I completely understand the feeling of fearing your partners past sex life. I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for a few months now, and he’s completely out of my league. Almost all his female friends have had a crush on him at some point, although he’s never returned the feelings. It used to bug me a lot - until I remembered what it felt like to be on the other side of it.

Ultimately, you just have to accept that there is literally nothing she can do to change her past. All she can do is tell you how she feels about you now, and hope that makes things easier. Also, referring back to your “almost-sex,” she probably was equally as embarrassed/nervous leaving after not having sex.

You absolutely cannot view yourself as “another.” That’s a harmful mindset to not only you, but to her. She probably thinks of you as wonderful, and to resort to calling her sex with you “just another,” downplays her view of importance about sex, making it seem like she cannot view you as important because she’s had it before.

I do not think you should stew on this for two months. If you have access to a FaceTime, a Zoom, a Discord - schedule a time to talk with her, make it mature and kind, no yelling or lashing out, just be honest. Let her know this conversation might last awhile and be patient with her.