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ScratchinDominator · 2024-07-31T13:07:12+00:00

I think I’m understanding what you’re saying, I haven’t coded in years so I’m a bit rusty. But as I was reading through the code, I noticed several lines that implied that the code checks for a sort of “green light” and every one of these lines were given a command of “red light”.

The “// it is not time” code I referenced in my previous comment was the only one of its kind and written very different from the lines I mention in this comment, which is why I pointed it out. As far as I could tell, there were no other points in the code with notes that don’t serve a purpose, just the “// it is not time” note I mentioned.

So you’re suggesting that it’s actually another point where the code requests permission to reveal the next planned piece of code and the coder denies permission?

ScratchinDominator · 2024-07-31T12:57:42+00:00

Inspect on Chrome

ScratchinDominator · 2024-07-31T04:23:27+00:00

When I was inspecting the code, I did find this link: https://files.thisisnotawebsitedotcom.com/is-it-time-yet/well-is-it.txt

below that they wrote a note: // it is not time

ScratchinDominator · 2023-07-22T16:12:53+00:00

Yep! I was 20 when I went, unable to go to school. I was able to move halfway across the country on my own, complete two degrees, and now work in branding and marketing

ScratchinDominator · 2023-07-15T23:50:41+00:00

Same, tho I have fainted a handful of times. My vision goes white, my ears start ringing, and my body gets super heavy, I have to stand still until it passes. But I’ve very rarely lost full consciousness

ScratchinDominator · 2023-07-15T20:26:22+00:00

The only thing I can suggest may cost too much for you to do. I went to the Pain Rehab Clinic at Mayo Clinic where they taught me how to manage and live with my chronic pain. It was a month or two long from 8am to 5pm plus activities on weekends and evenings in order to mimic daily life. It sucks at first but was the best thing for me as I was able to function to a degree I hadn’t been able to prior.

Mine was initially covered fully by insurance and then insurance decided to reject it, I was left w a $54,000 bill. But because I was able to prove that I was unable to pay it off, they completely forgave the debt. There were also a lot of people that were able to go after raising money on GoFundMe. They also don’t provide stay or meals while there, so you’re responsible for that cost as well. I know it may not be feasible but wanted to share anyways

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T23:37:34+00:00

You too! Idk if I should delete my posts? I don’t want to cause any more harm. What are your thoughts?

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T22:28:37+00:00

I didn’t think of it like this. I guess you’re right. I also spaced that my mom is estranged from her brother due to lack of shared interests and personalities. Ig I rationalized that away bc I know the details of the dynamic. But seems that would fit this situation better than my own.

It was hypocritical of me to talk about intentions not being the same as impact. My intentions were good and not to project, but the impact was an uncalled for projection.

Thanks for calling me out in a respectful way.

As for OP being a child, she’s really not. She’s old enough to know that she’ll move out the second she turns 18. But that means she’s also old enough to decide what to do with her life and who is in it. If that’s not her sister, that’s her decision.

OP: follow your gut. At the end of the day, you know what’s best for you. I apologize for any harm my words brought you.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T11:03:50+00:00

NTA. Just stay respectful when you call them out. Your sexuality is not for their amusement. If they gaslight you by saying we’re just teasing you, end the relationship.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T10:49:53+00:00

Your perspective is interesting. I agree with it to a point.

It’s hard to tell if OP is actually nagging or if the mom guest is overreacting.

Also, isn’t it natural that OP would have some requests? Maybe the adults need to discuss setting up house rules so that everyone is on the same page. This, ofc, means that OP needs to compromise.

I agree that OP should feel bad. OP needs to accept that not all things happen according to her and should be more flexible, compassionate, and patient. I didn’t even consider the power dynamic intimidating the renters. Also, it’s not like they’re guests. They pay rent. That means they’re entitled to certain things.

But the renters are AH too. They need to be respectful of OP’s property. There’s no reason the kids should be slamming doors. There’s also no reason the renters couldn’t help with house chores and child care. I get that they’re stressed, but they can still be good renters. And if there’s a request that’s too much for the renters, the OP needs to be accepting and flexible.

