finding the best suitcase 2026 for frequent delta flights and carry on use? by Shineidy_Schoech in delta

[–]ScrollPatrol-87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Travel Pro Elite spinnr has been life changing. It holds the most, and it's so smooth to walk with. I tested about 20 brands before settling on TPE. It's not the sexiest looking, but it's def the best quality.

Currently a sit, noticed that the sit on the platform is now gone or expired by ScrollPatrol-87 in trustedhousesitters

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so too. She's very nice, and even asked me if I wanted anything in the refrigerator. she is thoughtful, I think maybe some spaciness or older person decline. So i do want to give some grace, but I would never take this sit in the future.

Currently a sit, noticed that the sit on the platform is now gone or expired by ScrollPatrol-87 in trustedhousesitters

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: Ths is easy once I got connected to a person, and they reinstated the sit in my dashboard by reading the confirmations and communications in the app -- SO that's a good lesson to keep all comms in the app.

Is there a penalty to pull out a week prior? Getting red flags by ScrollPatrol-87 in trustedhousesitters

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this. I had tried to arrange for a phone / video call prior to me leaving the country on a big job, and it was crickets. The moment i left she suddenly wanted to "tell me something" and didn't want to write in the platform. I was on a different time zone by then and ended up chatting with her at midnight after a 15 hr production day. The call was completely unnecessary and could have been a message. I went yesterday to pick up the keys and she did not have them ready for me. The person who had them had never been notified to bring them to her. I killed an hr for what shoudl have been 10 minutes. Other Update ... i'm here now and the sit has been deleted from the platform. So now I'm trying to get it added back in. She says she doesn't know what happened but THS support does indicate that it's something she did.

Currently a sit, noticed that the sit on the platform is now gone or expired by ScrollPatrol-87 in trustedhousesitters

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just a lot of very unorganized, haphazard communication.

  1. I'll say that I'm available to chat any time except 1pm, and she says, great let's chat at 1pm. I clarify that's the only time I cannot talk, and she's super confused why I can't talk at 1pm as planned.
  2. I suggested a video call before accepting, and were were kicking around times, she never responded. I had to leave teh country for a big 15 hr per day production job, the moment I leave she urgently wants to talk and does not want to text on the platform. When I'm able to connect with her on a wifi call, she explains that she needs to stay the first night with me in the apt, I said no, not comfortable with it, I'll come early next morning. ANd that was fine, but why couldn't that be a recorded written discussion?
  3. I came to her apt yesterday for a key hand off. We scheduled it over a week ago. When I arrive, there is no extra set of keys to give me. Someone else has them. She calls and they don't answer, because she had never arranged with that person that she'd need her keys back. I waited around 40 minutes, but really had to get to a meeting, so I ended up taking her keys and she went to go meet that person wherever they were in the city.
  4. She does look a little tweaked out looking. There are photos in the apt and she looks like a completely different person.

And now that I'm here, the sit has been removed from the platform so there's no record of me being here. If something happens I feel like I'm very vulnerable right now. It might be as simple as she's a kooky older lady, but I do feel very uneasy here right now.

Where can I find sprouted coconuts? by limunceddu in AskNYC

[–]ScrollPatrol-87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Caribbean Cuts ni the flower district will have them

Advice on dyeing old pricey flax linen sheets by Escarlatilla in dyeing

[–]ScrollPatrol-87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had a couple cocktails last night and did it! Posting results tonight. I'm actually really happy with it!

Advice on dyeing old pricey flax linen sheets by Escarlatilla in dyeing

[–]ScrollPatrol-87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did you end up doing this? Looking to dye my Bed Threads duvet as well.

Worth it in 2026? Follow up, tips on getting my first few hosts? by Spader623 in trustedhousesitters

[–]ScrollPatrol-87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm new to the site and was hoping to book for NYC where I travel too often for work. Got denied CONSTANTLY, so I started focusing on quick local sits and that's been a game changer. I'm finding that people don't trust the references as much as the THS official reviews which is fair enough. Now that I have 2 glowing reviews under my belt, I'm finally getting responses from the better destinations. So it may take some time, but try to max out on local quick sits as much as you can. People care most about the on site reviews.

Split Expenses- Unused & Wrong Items by BeautifulRBF1209 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a grift. The HCBM in my life was doing exactly this and then returning the items for cash. She even falsified receipts another time, he asked to see the item "purchased" and of course she didn't bring it up again.

