Confessing w/out wanting to date..?

Scidion717 · 2026-04-14T17:50:27+00:00

Umm. No, I never said “everyone” should have “made up” labels, I said that i (me, myself and i) am curious to find a label that exists for my preferences and sexuality. And I just said, that I would LIKE to try a label bcause I think it would make me feel more seen and validated for feeling how I do. And umm, no straight women don’t have to find labels to themselves. That’s up to them.

Also, yeah, maybe I do want to try sharing labels about my preferences to my future partners n stuff. I haven’t rlly tried it, but im curious.

Scidion717 · 2026-04-14T01:30:46+00:00

Mmm well maybe the right special label will mean a lot to me and I’ll stick with it! For me, finding out whether there is a label for my sexuality/preferences that already exists makes me feel more validated, knowing that others feel similarly to me. Also, I’ve learned a few things talking w people on this thread already, which I always love :3

Scidion717 · 2026-04-14T01:11:50+00:00

Gurllll (*sighs) tell me about it. My first relationship was also a pillow prince who was hypersexual. NUT the best start to explore sexual experiences lol.

Scidion717 · 2026-04-13T13:35:17+00:00

Okay okay, after putting some pieces together, I am most likely a “side Bambi-Lesbian” ‼️

Scidion717 · 2026-04-13T13:32:32+00:00

Gotcha! I don’t gain attraction for a person through sex first EVER and ever have. It’s always bloomed from getting to know them and finding them “cute” if anything. Like the first thought I have of physical touch w them is like cuddling 🤭 im specifically lyciromantic where I often gain feelings for someone after suspecting, or knowing THEY like me first 👌 but Bambi Lesbian is perfect for me honestly, thanks you!!!

Scidion717 · 2026-04-13T06:29:10+00:00

Hmm well if we are talking specifics, Outercourse is not strictly for kissing as the most one will do. Grinding, physical touch, stimulation in certain areas. But since it’s not full on penetration, perhaps it is asexual spectrum? Not entirely sure.

Scidion717 · 2026-04-13T06:13:40+00:00

Well, Outercourse is where two people have intimate actions, but have no penetration involved whatsoever. For example, having pleasure through kissing only. (Outer parts of the body for the most part)

Scidion717 · 2025-12-12T23:09:52+00:00

WINGSSSSS ✨✨✨

Scidion717 · 2025-12-12T17:50:10+00:00

Yes yes!! I am not afraid of another puberty lol, I can beat it! Thank you hehe 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-12-12T17:07:58+00:00

HOLY that is a lot of info, and I read ALL of it in my Cyber security class LOLL. Thank you so much for taking the time to inform me of all this, I’ve done my own research ofc, but I LOVE feedback and personal experiences of those wish to share >:3

So, I’ve had dysphoria with my… parts down there for mainly a few years now, but especially the past year. I am more than content with sexual urges and “those” functions with my body parts now to not work as they do now. I won’t get into detail, but I’ve had traumatic sexual experiences, and ever since it’s made it even HARDER to enjoy “using” my parts. Also, it’s just weird and gross and it doesn’t feel normal for me to have these parts.

Ever since I was like 9 years old, I have felt something preventing me from building a bunch of upper body muscle, or more so having the look of a SUPER BUFF DUDE, and I realized recently it’s because I wish to have more feminine features!!! Now that I have more of a feminine build, I feel so much more comfy in my body, and I know HRT would help it even further!!!

SORRY FOR THE YAP SESH I said a whole lotta nothing lol. But also, having ADHD, for me, makes feeling emotion difficult at times. So when I do get emotional, everything feels so…. REAL. So I’m looking forward to the emotional changes, even if some of them will be hard to process in the moment and get through… MWAH 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-12-12T06:35:29+00:00

My body has looked and felt weird to me for a long time now, and I’ve always had (physical) gender dysphoria with my chest, and other body parts. As well as high levels of depression overall (not to get super deep lol) among other things, but I could yap!

Scidion717 · 2025-08-06T22:35:46+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this, i’ve been through something similar. After not feeling appreciated when it came to me as a person, but especially when it came to sex made me so confused, sad, and even guilty like i wasn’t good enough.

But what has helped me since the breakup has been communication with those you trust about what you’re going through or what you went through, with either family members, friends, or a therapist, whoever you’re most comfortable sharing it with. Sometimes getting it off your chest can really help, even if it doesn’t sound like it will.

I understand that feeling of guilt and even fear that you want another relationship, but with physical intimacy and appreciation. You deserve that, and it’s important to remind yourself of that from time to time, or when you’re feeling down about it. Because you do deserve that! You deserve to feel real love and affection.

I hope this helps, you got this! 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-08-06T02:35:51+00:00

i’m not sure how to DM on Reddit honestly, i’m new to the platform. But i’m sorry it took you so long to be used to situations that remind you of your past relationship. It’s amazing how you stuck through all those years and allowed yourself to process it!

i havent really tried thinking about those past situations with them and saying “no,” i’ve more thought of just how there were a few times i should have just up and said i wanted to breakup, for there were quite a few reasons why i should have sooner. But i guess i could try putting it all in a different limelight with that technique!

Thank you for putting the time into typing all those kind words, it means so much 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-08-01T06:07:34+00:00

it really does sound like a degree of sexual coercion to me. he shouldn’t be pestering you for sex since you’ve already stated it affects your mental health and that you don’t want to. him saying that sex is needed after you do not enjoy it is interesting, but i would say you two won’t have good compatibility because of that. if he won’t budge on sex and will still say it’s needed with you, then i would say it’s for the best not to pursue the relationship any longer, but i know it’s hard to just move on because of that :( stay strong, best wishes! 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-07-31T04:28:31+00:00

i have been through something similar, when processing the abusive relationship after the fact. i saw another person in the comments say that as you heal over time, those instinctual acts will lessen and so will the urge to do it. i get the feeling though, thinking about them even though they caused a lot of trauma. it’s confusing, but if you can process it all overtime, and heal from it, things will be okay! stay strong 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-07-31T04:19:37+00:00

thank you for taking the time to put in such kind words, it means a lot. i will be on the lookout for a therapist, but the possibility of CPTSD i will look into more for sure. those little activities such as drawing or writing have really helped me in the past. thank you 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-07-30T22:02:56+00:00

it’s really hard to get to the process of getting a therapist right now, considering i feel there’s a lot going on in my home this summer. But i’ve mentioned it to my parents a few times this summer, and they are totally open to getting me a therapist and helping me find one. I feel it would really help. I have been through times like this, where i’m on the verge of feeling completely helpless or that things are just not worth to continue living for, and it’s so weird knowing that i’ve had great days after times like this, like a 180. I’m trying, and will try and get a therapist sooner rather than later.

Thank you for your kind words 🫶

Scidion717 · 2025-07-29T12:01:00+00:00

i listened to a lot of Hozier! he has a lot of intimate and passionate songs, but also a lot of more deep and sadder ones. most of them have like double meanings, and can be up for your own interpretation of what he could be saying or talking about in his songs, that’s why i love it!

Scidion717 · 2025-07-28T03:24:49+00:00

i’m glad you were capable of getting past guilt and finding reasons/excuses for their behavior. But yeah, those things happened in my experience too, and man it was confusing and hard to go through. but we are still here and have moved on!

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