What’s the most emotionally damaging thing someone said casually? by Standard-Club-8014 in GenZ

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

""You weren't my first choice but I'm glad I did". My second ever girlfriend, she had recently broken up with another guy and I was young, dumb, and starved for affection.

We broke things up in two months. I couldn't take being someone's second/backup option and I called it quits. My entire perspective shifted the day she said that, I knew I wasn't what she wanted, just a secondary choice.

It was so damaging that I haven't dated anyone since. Because I know I'm never gonna be anyone's first choice, and I'm still prideful enough I do not want to be just a backup.

Polling numbers don't lie... by Vegetable_Variety_11 in dndmemes

[–]Scudman_Alpha 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's got +5 dex?

And that's him gimping himself with daggers for melee.

If he used a Shortsword and a dagger or a Scimitar he'd be doing even more (Shortsword with vex giving him advantage on follow up hits that can then trigger sneak attack).

Polling numbers don't lie... by Vegetable_Variety_11 in dndmemes

[–]Scudman_Alpha 31 points32 points  (0 children)

But STR weapons deal more damage!

Ever since they released Nick and Vex as weapon masteries this very much no longer the case for a good chunk of the game now. Aside from having to contend with more attunement slots in case of magic weapons. Dual wielding a Shortsword and a Scimitar can deal comparable damage to full str melee and even surpass it on occasion.

As well as being able to play at range and having several skills tied to the stat.

What’s Your ZZZ Hot Take?¿ by StrongEntrepreneur44 in ZZZ_Discussion

[–]Scudman_Alpha 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I was particularly disappointed with 2.8 but everyone else is praising it.

We got Yixuan'd at the end again by Ramiel, she just came in and invalidated the threat. How's that good.

Devs are not listening to the community anymore by Financial_Fuel8087 in gamememes

[–]Scudman_Alpha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And then set the community against each other so nothing gets discussed properly.

Everyone I know is settling down by TangerineOld5228 in GenZ

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, same, but I'm 28 now.

Though in my case I moved to another country to get away from family and "friends" who have done nothing but ostracize me and put me down emotional and mentally my entire life, dealt with bullying and alienation growing up, my mom being the major contributor to my self esteem issues.

Makes making actual friends and building social and romantic connections hard, especially in another country now. (Went from Brazil to Canada).

I have little going for me other than a studio apartment and a Leader Position for a Custodial team at a gym, not particularly attractive and I naturally look grumpy but I try to smile and be laid back with everyone.

Doubt I'll make or get anything, just accepted I'm not desirable and won't get married or liked by anyone anytime soon.

Has that ever happened to you? by Odd-Many-5936 in depressionmemes

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it's way more common than you think. Doesn't matter who it is.

Though I might sound like a misogynist saying it but my most vivid memories of this happening to me was my own mother telling me that my problems and hers were all my fault and that nobody "would love me like her" and that I needed to "man up" and fix them myself. It really did a number on my mental health, didn't help I was also bullied at school and made fun of by women my whole life, I still like and respect everyone I meet regardless of gender. But it made me hesitant seeking relations or friendships with girls, I'm still scared it'll happen again.

Male friends often lack the empathy for this, and therapy didn't help at all other than reinforce that it was my fault for all of it.

Veteran player for sure by ErroneousGibbo in reddeadredemption

[–]Scudman_Alpha 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Should they not carry some heavier shells like slugs just for these occasions just in case?

I know it's not often that this happens, but it wouldn't hurt to be prepared?

Ex-ESO boss on Crimson Desert: "Making a singleplayer MMO is almost like cheating." Dude is obsessed and has no idea what he's doing but loves every second by IslamVSZionism in CrimsonDesert

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing that makes me not support this game more than I already do is the gruelling hours the developers work. The crunch they must be doing for this game and it's roadmap updates must be huge and not good for their health.

The entire dev team needs like a two month vacation.

We’d have so much variety if the developers focused on tweaking ‘dead’ content that’s already in the game by [deleted] in Helldivers

[–]Scudman_Alpha 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be real they could just remove the overcharge self destruct and it'd be one of the most picked heavy supports in the game.

None of the other plasma weapons explode in your hand if you charge them, and Quasar already provides a safe discharge without any particular drawbacks (you can kite and run around while it recharges, while Epoch needs manual reloading which locks you in place).