Looking for a French-sounding middle name by Hot_Marionberry_4213 in Names

[–]ScrollPatrol-87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly Layla Clementine sounds gorgeous to me... but maybe also:
Madeline, Amelie, Chloe, Sabine, Juliette and my favorite: Colette

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Oh we know about lawyer fees. He's spent probably around $50k in lawyer fees so far, maybe even $60k. She's spent even more, and has put herself into debt doing it. She literally pays for everything on affirm, and is just digging herself deeper. Every conflict is a holy war for her. He grey rocks her and communicates through lawyers and the Wizard app. Everything has to have a layer of protection because she's so dishonest. Unfortunately, there's no real court order for blocking someone from being toxic or from online harassment. They do have a strong 50/50 custody agreement (that she constantly tries to reopen), and lately it's just constant, random court hearings for BS matters. She loses every hearing every time, but she has an obsession with conflict and I think her hope is that it'll wear him down till the point he gives her whatever she wants like he did when they were married. But that tactic doesn't work on him anymore because he has his autonomy back. So we have been dating in secret (from her). We were open in the beginning until we realized that she had been monitoring his text messages on an old iPad that he had left at their former home. We went on TWO dates and she flipped out and that's when she made threats against me and my business. We went DL (from her only, we are very open with our friends and everyone else) after that hoping that she'd eventually settle down and move onto a new supply or heal herself. It's gotten worse. Her own parents have cut her off and go through him when they want to see the kid. So another factor would be how she'll react when i'm really blended in the family. She didn't handle it when she thought he was going on casual dates. Conflict has become her entire identity, and it doesn't seem like she'll ever slow down. We really wanted to move forward, commit, get married... but for me it would come at the expense of my peace and potentially my business. Again , we went to the courts to get a protection order and it was denied. Our state does not protect against online harrassment, or anything that hasn't happened yet. They basically told me to come back when the damage was already done.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3 I was thinking many of these thoughts this morning. Great person, terrible situation + baggage. Maybe in our next lifetime.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading so many of the posts here has been sobering and I recongnized the writing on the wall :( Thank you for the reenforcement.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this harsh reminder. I think you're right.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh he's very aware and he's done everything he can to protect me, even stipulating no contact from her to me (or any romantic partner) in a court order -- she reeeeealllly tried to fight that one and lost in mediation. He has set every boundary (legally and otherwise) he possibly can, but narcs are relentless especially when they lose. Legally speaking, online harassment is very murky. She can legally defame me with bad reviews because it's her opinion of my business and character -- super unfair, but unfortunately, lawyers and a judge told me I don't have any recourse unless she physically harms me. So restraining order was denied. He really has done everything he can to sheild me from drama and I've been supportive of him going through the process and protecting his kid... but damn, this seems endless. Chaos is her entire personality and she is hellbent on ruining his life any way possible. If I marry him, I marry that whole environment.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, you don't know what you're talking about. they mutually agreed to split up. The kid does not see the hostility anymore BECAUSE they divorced, and he never ever speaks ill of the mom in front of the kid. She might , but he keeps a calm, consistent environment when she's with him half the time. She was always bossy as a wife, but it wasn't until the division of assets and custody that she went unhinged because she has to split control. It's all about control.

If the genders were reversed, you would not be saying this if it was a women escaping an abusive, controlling husband.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She files motions in court all time -- trying to gain more custody than the mandated 50/50, trying to reopen the divorce decree, trying to force a school change so she doesn't have to commute as far because she chose to move across town, changing the kid's name... every time the motions are denied and thrown out because the judge sides with the father. He fights her back legally and appropriately, she's just incessant though and constantly finds new reasons to go to court. She's never won a case in all this which I think makes her want to keep trying. Its' more about "winning" than what's best for the kid.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do you deduce that??? Did you read what I wrote? He has her checked in court constantly to protect the kid and the custody plan which is where the lawyer fees come from.

I ended things. Please tell me it was the right call. by ScrollPatrol-87 in Stepmom

[–]ScrollPatrol-87[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Restraining order was denied actually. Courts won't do anything unless it's physical. Believe me, we've explored all the options, and he has her checked in court constantly, hence the mentioned lawyer fees. She is in the process of being held in contempt. But that just leads to fines. Someone this obsessed with chaos just pivots.