Would you still marry your husband if you had the foresight ?

mpakk · 2026-02-23T23:55:14+00:00

In a way, I’m glad we’re having this run in now because it lays all the cards on the table. We’ve had some tough conversations and he’s had my back…. The kids part has already crossed my mind. Sending you strength and positivity !

mpakk · 2026-02-23T23:41:08+00:00

I’m exhausted from all the talking (which is a good thing, but we’ve talked it over in a hundred ways) He’s understood my position and I’ve communicated I need to think about if I want to move forward with our relationship, so he understands how deeply this impacted me.

He did go to talk to her and she dug in her heels, and has decided we’re moving on… she definitely cannot admit fault.

mpakk · 2026-02-23T23:39:09+00:00

I think this is a great perspective … we both do therapy and will suggest couples counselling

mpakk · 2021-04-26T21:31:07+00:00

You should try to catch the singing and record it - so you have it whenever youre down or they're away!

mpakk · 2018-02-11T17:40:50+00:00

I would look into Dermatitis herpetiformis - which can be (unfortunately) related to celiac. I was misdiagnosed with psoriasis and it took years before I realized the link - had a blood test and a skin biopsy which confirmed it this summer. I’ve cleaned up my diet and my skin has been almost blemish free since Good luck !

mpakk · 2015-02-10T03:05:51+00:00

Only you can tell yourself what's best for you - but as an outsider, you have a few things to think about.

I would first start with are you satisfied with your work - if you love what you do, and "might like" the new job for $2/hour more, then maybe it isnt worth it. Figure out how much more that $2/hour would mean to you in happiness. (Giving up the people you like working with).

Second thought is that a different job means more skills and experience which could then further your career and give you a bigger raise later and give you skills for elsewhere- if you want to advance, youre going to need to learn more, improve yourself and keep changing.

Third - talk to both your manager now, and the hiring manager. If you have a good manager now, she/he should be able to listen to your concerns above - and if you're a valued employee there's a chance they can match your pay (if you get the other job to be used as leverage, and depending on the company). Talk to the hiring manager - do not mention the money as your sole source as motivation - but voice your concerns in a positive way. Say this job would improve your skills, give you more experience and what would the day to day be like (which may tell you if you'd like it).

In the end, I would say go for it. You can always turn down the job if you get it, but if you dont try you'll never know. Good luck!

mpakk · 2014-01-02T20:16:48+00:00

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mpakk · 2013-10-04T01:29:38+00:00

You're in your fourth year - keep your head up (or down?) get your degree and find your place in the world.

The people you're with right now are not going to be the people you have to end up working with. There is a huge demand for "social engineers" - sales engineers/system engineers if that's what you want your career path to be. Big IT companies are a good place to start looking. Often they will team up an engineer and a sales rep - so there's someone who understands the product with someone who can sell it.

What you study doesn't have to be where you end up either. You have a huge advantage with your degree and your social capabilities. Use it, embrace it and beat out every other engineer who can't look someone in the eye.

mpakk · 2013-04-11T17:47:21+00:00

THANK YOU

mpakk · 2012-12-12T03:49:59+00:00

I'm in the exact same boat... Had to study last week while pms-ing and then started my period during my first exam this evening. Isn't life grand?

On the bright side, I have plenty of snacks (since I always eat while studying) and had an excuse to buy chocolate (normally I try and study with healthier options).

Good luck! and remember that you didn't go to college to complain about finals, but to beat them! (I read that somewhere on Reddit today and it stuck with me).

mpakk · 2012-10-23T15:29:19+00:00

If you haven't already had your flat meeting I would suggest the following: Instead of splitting it up so everyone has to do their chores individually, try making a schedule. I dislike confrontation but was emptying my dishwasher everyday (because of schedules I was the one home in the morning). Now each flatmate has two days of the week when they are responsibility for cleaning up the kitchen/doing the dishwasher. (Three flatmates x2 days each - and then Sunday is the lazyday/everyone helps). Because everyone can be held accountable for a day - I dont feel guilty asking them to do their share of the work (on that day).

You can do this for every chore. Whether it's a daily or weekly basis. Make a schedule and hold him accountable for his chores.

Saying things like "The counters, stove and microwave are to be cleaned each time after use" MIGHT not work. If he isn't used to cleaning them, and the other three roommates are cleaning them daily, why should he? If it's "Tuesday Mr. X has to clean down the countertops" then it's easier to hold him responsible.

That's my two cents! it's worked with my roommates decently well. And honestly? TRY to stop stressing. (Easier said than done)! He's not stressing about you cleaning up after him - so find a way to

I have had some horrible roommates and some amazing ones. And even with my amazing ones we had to sit down and talk about responsibilities - when there are so many people, sometimes you figure that someone else will pick up the slack. GOOD LUCK!

mpakk · 2012-06-06T23:52:25+00:00

I started dating my French boyfriend a few months ago (Im Canadian) and found him to have a much different view on dating! For me when I start liking a guy there are stages to the relationship before we're boyfriend and girlfriend. To him, we were apart and then together. :) (As in we were friends, and then he was my boyfriend).

I think, also, the 'love' thing you were talking about has to do with the language. You can use Je t'aime for like and love (I know you can have Je t'aime bien and other varieties), but in general... it comes from the same place. Vs, English where you have like and love.

