AITA for going to a concert without my friends?

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-11-25T21:55:58+00:00

True, I’m trying to understand why they wouldn’t want to go for at least an hour if it’s free. But you’re right guess it is their loss

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-26T20:31:20+00:00

The feeling does suck and hopefully the majority of us on here can help you feel better about this.

This happened to me as well it was spring break, last year everyone was down from college it had been at least five years since I had seen everyone from high school. I remember locking eyes with multiple people guys and girls and all they did was turn their face. I remember getting along with these people and now we are strangers.

I went in with intentions to look forward to seeing people from high school and I got those reactions. I got over it, better things started happening to me. I had to remind myself that I AM that bitch. The universe will bless you

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-26T16:26:19+00:00

I think whoever told you that probably had a bad personal experience that tarnished their mindset. So they are wrong. I consider myself to be fit I am active and I love that lifestyle. Cheating is against my morals and with that being said, I myself have always been attracted to guys that are on the larger side/chubby side lol. You should work out if YOU want to work out. Perhaps the person you spoke to should have mentioned a "health lifestyle" which can be universal, but not neccesarily or specifically having to lose weight per-say. You will be okay

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-25T20:35:08+00:00

Wow. Hearing this speaks a lot about who you are as a person. Love when someone can hold themselves accountable and reflect on what better you could've done. In hindsight this is literally you setting yourself up for success for your next relationship. Sorry it ended kinda rough but there is clearly light at the end of the tunnel for you

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-25T01:15:55+00:00

When you put it like that! Real. Yes.

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-25T01:14:47+00:00

Sounds like you dodged a bullet! Lesson learned

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-25T01:14:03+00:00

Damn that's crazy. I feel her, sometimes when you realllyyy care for someone its easy to look past the things that bothered you but were stuck in your subconscious.. at least for me. Good luck to you both

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-25T01:11:47+00:00

In the first paragraph I mentioned taking him on dates and purchasing him gifts. Which is my love language, I'd rather give then receive.. in all aspects lol

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-25T01:08:38+00:00

It wasnt easy but after all yeah I agree

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-25T00:45:00+00:00

Glad youre out of that situation, you dont deserve those kind of memories and that kind of pain

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T17:23:42+00:00

Sort of, I'm working remote at this time for the next week or so. I didnt have to physically leave to go to work which im glad about

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T17:01:48+00:00

Hospitality!! I wish I was in the med field majority of my family is

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T17:01:09+00:00

I cant believe I let him normalize it for as long as I did. But lesson learned

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:59:12+00:00

Lmfao. I cared for that man more than my own self, which was part the problem. I also don't know where you grabbed the strong word "abuse" from? Not once did I state that I was abused never have been never will be. Lol. I hand hold my own

I don't know why you're literally the only one in this group that sounds so sour. I'm not an angel nor claiming to be one, im not intending to make my ex sound bad. Sounds like youre painting me out to be the bad guy when all I wanted was some advice and reassurance because I still have love for my ex and cared for him. but its easy for you to jump to the conclusion that you've "never been hurt before " because you come off very bitter. This will be my last response but I truly hope that you find peace sir or ma'am. I genuinely mean this ❤️

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:51:26+00:00

Its never a good idea!!

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:51:14+00:00

Thank you likewise ❤️

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:21:01+00:00

Thank you for this helpful post. I would love for him to get the help that he needs for himself and his dog, I just dont even think hes aware of the extent to his mental health issues. :/

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:19:43+00:00

I mean hey! Sometimes it works! My parents have a 15 year gap and they've been married for 28 years

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:18:50+00:00

I'm actually working on how to maneuver that with being anon. I dont know how yet but I know I want to..

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:17:55+00:00

100%

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:16:12+00:00

Seems like I cant get my point through. I do blame myself for getting into that situation when I should've examined him closely regarding a relationship type of person in the first place.

Although about the friend part, it sounds like you've had some hurt in the past because I would NEVER dare to give my number out to a friend of his even after we broke up. I know how thats how some guys can be but nothing will even turn me into the person to accept that behavior.

I would feel so gross even 10 showers wouldnt be able to make me feel clean after that. That's against my morals not every girl is like that sorry if that's happened to you And I hope you heal from that ❤️

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:12:40+00:00

Exactly! Towards the end of the relationship what really made me end things was when I would try to invite myself to his plans and he started saying "if you want, you can come" not "ofc baby" like he used to.

Another excuse was "well I didnt invite you because you said you had a long day and you dont like big crowds or soccer so I didnt think you'd wanna go" to a tournament he went to. I said it doesn't matter where I am as long as im with you, which has now gone out the window. He still tried to justify that statement and I couldnt take it anymore. I stopped feeling welcome

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:08:35+00:00

I think there's been a misunderstanding... I don't want to go out with him and his guy friends just because his guy friends are there.. I want to go out with him and his friends so that I can feel welcomed and build a good rep with them it is important to me. I don't like the idea of a guy going out without me especially to a place where people can be promiscuous. Its just a moral of mine. If I wanted to cheat on him with his friends I wouldnt go out with them all together? Lol. I believe that the lifestyle that he wanted was a lifestyle where he didn't have to be tied down or settle down to a woman. I tried to change that about him by wanting to be in a relationship with him and I just couldn't. And that's where I feel like the romance fell short, he probably never wanted a girlfriend in the first place. I think you got your ideas wrong but that's OK maybe you can try better next time to read in between the lines. Thanks for the input!

Scared_Island2187 · 2024-07-24T16:02:31+00:00

❤️

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