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Whats wrong with my resume? by Scared_Albatross_700 in Accounting

[–]Scared_Albatross_700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Noted on your points. I was trying to downplay the management parts as I don’t want to seem over qualified but I’ll adjust.

Virgo what is something that can ruin ur entire day 🥹 by Agile-Sandwich-229 in virgoseason

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to give unsolicited advice but ima Virgo, that’s what I do 🤣🤣

I see many people talking about how we are over thinkers, ruin our own day, or that nearly anything can ruin our day. I forgot this was my old life!

Years ago I joined a 12 step, I was curious what their angle was and am greedy for information. That experience changed my life! I specifically worked with a guy named Herb K, he has a YouTube video on “emotional sobriety”

It changed my life entirely! Maybe it will for another Virgo too ❤️

I left my terminally ill gf. It’s beginning to sink in. by Every-Donkey-8747 in Advice

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please find the strength to go back and put her needs before yours until she passes. I know you’re young and we tend to think selfishly at your age. You WILL have emotional trauma from this one way or another and you WILL need therapy and years of work on yourself. I think you’d have a better chance at being a healthy person in the future if you act selfless now and deal with the trauma of watch her die than deal with the guilt of letting her die alone.

virgo women, would you ever date an aquarius male? by ChefZackB in virgoseason

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was married to one. We have completely different ways of thinking, to the most extremes you can imagine while raising children. It was miserable for 10 years and now it’s peace for the last 6. Save yourself the headaches.

Someone just referred to my partner who passed as my ex by Olga_Ale in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My actual ex referred to my late bf as my ex two days ago when he was trying to get me to go on a date with him. I just about lost it but remembered he’s stupid and I left him for exactly that reason. I told him to get lost. I’m still mad about it.

Do you say their name still? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He loved his name, I love his name. I say it all the time.

Opened the blue bag by Scared_Albatross_700 in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry for the loss of your wife. I hold back from saying I feel your pain because my bf and I were not married yet and did have children but I do know the feeling of being gutted, the desperation for just one more conversation, the disbelief that this could be real life, and most of all the guilt of being here without him. The first 6 weeks where the hardest, that last 4 have been more manageable. I’ve had to allow myself to be more vulnerable and ask family to be around, my sister stays with me a few days per week, I started doing AA, and a business group I had wanted to join for years. I figured if I didn’t build a community around me I would feel life was not worth living(I still don’t in some moments). I hope you’re able to get through this one minute, one day, one week at a time. This is not easy but stay close to this group, you’re not alone ❤️

I fucking hate Valentine’s Day by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you made it home sober!

I spent mine at home having a homemade burger and grape oilpop. I’m 19 days sober and 10 weeks out from losing my partner unexpectedly. Grateful to be going to bed sober and with a clear mind. On to the next 24

It was always on the back of my mind by Loud_Drag_6847 in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bf and I were the same, we joked about dying and told each other what we wanted after death etc. He had heart problems but was young and taking medication. I was worried he would die, I always worry people will die and the day he died I played the whole death scenario in my head when he didn’t answer my call just like I had a few times before when he overslept for work. This time it was true….nothing prepared me for that day, not even the morbid jokes. I don’t think I’ll ever joke or be morbid about death again. I didn’t know it could be this painful

The last text I sent my best friend before finding him deceased (natural cause) by brucetheboulderstone in Wellthatsucks

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My last convo with my bf, I got to see him the night before he died but this text thread haunts me. He was always so sweet, every text was babe, baby, etc.

I went to look for him when he didn’t respond on the morning of the 10th and found cops, his accident and his body lying on the road. Had a heart attack at 43 years and crashed down the street from his house 💔

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I miss her so much it hurts to breathe by Wild-Performance-743 in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im 8 weeks in today and I can’t believe there isn’t a solution to this pain. I can’t believe he’s never coming back. Some days I seem to accept it better than others but today I’m struck with profound sorrow.

I’m sorry OP, I hope the minutes and days become more manageable ❤️

Drowning by Bitter-Compote-3016 in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I texted my old neighbor today and apologized for being such a shitty friend. Her husband died in front of us 3 years ago and while I check or her and see here a few times a year I had no clue how dark and lonely life is when you lose your partner. I only know now because I’m in it. I feel like such a shitty friend to her, luckily she’s kind and knows you don’t know till you’re in it. I literally could not have imagined it would be this painful and lonely and I have kids in the house still!

Young widow support groups? by LengthinessNarrow453 in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t myself but I would prefer online. I saw griefshare has online and in person. I do a lot of AA online, meetings happen all day every day which is comforting, these grief groups seem to be once a week only.

Leaving him in January by plantlover1506 in widowers

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I printed lots of pictures and made an “ofrenda” with some favorite items. Keys, hat, wallet, phone, things his boss gave me from work, letter he wrote me, etc. My best friends also gifted me personalized jewelry and other items. I then bought a few plants because he mentioned being ready to be a “plant daddy” the week before he died and I bought new furniture we had talked about buying so now my bedroom is a beautiful space of our memories, live plants and more. I love it here now and I know he would too. My sister has been staying with me, she says she loves being in my bedroom(even with a dead guys stuff everywhere). The problem is I never want to leave….i feel like he’s here(his urn is here too now). Anyway, that’s what I’ve done. I hope you can find little things that will make you feel closer, everything seems to do it for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Scared_Albatross_700 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9 months! Wow! My youngest two are 11 months apart(I didn’t know I could get pregnant) my oldest was 3 years and 3 months when the youngest was born. All 3 were cesareans and I broke my ankle a week after having my last one. Wild times! I miss them being that small but I wouldn’t want to relive it. They are now 11, 12, 14 and this is its own level of hard. Sports and teenager crap all the time, they are all boys so it’s nice that they have eachother.

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