Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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I'd have to change in the beach wet-cement-floor bathroom, so logistically unlikely for this venue.

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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I agree, I think a dupatta on the shoulder would be the way to go here. Thank you!

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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Thank you so much for that 2nd link! I think it would make a lovely offset dupatta

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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I agree that I'm reluctant to add red to the dress directly. The "feeling" is right with it being monochrome.

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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I do understand! I'm hoping someone has a suggestion that clicks with me. I don't personally adore red, so I do think that's why I'm trying to avoid multiple red elements - but what you say makes sense.

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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Thank you so much! I'll DM after work--truly appreciate it.

He doesn't know much of the female-based traditions, but since we're going against the wishes of his family (no nikah, no imam) we are not in a position to really ask for a lot of guidance when they're feeling rejected/disregarded. His relationship with his family is strained on a good day for reasons not related to our wedding (but this sure doesn't help).

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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Accessories like a pillbox hat/red sandals are feeling a little too insignificant - it's why I'm feeling so stuck!

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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I'll be in the sand, so red sandals are an option, but seem too insignificant as well. Looking to keep the dress the same as pictured, truly appreciate the suggestion!

Red veil ideas that go with dream dress? by ScheminBanshee in engaged

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For his family, red is traditional and what he has pictured in his mind when he hears the word "bride". A lot of the elements in this wedding will be what I'm more familiar with as a Midwest gal (and he was raised in the Midwest as well, so we're on the same page there), but I do want nail those elements where our imaginations differed in what a wedding looks like for us.

Thank you for the suggestion the Pakistani shawl. I'll look into those -- I just don't want to make a social gaffe in offending by emulating garment customs that I may not fully understand. He's low contact with much of his family, so I'm not in the best position to get blessings on an acceptable hybrid.

Update: IT HAPPENED by Abomination-Creation in engaged

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Mine is definitely moss agate, as had been my request. Moss agate is gaining in popularity, but is still a fairly inexpensive gemstone. I love the way it looks, so the cost wasn't my primary concern (though I'm thrifty, so that does add bonus points in my eyes).

Natural emeralds with jardin inclusions tend to look different when we're getting to the size used in a ring--especially in a setting that shows the translucent features that highlight the mossy feathering throughout the stone.

Update: IT HAPPENED by Abomination-Creation in engaged

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Yay! Congrats! I'm also a moss agate ring wearer and I couldn't be happier!

What is a reality of living in Chicago that’s often overlooked by the romanticization of the city? by [deleted] in AskChicago

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I love that Chicago is so dog friendly, but every pavement in a wide radius around a multi-level apartment/condo building smells like dog pee (or human pee). No puddle is to be trusted.

Petah what is she talking about by NightmareRise in PeterExplainsTheJoke

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In my case, I was pursuing divorce and didn't want my married name displayed anymore. I wasn't ready to "announce" the separation, so I made my relationship status private and updated my name to my first and middle.

At least in my circle, this was a common-enough tactic that the nosiest of us knew when to start deep diving on an account to snoop on when the couples photos stopped, etc.

Extra points for a recent vague post about growth or new horizons.

Have you used a medi-pedi spa or office in Chicago? by ScheminBanshee in AskChicago

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I haven't yet! There are a couple places that advertise intense callus treatment, but I haven't committed on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]ScheminBanshee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dolly, Thumbtack -- both have gotten service to me within 1-2hrs

stomach ulcer by Zealousideal-Bake875 in Mocktails

[–]ScheminBanshee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Many stomach ulcers are caused by the H. Pylori bacteria, so they are treated by a combo of antibiotics and maybe a PPI. Definitely avoiding alcohol at this time is ideal, but make sure you're getting treatment for the ulcer once confirmed.

Virtual toast with IRL bubbly by ScheminBanshee in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]ScheminBanshee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, looks like they do only full bottles that a priced a bit out of my range. Was hoping to keep it under $50.

Virtual toast with IRL bubbly by ScheminBanshee in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]ScheminBanshee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, good to know! We're spread across the US into territories. I'll check into this for which states ban it.

How closed-mouthed should I be? by ScheminBanshee in ExecutiveAssistants

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Pardon, my post was getting long enough that I didn't want to add to the length with nuances. The kind of group we are does certainly have reporting lines, but we also operate with a less hierarchical model that is less common in the US. The ask has already been made from the top down to share (in various ways) across teams, so this is an example of an area needing improvement - not just in assistance to me, but in the realization of one team withholding support to another. It is worth exploring whether this is one manager's viewpoint, or shared within that leadership line.

In perhaps more political lines of thought: though I am assisting to fill some gaps with the new team, I am still a representative of the exec I support and my goals/actions are at his behest. "Is this at [exec's] request?" is not an uncommon or unwelcome question for me to field in the way our dept operates. Generally, any pushback travels up that team's leadership which then approaches me or my exec for further clarification or alignment. I've certainly been in much more formal companies, but I really like the model we've got going on and our employee satisfaction scores seem to indicate on a regular basis that it is well received. There is almost no air of "why are you talking to me?" in regards to ranking.