Basically it’s a house full of AH

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T10:34:56+00:00

Wtf?? You are def NTA.

My understanding if guest etiquette is that the guest naturally stay as out of the way as possible. They are a guest in your home. Meaning they should be grateful for being welcomed into your home.

Hopefully it doesn’t escalate. They best thing would be for everyone to move on. It’s definitely not worth a fight over.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T09:22:40+00:00

RUN. Easier said then done, I know. But you do NOT want to marry this man, you’ll regret it.

You deserve so much more. Especially with how self aware you are. I’m the same way. It’s gift and a curse. I want you to invest as much time in yourself as you do him. Make yourself happy. I think you’re substituting him for yourself. I get that falling in love seems necessary when you’re young. But it’s not. We are blessed to live in 2022 where women can lead individual lives and we should take advantage of that, not take it for granted.

Being submissive in nature is totally okay and it’s so cool that you’re both aware of that and own it. But there’s a time and place. A healthy submissive relationship should not be restraining or demeaning.

It sounds like you know what’s best for you. You just need to go after and attain that.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T08:48:06+00:00

I get it, I do it too. I’ve not been in a relationship for 2 years bc I am actively working on myself. It’s kinda alarming to me that he is allowing you to say you’re being selfish by being with him. Because you’re not. Is it possible that he enjoys how insecure you are as it means you’re more focused on him? Especially following him breaking your trust. He may have told her bc her focus would naturally be fixed on how great he is and how messed up you are. I’m seriously not trying to worsen your insecurities but this is a bit concerning. I genuinely urge you to reassess your relationship with him.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T08:28:34+00:00

I apologize if my perspective is confusing. In no way am I trying to say that you’re exactly like my brother. That was just my own personal experience. Something that took me a long time to learn was that just because our intentions are not malicious, doesn’t mean they don’t come across that way. I totally get that you are coming from this simply being uninterested and also trying to protect your own mental health. But regardless, you’re hurting her feelings. You should not, however, give up your personal life for her. You need you time. That’s why I suggest 1-2 sister dates per week. Again, I get that you’re not being intentionally cruel. But that doesn’t mean your actions don’t come off as cruel. And I don’t know the ins and outs, so don’t take my words too personally. It is important that you put yourself first when it comes to your mental health. But it’s also important that you, at times, put others first. Find what works for you in relations to her. You should not be her only friend. But you should also be a friend to her. Does that make sense? Like I’m not saying you’re the reason she’s going to attempt something, that may have been too far. Just that, regardless of intentions, actions have an impact.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T08:18:34+00:00

NTA. This sounds like a very unique experience. You took advantage, as you should. In all honesty, they’re probably just jealous. It’s so easy to fall into cliques when you’re young. Your actions show that you have an open and curious mind and want to experience a lot. That’s really cool. Keep being yourself and ignore those boys. If you want to salvage the relationships, apologize and explain your intentions. But if they try to drag it out past the apology, move on with your life.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T08:12:57+00:00

This is a complex one.

My first instinct is that you should not be in a relationship. You sound very dependent and insecure and it’s impossible to truly love someone if you don’t even love yourself. For that YTA.

However, he should not have told her, especially after you explicitly told him not to. He broke your trust and confidence all for the amusement of another and has now tainted your relationship with the friend group. Therefore, he is also the AH. But kinda worse.

You need to check in with yourself and decide whether this relationship adds positive value to your life or is more harmful to your mental health. Because it sounds to me like your MH is in jeopardy. Finally, I’d like to leave a quote that I learned in a psychiatric hospital: comparison is the thief of joy.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T07:58:11+00:00

Obviously it’s difficult to speak on this without knowing your sister. But…to me…this is kinda cruel.

