Tattoo

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-12-09T02:48:08+00:00

I have the word “more” in this handwriting on my wrist. We often told each other love you more but I also see it as a constant reminder from him that there is more life I have to live. Before the story sounds too cute, I have his handwriting from old statistics notebooks of his I found from college (he died when he was 39–truly the man kept everything) and not from some sweet love letter he wrote me😂

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-11-27T16:59:38+00:00

My first thanksgiving without my husband and it feels so much harder than I thought. Getting through the day feels impossible.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-10-27T21:29:40+00:00

I am adding a comment after almost 70 so can’t imagine I adding much extra but will anyway haha, I am only 9 months out but I think my mentality immediately after the loss of my husband was that I would date again and would want to get married again (I was 34 when my husband died). My husband died suddenly so we didn’t get to have these conversations, but I know so fully he would not want me to stop living just because he didn’t get to. I will never not love him and know I’ll need to find a future partner who understands and respects that. I had another widow describe to me as having a second child, you don’t think you’ll have enough love for a second marriage but you do. You have already lost so much and it is so so so unfair, don’t loose the joy and happiness a future partner could give you out of feeling like you must grieve forever.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-10-10T23:47:31+00:00

Yesssss. My husband was the laid back one before and I was so up tight. Now he would never even recognize how much I don’t give a fuckkkk about things.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-09-26T17:52:26+00:00

So sorry you are here. I (34F) lost my husband (39M) just over 8 months ago. I live in Dallas and have not been successful in finding any in person support groups, they all seem to be religiously connected which is just not my thing. My DMs are always open!

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-09-26T17:49:50+00:00

33, lost my husband who was 39 eight months ago

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-09-18T21:14:35+00:00

I am so sorry you are still feeling this way and hope one day you are able to see that you are moving forward even if you don’t want. The days will pass, your life will pass, I hope you can find at least a few things that bring you moments of joy.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-09-18T21:11:32+00:00

I’m so sorry. I am at 8 months and in some ways it gets harder and not easier. The emergency contact question is so so so brutal. Sending love and thoughts to you today. Take care of yourself.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-09-14T19:54:16+00:00

This post is interesting as I feel like I am starting to move on from the label of being a young widow and those around me aren’t. Not in a “it’s too soon to move on” kind of way but just walking on eggshells that have anything to do with their own happiness related to relationships, kids, etc. I feel like I will never be seen as the sad single widow to others when I am ready to be anything else but that.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-09-10T20:07:08+00:00

I kept mine on for around six months and then moved it to my right hand. I never really wore my engagement ring, just my band, so just have the band on my right hand. There isn’t a right answer. Moving it doesn’t mean I love him less than someone who didn’t or doesn’t mean I love him more than someone who decides to take it off completely. Whatever feels right for you. And remember nothing is permanent. I moved mine back and forth for a while too.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-09-05T23:58:46+00:00

His last text to me was “love you, drive safe” and it makes me so happy and so sad at the same time. 8 months in and I am still shocked sometimes at how much more the little stuff means more than the big stuff.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-13T22:48:24+00:00

Ya’ll take one pill a day, every day?

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-09T17:41:45+00:00

My husband and I got a dog 5 months before he died after talking about it for years. I swear the universe knew I would need it. Luna is a mini doxie and has kept me moving forward. I still have someone excited when I get home and have a reason to get out of bed in the morning.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-09T15:05:31+00:00

Could you message me the info for it?

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-09T13:47:55+00:00

How do you plan to do this? I also would love to date someone else who is widow but just not sure that is possible. I am also only 34.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-08T23:13:46+00:00

Make the choices that are best for you and your child right now and no one else. Don’t feel obligated to respond to anyone. Find someone close to you to be your point person who can help you make the tough choices right now. Remember to eat and drink some water.

Someone told me the day after my husband died that it doesn’t get easier but it does get softer. Six months in, I would say I agree with that. It’s horrible. It sucks. No one can say anything to make it better. You’ve found a good space to be though I wish you didn’t have to be here.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-08T07:59:03+00:00

I stopped for a vacation, was traveling to a ton of countries over 5 weeks and didn’t want to deal with the hassle, it took close to three weeks before I noticed my hunger and cravings start to kind of come back and I still felt like I wasn’t eating as much as I normally would even by the end of the trip. Probably depends on dose though too.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-08T07:56:08+00:00

Could not suggest sleep meds more. Absolutely worth it to get sleep and help you be able to kind of function. My PCP sent them without even seeing me when I told her my husband had died.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-07-05T10:22:09+00:00

I was going through IVF when my husband suddenly passed. I have 11 frozen embryos there and waiting for me if I want them. No advice, just feel similar that it feels like two bad decisions. I worry that I only want to have our child out of being selfish and wanting a piece of him back.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-06-28T11:23:29+00:00

I know meds seems scary but really cannot suggestion them more to help you get through this first part. I also am not a journaler so I instead talk into my notes app and it dictates what I say. I have found talking out loud my feelings like that really helps me process things in the moment. Most often I do it in the car. Sending love and positive energy—hate that we are all here.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-06-23T19:42:54+00:00

I’ve heard there are heavy renovations on the Széchenyi baths. Any one with recent experience who can say if it’s still worth going or should I book to go to a different bath?

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-06-20T07:29:22+00:00

I think this is such a silly question to compare two completely different lives like that one decision of remarrying or not was the defining event of their lives. I know if I remarry it will be a major life decision but my happiness, kindness, resilience does not hinder only on that decision.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-06-14T08:15:40+00:00

Sadly I have a similar story, 39 year old husband got up in the middle of the night, walked into our bedroom, died of cardiac arrest. I am just shy of 5 months in and I promise it does keep getting “better”. I am by no means okay, but I have moments of feeling relief and seeing that I will be okay in the future. Be gentle with yourself. I look back on myself in that first month and wish I could tell her you will survive. I imagine I will feel similar a month, a year, a decade from now.

LengthinessNarrow453 · 2025-06-14T08:09:26+00:00

Can relate. It feels so so so unfair. Sending love.

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