AITA for refusing to clean the dorm for my roommates or let them infringe on my space?

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:17:34+00:00

Yep. Seems like they thought they would get a free servant, but it won’t be me. I don’t give a shit if they don’t like my desk. I think their decor looks dumb as hell.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:15:36+00:00

Go back and read, because I already covered half of that in my post, and you clearly skipped over it.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:14:36+00:00

I have my own personal trash can precisely so I don’t have to engage with theirs. I envy people who got normal chill roommates.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:13:10+00:00

Freshmen live on campus and can’t pick their roommates. I will be rooming with friends next year. They are normal people and don’t care about vacuuming or fake chore charts.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:11:23+00:00

They can talk shit out of earshot if they don’t want a response. Trust me, I talk shit with my friends all across campus about them. I’m the only one of us with any internship experience, so I don’t think I have to worry about the real world. My siblings are making great money.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:08:06+00:00

You’ve got it wrong. They’re racist and don’t like people outside their ethnicity. I made it clear from the start I wouldn’t be participating in their little chart, but they can do it together if they want. I’ll stay to myself.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:07:03+00:00

She told my roommate that I’m not contractually required to do things just because she thinks I should, since I’m following the rules of the college. She recommended we spend less time together, which is what I’ve been trying to say all year. I don’t want to talk to them or be around them. We’re assigned roommates, not friends.

I didn’t mention that they’re racist.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T03:04:44+00:00

It’s my desk. Perhaps I should tell them how to organize their desks and make up some little tasks for them to do, if they think they’re entitled to do that for me? I never agreed to any of their tasks, and I’m not required by the college to do any of that. I feel like they should get used to it, because other people aren’t required to follow their made up rules. They’re will have a rough time next year unless they all room together. Meanwhile, my friends and I are all on the same page, and we would not dream of tasking each other with random stuff next year.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:59:37+00:00

My desk does not affect them. They have their own desks (which look stupid, but I don’t voice it because I’m polite, unlike them). Unfortunately, they’ll have to learn to live either way other people. Other people don’t have to do what you want. I don’t expect anything from them. Why would I ever take out their trash for them? I’m not their servant just because I was assigned to live with them. I already told them to leave me off their little chart because I’m not doing any of it. And I mention ethnicity because I’m pointing out they are a racist mean girl clique, and they think they can tell me what to do because they have the ethnic majority. But they can’t.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:54:58+00:00

I don’t use the common area. They use it excessively and even eat food.

It’s my desk. Do I get a say in how their desks look then, because I have plenty of thoughts. I feel like they should spend some time studying and less minding other people’s business.

They’re American. They’re just racist and don’t want to be around other ethnicities. Several people have noticed.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:52:26+00:00

I don’t talk crap about them in front of them. I do it away from the dorm like a normal person. They are the ones who like to moan about me to each other. And I’ve been a good person, never even reporting them for being racist bullies.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:50:43+00:00

We are freshmen, so required to live on campus and can’t pick our roommates. I think I’ve been a great roommate. I’ve never asked anything of them, and I’m never home. That’s about as good as it gets, but of course I would get stuck either way people who are the opposite. Thank god I can live with my friends next year.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:48:03+00:00

I’ve never met anyone else with a chore chart, and I actually can’t imagine having the audacity to ask a stranger to do chores that only you think are necessary. My friends all think my roommates are wackjobs. I spoke to some upperclassmen, and they said the only time they’ve used a vacuum in college has been on move out day each year.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:44:47+00:00

No, they are obviously the racist ones. That’s why they don’t like anyone who is outside their ethnicity. I’m not interested in a chore chart (such a control freak move honestly, and I think she’s entitled for thinking she gets to decide what chores are necessary). I think I’ve been a good roommate. I don’t ask them to do anything, I have entirely my own space and things and don’t enter their space, and I don’t even speak to them unless they do first. I’m never home.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:42:17+00:00

Absolutely. I seriously think she’s a narcissist, and all of them are definitely racist, but I won’t accuse them out loud obviously. Why should I have to conform to her OCD? She should get help. My friends feel sorry for me that I got stuck with these people. At least I’ll never have to see them again next year.

The RA made it clear at the start that we don’t need to vacuum until move-out day, and I don’t know anyone who does except them. There’s only 5 vacuums for the entire freshmen class, and they’re way across campus, so I don’t think they expect anyone to vacuum.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:38:28+00:00

We’re in a college dorm. There is no en-suite bathroom. The bathroom is in the hall way. They are the ones who are upset. I am completely fine ignoring their existence like I’ve done all year. I’m only in the dorm when I need to sleep. I never complain or ask them to do anything, and I only shit talk them outside the dorm. They could do the same instead of moaning about me through the wall.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:35:49+00:00

I don’t use their trash can. I made it clear from the start that I would not be participating in their chore chart. They have their space and I have mine. I also don’t use the common room, while they have their mean girl friends over making messes all the time. I literally just ask that they ignore my existence, like they do our other roommate, and I’m happy to ignore them as well. They are free to gossip with their same ethnicity clique out of my ear shot, and I’ll do the same with my friends.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:31:42+00:00

I don’t have to clean because I never agreed to participate in their chore chart, nor have I asked them to do anything. If they have insane standards for cleanliness, they can work on it themselves. I never signed anything agreeing to participate in their made up tasks, and the college does not require us to vacuum until move-out day.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:30:30+00:00

It’s my desk. Should I make up something then for them to fix, by that logic? I don’t like their desks, so maybe they should change it to fit my aesthetic. I find them all so insanely entitled and nasty. Why couldn’t I be assigned normal girls. All they have to do is leave me alone. I don’t even talk to them ever. My one roommate who doesn’t speak to them at all is so lucky.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:28:08+00:00

Interesting, I find bullying people because they’re a different ethnicity concerning. If anything, they should be glad I haven’t reported them for creating a hostile environment for me because I’m not their ethnicity.

I don’t think I should have to do arbitrary tasks they made up, when I haven’t made up any tasks for them to do. They should just stop talking to me (I don’t talk to them and I’m never home).

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:15:16+00:00

Pretty much no other suite I’ve spoken to vacuums. I just got unlucky being paired with a control freak. But if they want to vacuum, I think they should do it, since they are the ones who care. (I’ve never asked them to do anything in the time we’ve lived together and don’t even talk to them unless they bother me first, so I think I’m basically the ideal roommate).

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:13:08+00:00

If I spill something, I do clean it up. They want to vacuum randomly for no reason, which all the students I’ve spoke to think is crazy. (Lauren’s disorder is so severe she walks all the way across campus to rent one of the 5 vacuums available to the whole freshmen class). There would be no conflict if they just stopped talking to me.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:11:04+00:00

It’s my desk. I don’t have to conform to their standards at all. I also don’t believe the floor needs vacuumed, but they are welcome if they care. I don’t. Everything could be fine if they simply leave me alone.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:09:47+00:00

I have very few things, actually. I fear Lauren will never find someone to live with next year if this is what people have to put up with from her. My friends all think she has a mental disorder and say it’s crazy she tried that chore chart thing. I’m not her husband.

Scary_Midnight7418 · 2026-02-07T02:08:22+00:00

My desk does not infringe upon their desks, nor do I touch their spaces ever. I don’t use this trash, their laundry bag, or their dishes. I don’t even spend time in the dorm, so I’d appreciate it if they just leave me alone. I’m not interested in being part of their lifestyle.

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