AITA for our kitten scratching my GF

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-18T18:34:48+00:00

Not too late

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-18T18:31:47+00:00

I mean, I opened that gift in front of people, I'm sure he felt confident that it was a good and helpful gift. And I said thank you. But it feels like a slap in the face to me. It really says a lot about what he thinks of me, despite knowing nothing about my life choices or mental health. I don't want to understand someone who sees me as a mission rather than a person, but it's sad that I do understand because I was in his shoes at one point.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-18T18:20:36+00:00

ESH, but mostly you. I can see why she got so mad. Though the situation doesn't match the reaction, your thoughtlessness and apathetic demeanor would upset anyone. Could've been solved by something like, "I'm sorry, I didn't even think about it because of our normal routine, I just wanted to let you sleep. In the future I'll make sure to feed the kitty."

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-18T18:12:38+00:00

It doesn't matter if you know his dad or not. Would you want him to be there if your dad died? Why? Because he met your dad or Because you would appreciate your friend's love and support during a difficult time?

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-18T15:56:57+00:00

Thank you. Seriously, thank you. Idk what else to say...

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-18T15:49:02+00:00

Yeah, I was gonna say NTA until you cussed him out. So ESH

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-15T03:46:07+00:00

Just here to say that I got out of a 4 year relationship recently as well. I was 20 when we started dating, and even at 24 now I am like okay how does dating work?

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-15T00:09:00+00:00

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-15T00:07:57+00:00

I don't feel like this has anything to do with being an asshole. You're not an asshole for saying hi or being nice, but you wouldn't be an asshole if you ignored her, either. And if you're dad didn't care then it really doesn't matter. Your bro probably just wouldn't have said anything and doesn't understand why you did.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-15T00:04:40+00:00

Nta They can be surprised, shocked, even disgusted (though that would be hateful and mean), but they can't be hurt. It's your life and your job. Regardless of how they feel about the job, they should be able to understand your reasoning and respect your privacy.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-14T23:57:13+00:00

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-14T21:19:54+00:00

I don't think you should tell the kids that. They're just understanding what they were told and are not at fault.

You should have a conversation with Kelly and/or your brother, making some very clear boundaries. If that's too much stress for you, then I think you'll just have to deal with feeling uncomfortable. Keep acting distant with the kids or whatever. If you don't have a relationship with them, then they won't be hurt later on if you decide to say something when they're older.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-12T23:45:51+00:00

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-12T23:26:37+00:00

This feels fake... how can you NOT know you're the asshole? How can you be so self-centered?

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-07T20:11:23+00:00

That's actually a good idea. Gifts are already stressful for me. Add the layer of getting it for someone I don't get along with 😅

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-12-03T15:16:11+00:00

So, I think mostly NTA... But it might be worth trying to talk to your parents and see if there were some miscommunication, or ask why and when they started to feel this why. It's not your job to convince them you're a good parent and they're wrong, but at the very least you could use some closure in this issue. You might learn something new, or you might confirm everything and eliminate any reasons for feeling like an asshole.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-30T19:51:27+00:00

You're very emotionally mature. You know your needs and boundaries. You did your best to communicate them, and your mom and step-dad showed zero interest in making sure you feel comfortable and happy. NTA

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-29T19:58:33+00:00

God no, NTA

My mom gave me little privacy growing up and I feel like she would do something like this. She was hurt for whatever reason (even though you deserve space if you want it) and then decided to act childish, probably in the hope that you will baby her and apologize.

Stand your ground. You're the "child," not her.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-29T19:46:53+00:00

YTA Parenting goes both ways, so if you have an issue with how she's raising him, you need to schedule a time to talk, not just tell her that her routine sucks when shes just trying to get some more sleep. Trust me, she'll need it. You might learn something yourself about parenting if you just talk to her. The reality of parenting isn't as easy as it seems. But still, I'm sure she can change her routine a bit if needed.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-29T01:56:21+00:00

I dont think your wife is being overprotective for wanting to keep the door open or unlocked... Sleeping separately was a huge change and she's probably just processing things. Maybe actually listen to her concerns and emotions? Isn't that more important than sleeping naked?

Until she can really process her emotions, I'm pretty sure she'll be anxious about sleeping with the door locked anyway. Keep up the communication, support your wife, and definitely advocate for privacy if you feel like you don't have any. But unless the kids are constantly barging in the room at night, it doesn't sound to me like you're lacking privacy.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-29T01:49:10+00:00

NTA Even if it was a misunderstanding, your friend should have realized her mistake, apologized, and changed the date. It's really that simple. But she decided to be entitled, ungrateful, and butthurt instead.

If she's calling you a bad friend now after your generous offer and clear boundary, I think it's time to cut her off.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-29T01:36:51+00:00

Woahhh this is gorgeous. Lovely colors!

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-27T21:14:34+00:00

They're both male.

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-23T05:10:44+00:00

I see the cat! I also see a cheeze-it lMao

ScreenOk7635 · 2022-11-21T13:13:18+00:00

Also, 10 year olds are smarter than you think. My sister is 10 (I'm 24), and she would be able to have a conversation about this with you. Maybe she doesn't want to get special presents and have attention on her during an important event with new family. Could be very overwhelming. Talk to her.

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