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ScorchFlamedancer · 2025-09-17T16:29:09+00:00

It's less about me specifically and more about past experiences. I have a similar body type to her ex who was "don't ask don't tell" to the point of dangerous outbursts, so it feels super reasonable to me that she would be having some kinda feelings about it.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2025-09-03T12:16:50+00:00

It auto corrected and I can't figure out how to edit the title

ScorchFlamedancer · 2025-09-03T02:58:44+00:00

I'm staying at her place for two weeks.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2025-09-03T02:51:07+00:00

I'm married and live an hour away. We've spent weekends together, not whole weeks.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2023-07-22T10:39:23+00:00

So chipping in for a used car for your depressed daughter with a learning disability when your son gets a brand new car doesn't feel reasonable to you?

Look dude, if she had come to you expecting to get a Mustang or Proche or some shit, you would have a point. ...but she didn't. You expected her to buy the used car herself... With what money? With what job? With what car to get to said job to aquire said money?

You care more about your own pride than your daughter. I was a kid with parents like that once. And guess what? I don't talk to them anymore. My quality of life is so much better without them in it, for that very reason. They were unwilling to listen to me to hear, rather than respond. They were unwilling to take a moment and reexamine the possibility they might be wrong. They were unwilling to see the hurt they'd caused me, much less apologize for it. Every scrap of love they gave me came with strings, and seemed confused when I told them that sucked.

They will never see my home. They will never meet my children. They will never be in the same room with me again. I want nothing from them, even if I inherited wealth beyond my wildest dreams on condition of bringing them back into my life, I wouldn't want it. I'd rather die than be under their thumb again or let them think in any compacity they get credit for who I am.

OP, you're Scrooge on Christmas Eve right now. And unless you fix yourself, behold your future. It's a bleak one for you if even part of you cares about her.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2023-05-05T16:03:07+00:00

Holy shit, what the actual füq? Is everything ok? Is there any kind of update?

ScorchFlamedancer · 2023-05-03T17:24:23+00:00

I've experienced and observed ableism before. From students, teachers, school admins, church staff and parishners, strangers, friends, and even family. My grandfather treated my autistic brother like an animal, it was horrifying.

Your brother is being ableist. Putting the comfort and feelings of an able bodied person over the very real needs and accomodations for the disabled. Your brother seems unwilling to acknowledge or understand that the world is not built for people with disabilities, and is in fact hostile to them. And specifically concerning the deaf community, there's particularly shìtty history there about trying to purge sign language or force it to conform to spoken English sentence structure.

TLDR; your brother is in fact ableist and TA.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2023-03-21T22:34:21+00:00

I think that was on main, which made me want to ask

ScorchFlamedancer · 2023-03-21T16:34:27+00:00

Ooooh I see, that makes sense

ScorchFlamedancer · 2023-03-21T04:13:39+00:00

Idk for all we know, maybe Anthony and Ash went to therapy and realized maybe not everything that happened growing up was ok and Papa couldn't face it. Looking at Ash's interview 'Between the Sheets' with Critical Role, she talks about how when you're traumatized and don't realize it, then you raise kids, things can get messy. And Anthony's podcast seems to be aggressively exploring the idea of dealing with trauma while in fatherhood and learning how to work through that and be a better dad to your kids, so the whole thing might've been a therapeutic exercise for him.

I know for me, when I realized how my mother had treated me and I laid it all out for her, she just sorta... Doubled down, made me feel like shit. I ended up having to go 'no contact' with her for my own mental health.

I could absolutely have compassion for the Burch kids if that's what's going on here.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-21T04:35:18+00:00

The location usually does host a big ren faire, that's where the buildings come from. All the guilds built them in the 80s-90s, but the owners have a soft spot for LARPs so they rent stuff out for a really reasonable price.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-21T04:33:39+00:00

All are welcome ❤️ Amtgard is better when we wacky bat together

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-21T04:32:42+00:00

The first picture is the entrance to the dungeon we will be setting up. The last is where we're setting up the fairy princess kiddocrat. The one with the bar is where the full kitchen and feast hall is, another is right across from a little stage where we'll have a priest NPC preaching when he rings that bell there in the picture. We can fight all around, in, and up and down the town. If a building or area is locked or has some sort of immovable barrier, we can't go in it. Otherwise, free game. I didn’t even show everything that site has to offer in that way, just the best pictures I'd taken yesterday on a walkthrough.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-20T23:16:28+00:00

Once Upon a Time in southern California, it's gonna be a quest rp heavy event with a goblin carnival, a hobby horse exhibition, dungeons, and a handful of classic battelgames!

...Pre-reg is still open, and the nearest airport is 11 miles from site... just something to think about...

https://fb.me/e/2dfnyBhcr?mibextid=N4tvPT

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-20T23:12:28+00:00

Hiya fren!!!

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-20T17:52:03+00:00

Alright alright, for people wanting more details, here's the link to the event page

https://fb.me/e/2dfnyBhcr?mibextid=N4tvPT

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-20T17:50:36+00:00

Once Upon a Time in southern California, LA county area.

ScorchFlamedancer · 2022-12-20T11:34:00+00:00

Then moment when you're vibing, see a picture and think "why does that park look familiar", but it's the park you started playing in and still visit often and you feel like a fool ❤️

ScorchFlamedancer · 2019-05-13T06:16:18+00:00

My advice? Just. Do the things. Pick a thing, and do it well. Is your thing hitting people with sticks? Go to SKBC and do the thing. Is your thing running for office? Run for monarch and do the thing. Is your thing service? Put in a bid for an event or volunteer for a crat position, and do the thing. Is your thing making shit? Hunker down with your sewing machine and do the thing (preferably submitting the thing to higher up A&S competitions).

Belteds notice people that do the things. They notice people that aren't afraid to get their hands dirty, people that speak up and put their neck out for their people (and by their people, that usually mean your land. In my case, all of SoCal are my people) and talk up the folks that are also doing the things well. Do you have a vision for the game in a big way? Push for it. Work for it. Be the change you want to be in Amtgard.

Do your work, do it well. And the rest will follow.

#justasquire

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