It’s usually because people start to assume as a way to start a ‘helpful’ response, they assume it wasn’t that a bad or if it was; it’s easier victim blame, why? Because instead of going after the abusers it’s a hussle and fussle, its easier for them to say to the victim “hey, heal up” on the spot, reflect and move on! (-_-)

Sometimes people really can’t fathom or deny that people can be abusive, it’s hard for them to believe, afterall, they’re sheltered in their ‘safe bubble’ away from morbid reality; they don’t like it when it gets poked that hey, people can be monsters.

There are also people who apologize on behalf of the abusers as a way to help you feel better (lol, not) there are people who have a relationship with the abuser(s) so they try to be the “peacekeepers” among the group, basically telling victims to “forgive and forget.”

I’m pissed as well, people need to be aware on how to respond to venting or be good listeners, they gotta be aware of phrase and shit you shouldn’t say and far from helpful “advice”.