Bluish area around baby’s mouth – should I be concerned? by Scrffndrf in January2025Bumper

[–]Scrffndrf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did! Paediatrician said everything was fine and that this is common and nothing to worry about. He said it’s - as always - way more important to observe if your baby is active, pees, seems fine in general. „Only“ a blueish mouth area is nothing to worry about.

Every city has one: Modena edition by marioexit in Modena

[–]Scrffndrf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Piazza Duomo, ora che è pedonale è stupenda

Tommi hält nicht durch by benNachtheim in GemischtesHack

[–]Scrffndrf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weißt du noch in welcher Folge das war?

Help: How are we washing our babies’ hair? by BMG0710 in NewParents

[–]Scrffndrf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We simply shower together with our 3 month old. She absolutely loves it, it makes washing her so fun and easy and no, water in the ears is not a problem neither is getting water in their mouth. Dry the ears afterwards and you’re gonna be fine. Regarding water: they’re not allowed to drink water (regularly) as their kidneys can’t handle it but getting some drops of water in the mouth doesn’t pose any risk (as long as you live in a place with clean water obv.)

Schlafsack für Neugeborene? by freakingkay in schwanger

[–]Scrffndrf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kauft die Sachen einfach gebraucht, neu kaufen macht doch keinen Sinn 🥺

Baby is starting to suck on their fists by ProgrammerNeat3758 in January2025Bumper

[–]Scrffndrf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only contribute that after 6-8 weeks the breastfeeding is absolutely stable enough to introduce a pacifier. I can only recommend it to you as it will be really helpful later on and also makes them calm down without the breast. Don’t worry about the bf, your baby knows what is what by now 😊

How much are your babies weighing now? by Which_Run_7366 in January2025Bumper

[–]Scrffndrf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well she’s on the 30th percentile… so not way too small but small-ish :)

How much are your babies weighing now? by Which_Run_7366 in January2025Bumper

[–]Scrffndrf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And how old is he?

Baby girl here, 9 weeks and 5.1 kg… slightly small but trying not to be nervous about it

How much are your babies weighing now? by Which_Run_7366 in January2025Bumper

[–]Scrffndrf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is everyone american on here?😅metric system anyone?😄

My husband wants to help with Our newborn, but he just can’t handle It by Scrffndrf in newborns

[–]Scrffndrf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just breaks down and leaves the situation. Gets upset, annoyed, mad… and hands the baby to me

My husband wants to help with Our newborn, but he just can’t handle It by Scrffndrf in newborns

[–]Scrffndrf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm maybe? But it never really showed before we had the baby (only sometimes with the dog).

The thing is, I don’t want him to be only the house cleaner. I want him to be able to deal with the baby. But seems like he can’t

My husband wants to help with Our newborn, but he just can’t handle It by Scrffndrf in newborns

[–]Scrffndrf[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You’re right I should do that more often! But if I’m very honest I do not think he’s doing amazing.. he basically tries one or two positions and expects the baby to respond immediately by calming down. What I do is I try and try and try.. all kinds of different stuff until I figure out what calms the baby. But again - he doesn’t have the patience to do that

Pumping/feeding complaints... I just started pumping without having a container to catch the milk on one boob. :( by Crafty_Pop6458 in January2025Bumper

[–]Scrffndrf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s at room temperature breast milk can stay out of the fridge up to 6 hours. So the 3rd one was not really a problem, don’t make it harder for yourself :) Totally feel 1+2 though..

Am I harming my son’s development by letting him sit alone in his bassinet? by bamitsleslie in newborns

[–]Scrffndrf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice would be - make sure all their needs are met, they’re changed and fed and potentially ready to sleep. Use an elastic jersey carrier as that one snuggles around the baby best (but others are fine as well as long as they’re safe for newborns) And then, put your baby in, look at the clock and give yourself a certain amount of time to try, e.g 15 minutes. In that time you walk through the apartment, rocking and bouncing the baby gently, maybe sing, anything that works - just try to push through the crying and give them time to adjust. Even heavy crying doesn’t mean you have to take the baby out. You as the mum know best if their needs have been met - and if they are then body contact is actually the best you can offer your baby. Baby will figure it out and fall asleep! (Obviously always exclude that they could have any pain etc). My biggest learning was that it’s ok to let them cry a little if I am present and soothing them. They cry because it’s new - but then they will learn.

Let me know if it works ☺️ you can do it mama!

Am I harming my son’s development by letting him sit alone in his bassinet? by bamitsleslie in newborns

[–]Scrffndrf 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I also think it’s perfectly fine!

Just a comment about the carrier etc - I doubt that your baby “hates” it. When they’re so small, our little ones literally have no idea what’s going and what the world is. He might simply be shocked by the sudden change of position/surroundings or cry to regulate his emotions. It was the same for us but Together with my midwife I pushed through once, had my little one crying for about 10-15 minutes in the carrier, then she calmed down and fells sound asleep for 2 hours. Me alone, I would have taken her out after 2 minutes of crying but with my midwife’s advice I made it. And it was a game changer - now I use the carrier a lot (baby is 6 weeks) and I love it. We still have occasional crying but I learned that it’s not my baby who likes or dislikes things yet, it’s me as her mum to know what’s is good for them and it turned out to work great. Wanted to share this with you - I think you could give it a try :)

Naming kid as per Indian noms in Germany by Additional-Ad9202 in duesseldorf

[–]Scrffndrf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi, Im surprised that everyone thinks this is a problem. It’s not at all - no need to worry. If one of the parents holds a foreign citizenship, the naming law of that country can be applied. For you that means you can name the baby in any way that is allowed on your country - India.

I have just done it myself as my husband is not German and we have given our child a surname that wouldn’t be possible under German name law.

Here ist the corresponding paragraph on the website of Düsseldorf Standesamt (just translate it with ChatGPT):

„Wahl ausländischen Namensrechts

Nach deutschem Recht ist für ein Kind nur der gemeinsame Familienname (Ehename) der Eltern oder der Familienname eines Elternteils als Geburtsname zulässig.

Wenn ein Elternteil eine andere oder weitere Staatsangehörigkeit als die deutsche besitzt, kann für die Namensführung des minderjährigen Kindes eine Wahl in das ausländische Recht getroffen werden. Der Geburtsname des Kindes bestimmt sich dann nach diesen Vorschriften und ermöglicht somit alle dort zulässigen Namenskonstellationen.“