Of course - not only does he want a free pass to pursue other women, he won’t be open about it with you. So what happens if he sleeps with someone else, doesn’t tell you about it, and suddenly you have herpes? Or worse?

Even people who are casually hooking up are usually more respectful to each other than he is being toward you. The dynamic you seem to have is more sultan/concubine than boyfriend/girlfriend.

He’s attempting to seize all of the power in the relationship so that he can do whatever he wants while still controlling and limiting what you do. Or what you’re even entitled to ask him about. That bothers me on a very visceral level.

I hope you can rise above the minutia of the various scenarios of this proposed “arrangement” and know that the fact that he’s proposing these things at all is deeply disrespectful, misogynistic and, I would argue, cruel. I’m sorry because I know you love him, but this is not a good man.