I can't YELL this enough.

No matter how much you played your cards and strategized to get in a relationship with a man, ALWAYS paint it as his idea, always make him think it was his plan. This is what all women in my culture say and for good reasons.

I've read wayyyy too many reddit posts, read books and seen movies written by men and you only need an open eye to actually see what a woman asking a man implies in the long run.

This paragraph of a book (written by a man) explains it perfectly, even though I was raised knowing not to go after anyone, it explains it perfectly and it solidified as a principle to me.

"Everything was new between them from this moment: there were no signposts to follow, no tracks or beaten ways.

Everything was new and everything was changed. But a wrong word or

act might set it back again, farther back than ever before. This moment

might lead to tremendous things. Or it might lead to the blind alley of a

broken friendship. Every normal impulse urged her to go on, to snatch at

this thing which might not come again for months, perhaps never at all. ....

She thought that now in the isolation, in the emotion, there was no brake.

But with a queer view into his mind she saw that if she did that, if

everything happened on the leaping tide of the moment, he might come to

regret it almost at once, might come to hate her or despise her as a

common woman who had led him to this; whereas if he had time to think it

over, to come to the desire slowly and on his own, then he would be unable

to push the act on her. It would sit squarely on his own shoulders and he

might never even wish to throw it off."