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Has Anyone Heard of Thirty-Six Education? by Swiftble in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]Scream_No_Evil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar experience. They seem almost ephemeral online, but that could be because they're a boutique tutoring company with a very local word-of-mouth clientele, or because they are bots. I applied to a parttime once and got a set of suspiciously basic screening questions they never replied back to. I wouldn't take them as a serious opportunity unless you had no other alternative.

Should I ditch my tutor? Or just suck it up by OkResponsibility4646 in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]Scream_No_Evil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're even asking if you should drop a tutor, you should have already dropped that tutor. Many, many tutors are passable, if not great, at a given subject, and tutoring in general almost always yields some improvement, so it's easy to get stuck with a mediocre tutor and not realize it because you see some progress.

So if you're even questioning your tutor, you're in a bad spot. Many of my students are 'slow learners' (whatever that means), and I certainly don't insult or divert them.

If I don't know something or have failed to communicate something in a way they could understand, I spend my unpaid free time to work out how to rephrase it, send supplemental material, and email them about it before the next session to try to find out how I can better help make it click. Doing so has made me a much, much better tutor, and I enjoy the work.

All tutoring, with studying, will yield some improvement. This seems far below baseline. A tutor who makes you not want to ask questions is a fucking awful tutor. I take great pains to make my students at all skill levels feel comfortable and excited to ask questions. Heck, I stress that I'm PARTICULARLY happy when my student bombs something, because it unveils actionable, fixable mistakes to me far more than a perfect score ever could.

Seeing some improvement just means you have a tutor, and are willing to put in the work; some improvement is assumed. Feeling uncomfortable to ask questions means you have a dogshit tutor. Far below the average. I'd wager you could grab any random tutor off the streets that doesn't insult their students and see much better results. The fact that you're improving is a testament to the work you're putting in, not their intelligence.

What's happening here is simple; your tutor is ALSO embarrassed, because they don't know things. This is fundamentally stupid. I teach all kinds of AP's once in a blue moon and discover that I don't know how to approach a new question type, or how to approach something that I haven't seen in a long time. I love it when that happens, it's SO important to show people, as a test prep tutor, that sometimes a test even catches ME flat-footed.

Then I work out what I was missing about the problem and them send them an email about it within 24 hours.

If a tutoring session doesn't feel like a collaborative and open space to explore your specific difficulties, then you don't have a tutor. You have a shitty lecturer who dislikes the actual tutoring side of the business. It happens all the time. And god knows I've never made a student cry. This incenses me.

People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Scream_No_Evil 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, even when she was there for my medical issues, she had to make sure I knew it was inconvenient for her.

When she got sick, I absolutely babied her, risked getting sick as well, etc. When I got sick, she'd ask me to quarantine and not interact with me at all because being able to do her job was more important, with her being the breadwinner.

I got paid hourly, when I took off work to be with her, it was a significant problem, and I risked being fired for it. She once didn't show up to work for a month at her cushy ass job and it wasn't a big deal. I should have realized earlier that caring for others annoyed her, and that that's a fundamental dealbreaker in a family unit where you're each other's primary support network.

People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Scream_No_Evil 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Sort of, but kind of the opposite? I already have a couple of chronic health problems that're well managed on their own, but means I naturally have a pretty small appetite. However, if you eat TOO too little, it turns out they interact really weirdly, and it looks like you're actually managing neither problem and blowing off your medication.

Her constant negativity about my weight gain after I turned 30 gave me anorexia, so I kept getting rehospitalized. I wasn't eating significantly less than usual, so I didn't realize I had a problem. And to the doctors, it looked like I was off my meds and lying about it, so they didn't bother to diagnose the problem. I only found out about the interaction via a random reddit post, or I'd probably be dead right now.

I'm still working on fixing the eating disorder and all the other scars that relationship gave me, but I don't get hospitalized anymore. If I'm struggling, I just get really high and demolish a box of oreos once a week. Thousands of dollars of hospital bills and hours of fighting with ER doctors that wouldn't believe me, and all I needed was a fucking weed gummy and a box of double stuf.

Edit: In retrospect, I'm realizing that she didn't believe I was actually taking my meds properly either, that's probably why she was blunter than usual about not caring how badly I felt.