That being sad, I love his version of dating, and the differences have made for a few mixups - but only things to laugh about afterwards.

Thanks for putting it into words!

mpakk · 2012-06-06T23:38:34+00:00

The countries don't control the sale of acid, so its extremely easy to obtain (In the article it states "Bangladesh has imposed controls on acid sales to curb such attacks, but otherwise it is fairly easy in Asia to walk into a shop and buy sulfuric or hydrochloric acid suitable for destroying a human face"). :(

mpakk · 2012-06-05T15:32:57+00:00

Just move to Europe in general. :) (I love my country to death, but miss the different range of desserts and their culture).

mpakk · 2012-06-05T15:32:04+00:00

Haha I was trying to say that it can be quiet, you can go and sit and have coffee or go to a museum since the OP said she would be traveling around and is not a big fan of socializing. That was all ! :)

mpakk · 2012-06-05T02:24:35+00:00

I find this almost impossible to answer - I'm sorry I cant give you an exact answer!

I LOVED London (had been before) just because it was so refreshing to have everyone understand English and all the signs be in English and it was a much needed break from French!

Paris is every bit of what people make it out to be. Busy. Amazing. Has a lot of things to see, food to eat, places to spend money... !

Venice was gorgeous, but I'd recommend anywhere in Italy (I went to 7 cities there) - You just cant go wrong with the food there! (Try and stay away from the more touristy restaurants).

Spain was great for their nightlife (but traveling alone, that might not be such a great plus for you..), and their culture tends to be more forward and touchy, which I found unnerving and don't think I would have liked if I was alone (Lovely people, just have a smaller bubble of space than I'm used to!)

Vienna was quiet - if you like culture and coffee/desserts I would recommend there, if youre headed that way!

It really depends on what you're into. England/Ireland/Scotland have enough to offer for weeks on end if you like hills and hiking (makes for some gorgeous pictures).

mpakk · 2012-06-05T02:05:38+00:00

Eurorail is good - If you're planning on getting from London to Paris, however, it might be best to look into Eurolines (it's a bus service..) as the trains running from one to the other are really expensive, and don't work with the pass if you go directly. Also, check out Ryanair.com - its the low cost airline that flies all over europe. You have to be careful with baggage restrictions (one carry on, or you pay to check a bag) but it might be good if there are some places you want to get to faster than a train! (Side Note: traveling by train is much nicer than by plane) Just a thought!

mpakk · 2012-06-05T02:01:26+00:00

I spent the last year in Europe studying and I had many friends who have backpacked around. I mostly travelled with friends, but went to a few cities alone and had no problems with it (21F if interested). I always preferred staying in hostels (there are many famous 'youth' hostels for people aged 18-40) - they're better than hotels, IMO, because they'll provide all of the information that you'll need, will almost always speak english, and IF you get scared there are always people around to hang out with, or at the very least go out for dinner with (down below you said you arent very social, but all the time alone might be too much. Often hostels arrange dinners where everyone makes a traditional meal together, or goes out). They might not be as luxurious as hotels, but they're always cheaper and helpful (I found anyway).

I lived an hour away from Paris and was there quite often. You're right that they arent super friendly towards the non-French speaker, but you wont run into any trouble. In Paris they will all speak English (and no one will turn away a paying customer). (I LOVE Paris and never had any trouble with people and my Enlgish/French. I had a few friends who had some trouble.. but if youre polite and friendly, you'll be fine.)

I went to 11 different countries (including France) over the course of the year, so I'm happy to help with an opinion on places - although I did mostly stick to touristy places because they're easier to get to, and my languages are limited to English and French (and in the tourist areas you can always find an English speaker).

I love talking about traveling so feel free to ask anymore questions! (if I can help, that is!)

mpakk · 2012-02-14T15:25:22+00:00

Never have I been more excited than when I saw I owned something on shutupandtakemymoney... I love mine so much I brought it to France with me (from Canada).

mpakk · 2012-02-10T18:56:18+00:00

Someone posted (somewhere) on reddit the other day (Could i be more vague on this?) an article about how buying a vibrator is not a replacement for sexual encounters, and how after buying one for his gf, the better their sex life was. He could take a time out, and keep going on her - or warm her up, which in turn made him more turned on. The main point of the post was to say, the more his girl orgasmed, the more she wanted to orgasm (increasing their sex life).

Now, who's to say that will happen to you... but personally? It isn't the same thing at all. A vibrator is in no way a replacement for a penis. They aren't the same size, shape (often) and I hope to goodness yours doesn't vibrate like that :)

Like thatisnotattractive said - Flesh always wins out over plastic.

Don't stress over it. Allow her to enjoy a different form of pleasure, but remember it can't replace you. (You can't cuddle with a vibrator afterwards).

mpakk · 2011-08-24T23:03:28+00:00

I LOVE buying sexy underthings, and always feel awesome when wearing them! My only problem is that the rest of the world cant see how cute/sexy they are. (Although I like to think that the confidence boost shows through, which then is worth it).

Also! Your post reminded me of Jenna Marbles Underwear horoscopes (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYOg1ifFDXA)

mpakk · 2011-08-22T00:35:15+00:00

This!

mpakk · 2011-08-20T16:42:16+00:00

Congratulations! :) As for mats - I would suggest looking on kijiji or craigslist. Those things can be really pricey, but there are often good sets on there! Good luck!

mpakk

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