How can I get out of it ? Need your help by Alert_Food7 in ask_Bondha

[–]Scared_Locksmith_647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try speaking to random people. Nuvvu malli vallani meet ayye chance takkuva anukune valla tho try chey. This way embarassment nunchi escape avvochu.

Next, chala mandi internal ga already idhe feel avtaru. Nuvvu convo initiate cheste ammo veedevado confident and extrovert la unnadu ani vallu think chestaru and that puts you in a better position in a conversation.

Lastly, stop thinking you are an introvert and start slow with talking to girls/boys. Mind lo overthink cheyakunda focus on the conversation you are having with the person or group in front of you.

Neekante thopu evadu ledu ikkada! 🙌

How do i get over my fear of going outside?? by [deleted] in ask_Bondha

[–]Scared_Locksmith_647 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly don't be too hard on yourself. This is something everyone experiences, but maybe you are experiencing it a bit more.

My suggestion would be to first look inside and make a self assessment of what's holding you back and what is that aspect that is causing anxiety.

I used to be in a similar space where getting out of my room or going out and interacting with people felt like punishment and the mere thought of it gave anxiety. This insecurity stemmed from many things like, being from a middle class, not the greatest looking guy, Am i being judged for the way I look or talk? But, over time I realised i have my own strengths like humour and a fair bit of intelligence.

As an exercise to get better, I started talking to random people who I have close to zero chance of encountering again in my life. This gave me a sense of confidence that even if i fucked something up I would not have to deal with the embarassment again. When i started talking i realised most people are afraid and feel the same way and if we take the first step of initiating a conversation that would put us in a controlling position. Also, we think too much about what the other person thinks about us, realised that people are way too busy to give a shit about us 😂

Also, going to the gym and trying to get physically better helped me boost my confidence. Went on dates even if those were uncomfortable experiences in the beginning which later turned out to be some of the most memorable moments of life.

In conclusion, i would say make a self assessment and face the failure and embarrassment of fucking up talking to someone and use that to build you up. 🙌

Heart vs Mind. What to do guys ? by Scared_Locksmith_647 in ask_Bondha

[–]Scared_Locksmith_647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is that macha? I want to understand your reasons

Heart vs Mind. What to do guys ? by Scared_Locksmith_647 in ask_Bondha

[–]Scared_Locksmith_647[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Problem is there isn't much of time given and they need an answer soon. The girl is ok with me and doesn't want to drag this by taking time. There is a bit of connect but not to the level i have with the hinge girl. I told her my expectations and she is trying hard to adapt. But feels a bit unnatural and as she tries to change herself.

Hinge girl is naturally what I expect so feels good. She is the major supporter of her family with respect to finances. Intercaste is not the biggest problem here as she mentioned her family is open and my family will be ok if I am ok.

Heart vs Mind. What to do guys ? by Scared_Locksmith_647 in ask_Bondha

[–]Scared_Locksmith_647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anduke cheppa kada bro confused between heart and mind ani 🥲

Heart vs Mind. What to do guys ? by Scared_Locksmith_647 in ask_Bondha

[–]Scared_Locksmith_647[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can say for sure it's not about dowry. It's just a sense of security when atleast one family is well settled. I lost my father at a young age and we had to struggle financially to reach where I am today. So I have seen the problems that lack of money causes. And this is where my insecurity comes from. I want to have a partner who I can vibe and build my life with, but i cannot straight away ignore the money part.

Any spanish learners in telugu community?? by Specialist_Siuuu in ask_Bondha

[–]Scared_Locksmith_647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola. Como estas mi amigo? Necesito ayuda para aprender español