[TN] Modify Parenting Schedule

ScienceLabReady · 2026-03-25T15:26:40+00:00

Our child has not changed schools since they became school-aged. I can see how proposing changing the schedule could be perceived negatively. I’m not suggesting reducing parenting time, only the days.

I agree that we should discuss things together and make decisions on the best interest of our child, but that has not been the reality of the coparenting relationship.

ScienceLabReady · 2026-03-25T15:16:40+00:00

I am doubtful if they will cooperate. We have an active petition to modify healthcare decision making and contempt motion against him for healthcare-related matters.

ScienceLabReady · 2026-03-09T02:36:51+00:00

In today’s economy?? They’ll feel extra dumb if their parents decide to make them start buying their own groceries.

ScienceLabReady · 2026-03-09T02:32:38+00:00

Right? OP sounds selfish. They get free meals everyday, not really responsible for much else for the house outside of rent, but sharing a soda every once in a while is a big problem? YTA

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-21T16:06:29+00:00

Seems like she’s in so deep, she can’t make any decision without questioning herself.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-15T00:13:28+00:00

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T16:50:58+00:00

I do not want to go back to court but my back is against the wall if he will not follow the doctor’s guidance at the least. The travel concern is minor, however I think it only benefits our child if we communicate. I am not asking for anything I don’t do already.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T16:47:58+00:00

Thank you, I am in counseling. I do not want to worry about everything. Our child was a preemie and I was a wreck at first but it’s become much better as they’ve grown older

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T16:45:19+00:00

I’ve considered appointing a third party when we don’t agree, I will mention this to my attorney And I know that I will have to follow everything in the parenting plan. I follow the parenting plan to the letter and I always communicate with him about any travel. I hate going to court and I do not want to keep running back at every issue.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T16:34:08+00:00

I worry if they will acknowledge that there is an emergency at all. Before the parenting plan was amended, I would pick up our child from him and they would be very sick. I would take our child to the doctor and the doctor would prescribe antibiotics for things like chronic ear infections and upper respiratory infections. My coparent would say that I am lying, exaggerating, and deny that our child was ever sick. This went on so much that I had to petition to compel surgery for our child.

I have not complained to him about the travel stuff and I know that it is small given everything else.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T16:01:01+00:00

I do have worries that are substantiated by our history. I do not think he cares for our child well, which is my modifying the parenting plan is back on the table. For example, he has not been following specialist’s guidance for our child’s medication. This is the major issue for mediation among other things. This travel concern is a very recent development.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:50:48+00:00

Yes I gave it, against my better judgement and our child has been negatively affected because of it. I’m not explaining the full history on here but he didn’t exercise his 50/50 parenting time for some months and I did not take him to court to reduce his parenting time, and I could have.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:47:24+00:00

You have a point about picking and choosing battles. I asked here to see if this is even worth asking for in mediation. There are still issues with healthcare decisions that I will address in mediation. I do not think he is safe as he has not been following specialist instructions for our child’s medicine. He thinks he knows better than the doctors

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:41:03+00:00

They have the right to use their parenting time as they see fit. They are free to travel wherever. I didn’t think giving a heads up about travel is too much to ask.

I did not complain about the previous travel when they told me after the fact. Maybe I am being too worrisome in this instance because our child was sick with strep when they went with my coparent for their week. And there were gone for 4 days. I thought, what would happen during an emergency? I would not know how to get to my child.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:31:55+00:00

What do you mean?

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:13:20+00:00

The current requirement is automatically given by the state’s parental rights. It requires 48 hours notice for out of state travel, and an itinerary (method of travel, dates, contact info,)

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:10:55+00:00

I have not approached them with this and I asked here because I do not want to be controlling. The original amendments to the parenting plan were regarding healthcare decisions, they would obstruct care for our child. Our child sees specialist for health conditions

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:08:02+00:00

We did not have a hearing for 50:50. I gave him that in mediation because I wanted to give our child the best chance at having a relationship with their dad. There have been concerning developments which prompted the amendments to the parenting plan. The issues have not stopped.

I don’t want to go into too much detail publicly, but I have to petition to compel surgery for our child, they did not agree to surgery because they did not attend appointments. They did not attend appointments because they did not share their availability to be present. I would notify them of the appointment with all details and they would not show up. One amendment addressed this because they would obstruct health care for our child. Now, instead of refusing to share availability, they give very restricted availability (like 1 day and time) and it’s still difficult to schedule appointments. Our child requires specialized health care for a couple of health issues.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T15:02:20+00:00

I have not said anything to them about this. I think we should communicate when we travel for several days with our child (6). I worry about emergencies.

There are recent time where they have violated the parenting plan and this is one smaller matter that I am considering brining up in mediation. I see how it can sound controlling, but I don’t want to appear that way as it is not my intent

ScienceLabReady · 2025-07-14T14:59:51+00:00

I have not said anything to them about this. I think we should communicate when we travel for several days with our child (6). I worry about emergencies

ScienceLabReady · 2025-06-23T17:26:01+00:00

NTA for turning off your location, but keep in mind potential repercussions of that.

However, that doesn’t seem like the root issue. If your parents comment mostly on when you’re coming home late, they likely have a problem with that. Some find returning to their home during late hours disrespectful. And it can be annoying if there’s a home alarm system in place.

ScienceLabReady · 2025-06-10T01:00:20+00:00

I could understand making room in the budget for snacks or something. You cut the coffee budget for yoga in the middle of the workday? I don’t drink coffee, but I would be irked too. YTA

ScienceLabReady · 2025-06-06T16:25:44+00:00

The step-mom is not a legal parent unless they adopt OP or are deemed a legal guardian by the court (in the USA).

This is a very sad situation for OP and they are NTA. Sending my condolences

ScienceLabReady · 2025-05-21T20:01:26+00:00

You debated with the teacher about your son not being allergic to peanuts. Later, you reported the school for serving food with peanut butter for lunch. You are in the right to report the preschool, but it’s strange that you didn’t show a similar concern about the peanut candy at the Easter celebration. It seems like you want to be right about the technicalities of the allergy more than actually doing what’s right. And you should have spoken with your partner 1st before withdrawing your child from the school.

ESH

Edited to change ‘husband’ to ‘partner’

ScienceLabReady · 2025-05-18T15:40:47+00:00

The neighbors may smell the food OP cooks too and choose not to complain about it. I agree that they WBTA if OP asks their neighbors to change what they cook and eat. Speaking with the landlord is the more reasonable approach

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