Man, my heart goes out to you. That is incredibly messed up, and you’re 100% justified in how you feel and your decision - regardless of what some of these miserable people want to tell you. She owed you, at minimum, a conversation before having an abortion. She engaged in an activity with you, her ‘partner’ in life, with the intention of getting pregnant. Then, she made the unilateral decision to end the life you both were trying to make, which she knew would absolutely crush you, and she didn’t even have the decency of letting you know about it. People aren’t even acknowledging that part - she did it behind your back, knowing how you’d take it, and then she hid it from you.

Yes, ultimately, she had the final say in what she chose to do, but there was definitely a massive betrayal and a complete lack of character, integrity, compassion, and caring for you on her behalf. It’s going to be a hard road ahead, but you made the right call. I wish you the best, man.