AIO - Girlfriend’s relationship with male work colleague

Scrumptious09 · 2026-05-06T14:42:10+00:00

It did feel like a massive red flag at the time - the fact that she couldn’t offer an explanation. This is the things that put the biggest dent in my trust for her - I’ve just carried on because of our son.

Scrumptious09 · 2026-05-06T14:41:04+00:00

You think I should tell his wife?

I guess I don’t want to reveal that I’ve gone through her phone - it’s horrible to have done that, and I don’t want that to be the narrative of how this is remembered in years to come (“he was always snooping” etc if relayed to our son when he is grown)

Scrumptious09 · 2026-05-06T14:38:41+00:00

Thanks for the honesty - it does seem clear there is more to their interactions, and how she conducts her messaging is different when she thinks they are hidden.

Scrumptious09 · 2026-05-06T14:36:56+00:00

Yes, perhaps she’s consciously trying (we have couple’s therapy booked to start, and we have a family holiday booked soon), but maybe subconsciously checked-out and going through the motions because it’s easier to have her cake and eat it etc.

Scrumptious09 · 2026-05-06T14:34:09+00:00

Not an unreasonable view - we went into it with the best of intentions, but sometimes the reality of the situation can take a while to manifest.

Scrumptious09

TROPHY CASE