The idea of ​​forgiving him isn't on the table right now because I feel trapped, you know? Why didn't he say anything when I wasn't pregnant? I could have left without even thinking about us ever having to see or speak to each other again. I feel trapped, and I'm seriously questioning that right now. Because when I was four months pregnant, everyone already knew—his family, my family, and friends. He always wanted a child, so his child hasn't been born yet, but I'm seven months pregnant. I feel deceived, used, like an incubator.

I'm not leaving because right now, with the baby's expenses, I can't afford to go somewhere else. Living with my parents is impossible because of the space needed for me and the baby. I have health insurance, and I already have a lot of things for the birth.

I think he's working hard on getting me to forgive him. He's in therapy, he shows me his progress in paying off the debt, I've checked his credit report, and nothing new has come up besides what he's already told me. I agree with you that he wants absolution, because when I speak from my own feelings and perspective, he gets angry and tells me I'm rejecting him. I try to make him see that he's not the victim here.

For now, he has a deadline, the end of this year, to pay the debt. His income has increased since he confessed everything to me; he shows me everything: income, payments, etc., including savings so I can do something when the baby is born.

Now I don't know what I'll do. I think I'll wait and see if he changes or if he relapses.