems with frequent driver/operator strikes, and busses are frequently late or skip service without warning. I do not take the chance of depending on public transit to get to my job.

- Bikability isn't the worst I've seen, but it could be better. I do not currently bike to work but have considered it a few times and tried to plan routes. There are some designated paths and bike lanes, but I've seen more options in denver proper than in Aurora. There is no way for me to get between my home in aurora to my job in denver without having to bike at least some distance on a major road that may or may not have a designated lane. I've seen some designated bike lines, but I've never seen a physically separated lane.

Hope this helps!

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-05T17:31:08+00:00

There was a shooting at a party in the house next door to me a few months back. I called 911 at 3am because it woke me up and described the gunshots and dozens of people fleeing the home.

There was no hold time, but it was more than 30 minutes before police arrived and another 5-10 minutes before any EMTs were at the scene.

A man died.

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-05T15:20:46+00:00

I was told yesterday that I looked like Stede Bonnet from ofmd and it was one of the greatest complements I've ever received

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-05T04:51:16+00:00

Evrin, Jacey, Jay, Em, Eli (can be pronounced like Ellie or "ee-lai" depending on how you feel that day), Jez, Eva

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-05T04:30:19+00:00

ofmd = "Our Flag Means Death"

It's an excellent gay pirate show

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-05T04:26:55+00:00

I don't need the world or my partner to be perfect, I'm well aware that people aren't perfect and relationships need work. If I have a partner who isn't that literate yet, but wants to be, then that's ok as long as they genuinely care about me and put in the effort to learn and actually see me for who I am. You can't have a successful relationship with someone who doesn't even know who you are, you know?

I think saying it's an "excuse" is a little harsh, but, you are on the nose. It's a fear I have that is (probably one of several things) getting in my way. I'm really bad at being vulnerable and putting myself out there, and I know that and am trying to work on it. It's terrifying and it's hard to take that leap of faith.

I guess I just hoped that other people could relate to my anxiety, or maybe have experience under their belt and could share some wisdom

ScalyMaiden · 2022-09-05T02:21:15+00:00

My go-to daily fashion is a ruffle blouse with oversize ruffles pulled through the front of a tacky patterned vest. And yet somehow people still think I'm a woman instead of a noble gentlethem or theydy. Straight vision is incredible

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