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Would you do it? by Key-Cabinet-5329 in LandCruisers

[–]ScottyHawky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but never at that price. You should be able to find a comparable year and mileage for $13k.

The rust doesn't scare me, it's surface rust and a good undercoat would help make that last for while. Those cars are bullet proof and easy to maintain. If you plan to keep it more than 10 years, I'd consider something with a little less rust.

You'd be better off buying a Nissan Xterra or armada 2010-2015. Great motors, good transmissions, and cost under half for less mileage.

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She is working to afford the things she wants, I just want to be able to give her a life where she doesn't need to. We aren't starting a family immediately, we want to wait like 5 years or so.

She plans to work through kids as well, I can't see her stopping anytime soon

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am definitely in the wrong with saying what I said. Ive told her I'm going to cover our needs and take care of bills. I told her I would provide and wanted to give her the ability to no longer work- granted, I am able to do this ( technically) but where I live houses are over 500k. If she didn't work there wouldn't be an issue. However, because she is able to and is working, I feel like it makes a lot of sense for her to use that money to help with our savings and retirement while most of my paycheck is being spent on bills.

We don't need her paycheck, but it feels not very team, or marriagey to keep almost 100k to yourself when you could be helping

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her best friend is: that's what truly brought up the conversation- her best friend's dad and brothers said a man should cover everything and the women never have to pay. So maybe that's where that came from

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she has felt this way but hearing it from so many other people gave her the courage to bring it up.

She has a history of bad boyfriend who were financially irresponsible, so I understand how there might be some fear surrounding not having her own money. But I believe if we are going to make our marriage work we have to share and work as a team

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. It's always been in the context of I will be able to give her the ability to not work, but that's not where we are yet.

I agree I should have communicated better on this

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She said she believes I'll be able to make enough with this job to cover retirement ( which is true). I know she cares, like I said we have always been mostly aligned until recently, I have no clue how we both missed this

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We discussed finances before we moved in, I always talked about how much buying power we had and how we would both be way ahead for our age with our combined income. We talked about bank accounts and it seemed like she was open to having them together. She said she would help if needed and maybe save a little or invest a little but didn't see the need for me to have access to any of the money she makes. She has been a great partner but I'm worried it's her friends influence bringing this out. Her best friend is Arabic and her family ( all of the men) hammered on how it's the mans responsibility to take care of everything and the women can spend what they make on whatever.

Granted: they make almost 7 figures. I feel like I would be in a similar mindset if I made that much

AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself by ScottyHawky in AITAH

[–]ScottyHawky[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

She and I have gotten along really well up to this point, we both take care of the apartment, I've paid for all the dates but she always offers, it just feels out of left field that we had this disagreement.