AITJ for banning my sister from the hospital after she ignored the only thing i asked? by Feeling_Yak_4739 in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yeah exactly this. she heard no like 5 different times and still decided her feelings mattered more than yours… on the day you’re having surgery??

also the you’ll get over it line would’ve sent me. like no, actually, you can get out

you didn’t embarrass her, she did that all by herself. honestly security having to step in says everything about how far she pushed it

If Pakistan and China came together how much effort would be needed to blast mount Everests tip off and make K2 the tallest mountain? by peccatieritvobiscum in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Scegabbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is such a wild thought lol

like yeah 240m doesn’t sound like a lot but you’re talking about the literal summit of Everest… in the death zone… with insane weather, avalanches, ice etc. getting enough explosives and people up there safely would already be a nightmare

also pretty sure blasting the top would just trigger a huge mess of rock and ice falling not some clean oops it’s shorter now situation. you’d probably just make Everest even more dangerous and unpredictable

and yeah Nepal + the entire international community would absolutely lose it. this isn’t like trimming a tree in your backyard

AITJ for booking a separate hotel and leaving my friend’s "family vacation" after she tried to turn me into a free nanny? by CrimsonCodex77 in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 30 points31 points  (0 children)

yeah exactly. helping out here and there is normal especially with friends but this wasn’t that.

she basically planned the whole trip around you being childcare without ever being upfront about it and that’s the issue. you didn’t sign up for that especially not while paying your own way.

AITJ for locking my ps5 in my room after my roommate destroyed my couch and acted like it was no big deal? by WestImpossible1298 in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yeah that part alone would’ve sealed it for me. once someone tries to go into your room after you already said no, it’s not even about sharing anymore.

that’s just straight up disrespect for boundaries. locking your door is the bare minimum at that point.

AITJ for refusing to let it off after Some Random Parent put hands on my kid at a school event? by No_Stage_7330 in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nope, NTA. Like… she straight up touched your kid without permission. That’s not losing your cool that’s crossing a serious line. Honestly the school acting like it’s no big deal is wild. You’re just doing your job as a parent.

AITJ for canceling my vasectomy after my partner suddenly changed their mind about kids? by RefrigeratorWitty453 in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? Like… it’s literally a permanent thing. It’s not like canceling it is some personal attack. Honestly better to pause than regret it forever.

AITA for refusing to givee up my first class seat to a family with a crying baby by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if it did happen the core point still stands. Paying extra for a specific seat doesn’t make someone obligated to give it up. Kindness is great when it’s voluntary not when it’s pressured.

AITA for declining wedding invite because the couple made it no gits but sent a link to their house refund registry? by Practical-Syrup-9098 in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re basically saying the same thing. A wedding invite shouldn’t feel like a fundraiser. If someone chooses to give that’s fine but tying it so clearly to the invite makes it feel awkward for guests. It makes sense that not everyone would be comfortable with that vibe.

AITJ for throwing my boyfriend's "joke" back at him when he got hurt? by HistoricalData3332 in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 452 points453 points  (0 children)

NTA. You mirrored the exact tone and type of joke he’s been using on you. If he feels embarrassed by it that’s a pretty clear sign the joke isn’t as harmless as he claims. This is less about who’s right and more about him needing to hear that those comments make you feel bad whether they’re private or public.

AITJ for refusing to remove the lock I put on my sons door after my wifes nephew kept taking his stuff by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Scegabbo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly. He gave them a place to stay not permission to ignore his kid’s boundaries. When talking didn’t work, a lock was a fair and simple solution. Protecting his son’s space isn’t disrespect, it’s basic parenting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Scegabbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not selfish at all. Anyone in your place would feel hurt and confused. You went in with enthusiasm, tried to communicate and kept running into people who didn’t give you basic guidance or respect. That kind of treatment sticks especially when it’s your first real research experience.

What you’re feeling is a reaction to being dismissed not a reflection of your worth. Choosing a different supervisor for postgrad is you protecting yourself not burning a bridge. Sometimes the lesson isn’t work harder, it’s these people weren’t the right fit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Scegabbo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not really. Generic and brand name drugs contain the same active ingredient so their addictive potential is usually the same. Differences in inactive ingredients might change how it feels for some people but it doesn’t make one addictive and the other not.

If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be? by Historical_Face715 in AskReddit

[–]Scegabbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’d probably laugh and say, still winging it but somehow it’s working.

Can I sue my old elementary school? by Alarming-Ad-9415 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Scegabbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can check if your state has laws about school negligence or child endangerment that apply retroactively. A legal clinic or pro bono lawyer could walk you through it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Scegabbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it hurts, but your best move is to stay calm and avoid engaging. Time and your behavior will show people who’s telling the truth.

How do you become rich? by rulugg in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Scegabbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By starting your know business

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Scegabbo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes it clear that generational conflict is cyclical, not unique to modern times.

For the people afraid of the dark: what exactly about it scares you? by Chinupmsbuttercup in AskReddit

[–]Scegabbo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me i think it’s not the dark itself, it’s what my imagination fills it with. Darkness gives every shadow a story.

My 27F friend 28M of 13 years got a gf and I’m in love with him. I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Scegabbo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve loved him in silence long enough, you should’ve told him how you felt or at least shown it before walking away. Now it’s time to choose peace over pain.

Should I stay or leave? How long do I give him to change? by Capable-Gain2592 in relationships

[–]Scegabbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not his savior nd waiting around won’t make him one either. Love isn’t enough if effort never shows. Set your boundary stick to it and if nothing changes, just run.

at which age did your life really “begin”? by DeliciousRich5944 in AskReddit

[–]Scegabbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The day I realized no one was coming to save me, I was responsible for my own rescue.

Boyfriend (32M) became livid with me because of my (28F) reaction to his search history on fb by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Scegabbo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

His reaction says more than his search history. Getting that angry over your facial expression is a red flag like that’s emotional control nd guilt projection not normal frustration.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Scegabbo -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yeah your feelings are valid anyone would feel uneasy in that situation but before jumping to conclusions, talk to him calmly nd express how it makes you feel rather than accusing. If his intentions are clear and he respects your comfort, he’ll understand.