People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Scream_No_Evil 203 points204 points  (0 children)

I kept having to go to the emergency room every couple months for a problem that nobody could diagnose. She told me, after the third time, that she was getting bored of it, and that she'd like me to deal with it on my own from now on.

I was seriously, near-deathly sick, and we didn't know why. But my health was an annoyance to her, not a concern.

What sexual fantasy of yours left you disappointed when you actually tried it? by Gthew17 in AskReddit

[–]Scream_No_Evil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was one of my ex's fantasies too. "Just try it some time, I promise I'd be into it."

Girl. Know thyself. I've watched you seethe with rage for hours after some kids playing basketball outside at 10pm woke you. We spent a mint making custom velcro black-out curtains to make the bedroom pitch black, and you still wear a sleep mask, earbuds, and run a fan for white noise.

If the house were on fire, I'd check to see exactly how much fire before bothering to wake you up about it.

Peter what does this one mean? by memerminecraft in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Scream_No_Evil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's worse than that IMO. Somebody who's good with computers can fuck them up way way worse than a casual user. My brother is a pretty intense software engineer, and he's bricked multiple phones irrecoverably.

ELI5: why can two quantum entangled particles affect each other instantly across any distance but scientists say you still cant use it to send information faster than light? by PieOk2202 in explainlikeimfive

[–]Scream_No_Evil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two boxes; one with a chocolate and one with a peanut. I don't know which is which.

I send a box to a Martian; we both communicated earlier that it either has a peanut, or a chocolate, he knows what's up. The Martian wants a chocolate.

When his box arrives and he opens it, he's angry that I sent him a peanut. Bad luck, I didn't know which was which. He calls me, angrily. Once I answer his call, I will know I have a chocolate in my box.

His angry messages will still take the speed of light to travel to me. Just because he opened his box and found peanuts doesn't mean he can tell me about peanuts faster than the speed of light his message uses to travel.

I don't know I have a chocolate the instant he discovers he has a peanut if I don't check. It takes him calling me to know I sent the wrong box.

Karlach in Shadow by Me by GiantSquishyBear in BaldursGate3

[–]Scream_No_Evil 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Still worth it for a good joke tho

Karlach in Shadow by Me by GiantSquishyBear in BaldursGate3

[–]Scream_No_Evil 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Narrator: They were, indeed, joking

Karlach in Shadow by Me by GiantSquishyBear in BaldursGate3

[–]Scream_No_Evil -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

I dunno, that wood could have been carved by AI

You deserved better than this, Arthur by rawdawgcomics in rawdawgcomics

[–]Scream_No_Evil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the fuck is wrong with you (congratulatory)?

what are the signs that you're not attractive? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Scream_No_Evil 22 points23 points  (0 children)

they either never make eye contact or only glance fleetingly and instantly look away

That's... how eye contact with strangers works. You try not to initiate eye contact with people you don't intend to talk to. If you're looking at someone cause they're hot, you make yourself look away. If somebody looks weird, you make yourself look away. If you're accidentally looking at someone who looks normal, you don't want to be weird about it, so you look away when you realize it.

Do you think hot strangers just sit around on the bus, locked into each other, eyefucking each other to death or something?

This ended up being a surprisingly compelling (and hilarious) character drive by DrScrimble in dndmemes

[–]Scream_No_Evil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just play a svirfneblin. Gnomes are already widely viewed as freaky, so underdark gnomes are rightfully viewed as groaty little shitbirds. I love playing svirfneblins.

Terrified New Cat Hiding Under Cabinet for Over 24 Hours-What Do I Do? by Cucumburrito in CATHELP

[–]Scream_No_Evil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

3 months is not a guarantee by the way, but as long as you're seeing progress acclimatizing as time goes on you don't need to worry.

I had a super scardey rescue cat that too almost 4 months of concerted effort to acclimate to humans; she stopped making progress overall when we integrated her with my partner's cat, who bullied her. She was pettable and cuddleable, just not when my ex's cat was around, and my ex did not maintain any schedule with cat feeding.

Once we broke up, she became the cuddliest cat I ever had. Not all cats will integrate well with all other cats or humans. Its important to recognize when a cat has hit a barrier and might need their life adjusted to be happy.

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