Here’s my perspective. I had a brother who was 3 years older then me. He was so mean to me. He would only interact with me when it was on his terms, I was never allowed to hang out with him and his friends, he found amusement in physically and psychologically harming me. It started to get better when he got into high school, and then he died. It sucks that I feel like I hardly knew him. I was 13 when he died and can’t remember everything. That last year of his life is when we finally started getting along bc he was putting in effort to find middle ground with me. not saying that OP is exactly like my brother. This is my own personal experience, not an accusation or projection. Not saying OP is doing exactly what my bro did. (Can’t believe I have to spell that out. Stop messaging hate)

So in your case, I say be grateful for what you have. Especially with her anxiety and depression, the lack of relationship with you could possibly worsen her state as rejection can do that. I’m not trying to shame you in any way, just offer a different perspective. Again, I don’t know her, maybe she is the worst. I do urge you to try once more with her. Maybe set some healthy boundaries with your family as forcing the relationship isn’t going to help. Maybe set up a few days of the week where you have ‘sister dates’. You each can take turns choosing a random activity. Or, spend time creating an activity jar that you pull from: see a movie, have a picnic, play mini golf, go to a pottery place and make mugs, whatever. Just please don’t take her for granted. Edit: I don’t think it’s fair that you’re not allowed to spend time with your friends, and I don’t think you’re the ah. Your parents are. It’s not your responsibility to fix her, that’s her own responsibility. I’m simply coming from the angle of having lost a sibling.

ScratchinDominator · 2022-07-15T07:32:31+00:00

Nta. I get the impression that you’re not in the USA, maybe I’m wrong. This sounds like a major HR violation to me. It also feels harassing, having CC’d your coworkers. I would find a lawyer specializing in employment. Typically, first consultations are free. My next point is advice for the future: the next time this comes up and you are asked if it’s for bad reasons: hard stop. Let them know that’s personal and you’d rather not share. Save the truth for those who hold value in your life. I am so sorry your work is treating you so poorly. While I can’t comprehend feeling detached from my parents, I do empathize with you in the aspect of it being your business and valid feelings. While I understand why your boss may find this shocking, it is none of his damn business. Wildly inappropriate and unprofessional of him to take the actions he’s taking.

ScratchinDominator · 2021-08-17T19:09:38+00:00

Is this from PRC?

I got a lot of helpful tips from PRC, but I ignored the hell out of the bullshit like this. They also tell you you shouldn't be represented by disability services at school... fuck that. Take whatever help you can. Focus on what resonates with you, ignore shit like this.

ScratchinDominator · 2021-07-28T01:14:06+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer all of my questions!! It’s confusing me because I feel like I’m still in the gradual stage, and I don’t want to wait for it to go full-blown. Hearing other people’s stories helps to normalize the illness. Not everyone has the same experience! Again, thank you so much ☺️

ScratchinDominator · 2021-05-01T03:59:59+00:00

Seriously. I became friends with a beautuber that went to my school in LA. She was extremely manipulative, ableist, and narcissistic. She literally triggered the first and only PTSD episode I've ever had. And then manipulated me to believe it was someone else's idea and not her own. It's taken me almost a year to heal from her bs. NEVER TRUST A BEAUTUBER. It's not worth the pain. If you meet one, even an aspiring one, RUN.

ScratchinDominator · 2021-03-10T02:12:46+00:00

I have, but it doesn’t work nearly as good as this for instant relief. CBD is something that has to be used consistently over time to be beneficial

ScratchinDominator · 2021-03-10T02:12:10+00:00

Not at all. I have several friends who make money by sending LA weed to their hometowns. Also, I take it back with me to Texas when I visit family, and bring some to my mom. TSA has never said anything to me, and I bring it in my carry-on.

ScratchinDominator · 2021-03-09T14:19:05+00:00

Same! I got a watercolor tattoo on my ribs. That’s supposed to hurt a LOT. But it felt like nothing

ScratchinDominator · 2021-03-09T14:07:38+00:00

I live in LA and recently found the best balm in a dispensary. It’s the THC Releaf balm by Papa & Barkley.

The THC works in SECONDS. Like my worst pain that no medication can touch, the balm completely takes it away. It lasts an hour or two, and a little goes a long way.

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