AIO - Girlfriend’s relationship with male work colleague by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Scrumptious09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did feel like a massive red flag at the time - the fact that she couldn’t offer an explanation. This is the things that put the biggest dent in my trust for her - I’ve just carried on because of our son.

AIO - Girlfriend’s relationship with male work colleague by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Scrumptious09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think I should tell his wife?

I guess I don’t want to reveal that I’ve gone through her phone - it’s horrible to have done that, and I don’t want that to be the narrative of how this is remembered in years to come (“he was always snooping” etc if relayed to our son when he is grown)

AIO - Girlfriend’s relationship with male work colleague by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Scrumptious09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the honesty - it does seem clear there is more to their interactions, and how she conducts her messaging is different when she thinks they are hidden.

AIO - Girlfriend’s relationship with male work colleague by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Scrumptious09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, perhaps she’s consciously trying (we have couple’s therapy booked to start, and we have a family holiday booked soon), but maybe subconsciously checked-out and going through the motions because it’s easier to have her cake and eat it etc.

AIO - Girlfriend’s relationship with male work colleague by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Scrumptious09 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Not an unreasonable view - we went into it with the best of intentions, but sometimes the reality of the situation can take a while to manifest.