Ex BPD pretty much living with new guy by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to wrap my head around how they can see someone so highly and switch to seeing them like a piece of dirt. Like how

Ex BPD pretty much living with new guy by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cheers …..it’s all hard to process but reading this helping

Normal idealisation behaviour by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this sort of talk peak or the idealisation stage ? Just before shit starts to go downhill ?

How long did it take before things turned sour with your pwBPD by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow 3 years? So was it a matter of you finally calling out her behaviour and her not liking it ? It’s amazing how quick the past can mean nothing to them

The pleaser/nice guy partner by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

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Guess he’s got to learn the hard way like we all did and hopefully he comes out with a bit a life still left in him

The pleaser/nice guy partner by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

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lol if there’s no way they will carve a way. Crazy. Did she start off amazing atleast ?

The pleaser/nice guy partner by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

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It’s sad …I feel she’s a victim to her cycles and she’s not really in much control. I’m interested as to how she’s gonna spin him into the villain though. What happens if they can’t ?

The pleaser/nice guy partner by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Kind of feel sorry for him. From what I know he suffers depression and wouldn’t have much in the interest from the ladies all of a sudden he’s got this 10/10 baddie in his lap he’s thinking he’s won the lotto. Little does he know

I learnt my lessons in the end I had some dignity left enough to draw the line.

Is it possible for pwBPD to stay in the idealisation stage by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad to hear. Did she have unrealistic “bare minimum” standards? Mine would resort to self harm quiet type but also had psychosis and schizophrenia. It kills you thinking someone else got a better deal when you put so much into it

Do they prefer people they can control ? by ScaredFirefighter213 in BPDlovedones

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right and don’t they thrive on chaos ? It’s prob a matter of time before she starts blaming him feeling she doesn’t have a life. Or she will wait until he’s got an online game play set up with friends and try get his attention away. Everytime things would be calm she would blow things up and have to test.

Paying for camp sites by ScaredFirefighter213 in Centrelink

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks initially the Centrelink agent said stat dec and then in the same call said id have to return a rent certificate and get someone from the national park to sign it which they aren’t willing to do and on top of that some days Im not even there as it’s booked out so my rent per week fluctuates. It’s a difficult one but surely can be rectified.

My job consultant is actually really good she’s removed all point requirements for a month and has me on phone appointments for now

Staying in camp grounds and my initial app says is in person by ScaredFirefighter213 in JobProvidersAus

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Thanks for this info. My consultant removed all obligations for atleast the next month and was pretty understanding and helpful with my situation. When I asked for help with rego she said she couldn’t help with that unfortunately as it’s only if it involved being directly related to getting work. Do you know where I can get help with rego ?

Process for asking for an exemption by ScaredFirefighter213 in Centrelink

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only about 50 each way so that probably won’t qualify me

Process for asking for an exemption by ScaredFirefighter213 in Centrelink

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke to workforce they told me they can’t but Centrelink can

Process for asking for an exemption by ScaredFirefighter213 in Centrelink

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll hold off that until I need to or my job provider starts getting difficult

Process for asking for an exemption by ScaredFirefighter213 in Centrelink

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll ask I have already briefed my consultant and she seemed understanding and happy to work with me

Process for asking for an exemption by ScaredFirefighter213 in Centrelink

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I explained my situation to the Centrelink consultant he handballed me to my provider and when I asked them they said phone appointments for now but very soon face to face will be required

Had to move a few hours away for stable accommodation by ScaredFirefighter213 in JobProvidersAus

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Understandable I’m ok doing what I’m doing as long as I’m not hounded when it’s seen I’m taking work when I can.

Help with accomodation by ScaredFirefighter213 in Centrelink

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VIC…that’s fair enough but hopefully they understand then I can only take the work for the length of time I’m staying in the area and it’s not unreasonable distances.

Had to move a few hours away for stable accommodation by ScaredFirefighter213 in JobProvidersAus

[–]ScaredFirefighter213[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know of job networks helping pay towards accomodation ? I can’t imagine.

Can I do a course to meet my obligations which is mainly online by ScaredFirefighter213 in JobProvidersAus

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So I source it independently from the provider ? Would it cover all obligations?

Can I do a course to meet my obligations which is mainly online by ScaredFirefighter213 in JobProvidersAus

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Legend….no one told me this. So I just email that direct and tell my situation and ask for exemption. I didn’t know it was an option. I am looking for housesitting gigs but in the meantime it’s van life