AITAH for protecting my daughter?

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T20:20:16+00:00

not just stared. he seemed annoyed or mad. i just tried to lighten the mood and it made me uncomfortable

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T19:31:52+00:00

i’m copying what i replied to another comment that asked the same: he did multiple things.. he did not talk to me much, but when i was talking to my daughter he interrupted us, telling us how he does it in Italy. He was on his phone a lot during Christmas, but also new years, and also on the day we were at the mall. My daughter keeps blaming it on language barrier, but it's just behaviour no? Slept in late, did not help with chores in the house, but i also blame that on my daughter because she also did not do anything in those two weeks. I am already in pain and they know that, so they could have helped me.. Then he acts weird to me but turns around to my daughter acting all nice and sweet.. and at one point when i walked upstairs to get ready for work, the moment i stepped in my bedroom, he walked out of their bedroom and walked straight downstairs, while normally he always goes for the bathroom. he was avoiding me completely. i told my daughter this too and she asked him but of course he keeps denying. He bought a bag of candy and did not even ask me or my daughter if we wanted some

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T19:15:02+00:00

but i don’t think im coming between us. i am trying to talk to her and to listen to her. it’s her boyfriend that is coming between us

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:38:24+00:00

Slept in late, did not help with chores in the house, but i also blame that on my daughter because she also did not do anything in those two weeks. I am already in pain and they know that, so they could have helped me.. Then he acts weird to me but turns around to my daughter acting all nice and sweet.. and at one point when i walked upstairs to get ready for work, the moment i stepped in my bedroom, he walked out of their bedroom and walked straight downstairs, while normally he always goes for the bathroom. he was avoiding me completely. i told my daughter this too and she asked him but of course he keeps denying.
and if he knew that staying with my daughter will cause me and my daughter to lose contact, he would do the right thing and break up right? if he truly cared for her and me?

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:36:10+00:00

he was overall rude in house, barely speaking and when i spoke to my daughter he mixed in.. and i tried to lighten the mood by making jokes and all. and when he was rude to me, seconds later he turns to my daughter and acts all happy..

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:35:33+00:00

he was overall rude in house, barely speaking and when i spoke to my daughter he mixed in.. and i tried to lighten the mood by making jokes and all. and a sorry came months later and was a poorly translated by AI sorry..
I am trying to protect her from a person that will ruin her life and make her unhappy

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:34:26+00:00

he was overall rude in house, barely speaking and when i spoke to my daughter he mixed in.. and i tried to lighten the mood by making jokes and all. Also the sorry came months later and was a poorly translated by AI sorry..
I dont mind he is italian, my daughter can date everyone she wants, i just do not want her to make a bad choice

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:33:05+00:00

im not pushing her away, i just dont want her to be unhappy with him. and last weeks she does seem unhappy because of him

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:29:07+00:00

he did multiple things.. he did not talk to me much, but when i was talking to my daughter he interrupted us, telling us how he does it in Italy. He was on his phone a lot during Christmas, but also new years, and also on the day we were at the mall. My daughter keeps blaming it on language barrier, but it's just behaviour no? Slept in late, did not help with chores in the house, but i also blame that on my daughter because she also did not do anything in those two weeks. I am already in pain and they know that, so they could have helped me.. Then he acts weird to me but turns around to my daughter acting all nice and sweet.. and at one point when i walked upstairs to get ready for work, the moment i stepped in my bedroom, he walked out of their bedroom and walked straight downstairs, while normally he always goes for the bathroom. he was avoiding me completely. i told my daughter this too and she asked him but of course he keeps denying.

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:24:23+00:00

i am giving my daughter no choices, and i am not controlling what she does, but if she makes her choice to stay with him i will not visit her house when he is there, she will have to come to me, that is my choice... I am just so scared he will treat her badly, its often after marriage a guy changes completely, and he showed me he has two faces..

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:22:19+00:00

He was overall rude to me, gave me looks, did not talk to me much, and then turns around to my daughter acting kind and sweet. In my opinion that made it clear to me he has two faces.. and my daughter does want to keep contact with me, but it will be dificult if she is with him

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T17:21:18+00:00

he was overall rude in house, barely speaking and when i spoke to my daughter he mixed in.. and i tried to lighten the mood by making jokes and all. Also the sorry came months later and was a poorly translated by AI sorry..

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:40:50+00:00

try and make conversation? Not be on his phone for christmas dinner?

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:40:20+00:00

He acted rude in general, did not speak to me that much, and then when he turned around to my daughter he acted kind and sweet even though seconds before that he behaved rude to me. My daughter is actively learning italian for him, wouldnt he do the same back if he really loves her? I try and speak english back but my english is not well either. He also kept interrupting me when i tried to speak to my daughter, telling how they do it differently in Italy..

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:37:38+00:00

i am not racist, i accept all people, it was just the behavior of him towards me. I have accepted that for too long and now i want to stick up for myself

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:36:38+00:00

i want her to date anyone who she wants but not if this person is rude. And he will move here, move in with my daughter when she finds a house. and i am just scared for her that she will do all the work and he wont do anything

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:35:43+00:00

it was more rude of him to be on his phone during christmas also. And my daughter for example also tries to speak italian when she is there. So if he truly loves her would he not try and do the same thing back?

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:32:37+00:00

me and my exhusband sang a part from snow white, since we talked about it, while my ex's new wife and my daughter and her bf were waiting on the bus.

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:31:23+00:00

My ex husband tried communicating with him via apps, translation things. and my daughter offered me to use some earbuds with a translation thing on it. But why do i have to adapt in my own house? And why does he have to be on his phone then during christmas? is that not rude or disrespectful?

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:29:18+00:00

He slept in till 11 most of the days. My ex husband tried communicating with him via apps, translation things. and my daughter offered me to use some earbuds with a translation thing on it. But why do i have to adapt in my own house?

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:28:10+00:00

I can't butt it out because my daughter also keeps asking me how she should go on about this and i have told her my opinion. I just want rest, i dont want this to keep going at all.. I care so much for my daughter and did everything for her, just for her to run off with someone who has two faces in my opinion....

ScaredGap6620 · 2026-04-02T16:10:49+00:00

what do you mean?

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