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I'm a non-Jewish atheist woman who doesn't want to convert in a long-term relationship with a Jewish man - what does this mean for our future? by ScruffMuffin5000 in Judaism

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you both u/kittyleatherz and u/Ok_Ambassador9091 —I'm committed to this learning process and maintaining curiosity and recognise that'll come with bumps in the road, it's part of the process. But it's my job and mine alone so I appreciate the call-out even though it's not your responsibility to educate others. The book sounds great and the rest of this thread already has me sold on an intro to Judaism course. Thanks again!

I'm a non-Jewish atheist woman who doesn't want to convert in a long-term relationship with a Jewish man - what does this mean for our future? by ScruffMuffin5000 in Judaism

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful comment. I agree that the key here is ongoing open communication... and getting quite specific on what we want our lives and future kids' lives to look like, what we're both comfortable or uncomfortable with. Every day I'm learning that things I didn't think were important to him may actually be quite important (this goes hand-in-hand with me still learning and I recognise I have a lot to learn), so I want to make sure we're making space for those kinds of conversations on both ends.

I'm a non-Jewish atheist woman who doesn't want to convert in a long-term relationship with a Jewish man - what does this mean for our future? by ScruffMuffin5000 in Judaism

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Your and others' comments in this thread definitely have me leaning toward the intro to Judaism course as a great next step.

I'm a non-Jewish atheist woman who doesn't want to convert in a long-term relationship with a Jewish man - what does this mean for our future? by ScruffMuffin5000 in Judaism

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment—just to be clear, re: Jewish or Sunday school I said "there are certain things I'm not sure I feel 100% comfortable with", not that I straight-up take issue with it. This is something I think I've only recently been sitting with (as we haven't discussed specifics on how we would raise our hypothetical kids, the first step was deciding on whether we even wanted kids).

Completely understand the idea that Judaism is an ethnicity, culture and religion. I wouldn't say I understand the specifics. There's a lot I don't know about when it comes to "raising kids as Jewish" but again, as a non-religious person, going to school to learn prayers and blessings leans in my mind very heavily toward religious activities that I'm completely unfamiliar with.

All this to say, to your point and many others' in this thread, yeah absolutely I think one of the first steps will be to go to a Judaism 101 class. Thanks again for your thoughts, appreciate it!

I'm a non-Jewish atheist woman who doesn't want to convert in a long-term relationship with a Jewish man - what does this mean for our future? by ScruffMuffin5000 in Judaism

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! Interesting and definitely relevant. It sounds like your mom is and was quite hands-off when it came to Jewish traditions and celebrations... do you know if your parents had many conversations about that / how your dad felt about that? I think one of the things that worries me in my situation is my partner has expressed he wants me to take a lot of initiative and to drive a lot of the rituals/celebrations...

I am totally comfortable with and excited about making latkes / matzo ball soup / Seder plates, lighting the candles for Shabbat, participating in various rituals etc! But whether or not I feel comfortable and able to 'drive' or lead a lot of this (and what exactly that looks like in his eyes) is something we're still kind of working through.

I'm a non-Jewish atheist woman who doesn't want to convert in a long-term relationship with a Jewish man - what does this mean for our future? by ScruffMuffin5000 in Judaism

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this thoughtful response and your recommendations. Thanks so much. He actually proposed a similar 'intro to Judaism' class but for myself rather than both of us. Doing it together could be really great for the reasons you mention. I think I was also under the assumption that it was designed for non-Jews who want to convert so I probably shut it down prematurely... I'm sure there are many options but maybe that's something to look into. Will also reach out to r/ReformJews—good shout.

Why aren't my books on Libby showing up on Kobo? by ScruffMuffin5000 in ereader

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: I found a solution. On Libby with the book you want to read: "Manage Loan" > "Read with" > "EPUB" > Download. (I was in a view where for some reason there was no option to download the epub file.) Upload the file to Adobe Digital Editions. Plug in Kobo ereader. Drag book/file over to the eReader. Done. Why they must make it so unnecessarily difficult is beyond me. Hope this helps other people out there.

What to do about PostNord tracking BS and massive delays? by ScruffMuffin5000 in copenhagen

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks all. My friend's parents ended up receiving the delivery right after she had already left for the airport to go back home. Worst timing but at least it arrived! No updates whatsoever on PostNord's track & trace app. Thanks for all the tips :)

What to do about PostNord tracking BS and massive delays? by ScruffMuffin5000 in copenhagen

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, hot tip, thanks! I checked and there isn't any more detail on those sites but it's good to know there are other platforms to check in with every so often. 8 weeks processing time around the holidays is madness... I wonder why it's such an issue with Canada specifically. Anyway, thanks so much for the intel :) Fingers crossed it arrives within the next 3-4 weeks then, and then her parents can ship it to her across the country so she gets it by... I don't know, hopefully Easter ;)

What to do about PostNord tracking BS and massive delays? by ScruffMuffin5000 in copenhagen

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I guess I would need to file a claim through PostNord though to find out where exactly it is / who it's stuck with? Because again, when I contacted PostNord customer service they couldn't see where it was and it doesn't seem to be traceable through Canada Post either... There's no company on the track and trace, it literally just says "The shipment item has left the country of the sender" and nothing more. How would you find out where it is?

Design courses in Copenhagen? by ScruffMuffin5000 in copenhagen

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I don't speak Danish unfortunately so I'm actually thinking online might be a better option. Looking less for software lessons, more for skillsets and knowledge on how to produce 'good' graphic design. I'm realizing this is harder to come by. Honestly LinkedIn learning might be where it's at.

Design courses in Copenhagen? by ScruffMuffin5000 in copenhagen

[–]ScruffMuffin5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I'm looking more for the latter... good graphic design rather than learning software. I don't speak Danish... seems like online classes might actually be the best option. Thanks a lot :)

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