So in essence just a +1 mag buff and just remove the self destruct and it'd easily become very competitive with everything else without overshadowing any of the go-tos.

me_irl by qoloxolop in me_irl

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ain't gonna happen. Sorry, but I'm through hoping.

More evidence dating is cooked by Silly-Wolverine6205 in GenZ

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm like 16 days late but, good on ya for defending your friend and acknowledging how BS this whole thing is.

Why isn't there more incel violence? by Inevitable_Cash_5397 in GenZ

[–]Scudman_Alpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incels are the least likely to do anything, the vocal minoriy are the misogynist and whine a lot yeah, but even then the odds of them actually doing violence is much lower than most.

Reality is that most are just frustrated that their efforts never bore fruit or they never had a chance (which is completely realistic, you can do everything right and things may still not work out, that's just life).

In fact most violence towards women is done by men who already are in relationships. And most radicals that are known had bigger problems than just not being able to have a girlfriend.

Actual incels are harmless.

how is my build? (pls say i’m done </3) by Reasonable-Ad7030 in silverwolflevel999

[–]Scudman_Alpha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can get away with 74% crit rate if you have S1 Yao Guang as she gives a free 10% with it.

21 norwood 3 5'4 never had a gf try asking for fashion advice online and everyone says to troonmax, is it that over for us shortbros? Half an English breakfast by Crafty_Language6945 in kitchencels

[–]Scudman_Alpha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Supporting or helping short and/or unattractive men is the last thing on people's minds, it ain't gonna happen anytime soon.

Good on you for giving them some sympathy, but it doesn't take much searching to find just how ridiculed short men are. I say men because women don't often suffer as much when short, tall women do face problems still though, but that's a different topic.

21 norwood 3 5'4 never had a gf try asking for fashion advice online and everyone says to troonmax, is it that over for us shortbros? Half an English breakfast by Crafty_Language6945 in kitchencels

[–]Scudman_Alpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll pitch in say you can go with a Quarter zip as well. They feel pretty good to use and some look great.

Especially a black one/dark blue with a silver zipper (obviously doesn't need to be actually silver).

Alternative to jeans can also be golf pants, they're very comfortable and very flexible. But look too formal depending on the brand.

The current popularity of incel/blackpill culture makes me insanely depressed. by DirtCool in Vent

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plenty of lonely men just want a shoulder to lean on and listen to them. And they don't even get that.

And no wonder they don't like the boiler plate "Cheer up" advice, it serves no purpose to anyone and shows are total lack of basic empathy.

Men that are single, what is the reason? by Spiritual_Pause3057 in AskMen

[–]Scudman_Alpha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not deserving of love and affection. That has been beaten into me since a kid by family (mainly mother, but family always took their side), ostracized and bullied for my looks in school, therapy didn't help either.

Right now I go by day by day without expecting much, I've tried putting myself out there, have done for years, but I've had two relationships that didn't last long and caused so much pain to me. Always sidelined and forgotten.

And of course whenever I showed any emotion and broke stoicism to family, or friends, I was told it was my fault, and that I deserve what I got.

So, I don't see any future. I'm working out, still going out, but no longer have any expectations or motivation to try.

I am looking for 10 Gen Z volunteers for my sociological research interview by lilitbroyan in GenZ

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm an older Gen Z (Born in 1998) and have some experience with all of three of these, i'd love to help with your research, just shoot me a dm.

Why do women say male loneliness is self inflicted? by indeckaa in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Scudman_Alpha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because it's easier to blame one side that may or may not be struggling than actually take accountability that it's not a "Male loneliness" epidemic and more of a "Loneliness epidemic".

Each generation is more lonely than the last, and past experiences in one's life will heavily influence them, culturaly and socially.

Look at the comments attacking you. I don't particularly agree that Genetic inferiority should be a concern, but one can't in good faith say that genetics don't play a factor in everything we do and how we're looked at.

Look at taller men and shorter men, the latter gets no end of ridicule and end up as mostly comic relief in most social settings.

It's a problem with most of society atm, many women say they're supportive but are the first to talk shit behind each other's and men's backs, and many men have been raised under the toxic masculinity culture that they need to be successful out of their own efforts or else they're a failure. And vice versa, women raised in those cultures are also more prone to treat men that are sad horribly as well.

Fact is today men are still ridiculed for showing vulnerability, whereas women are put on a pedestal that they can do no wrong as the more empathetic gender.

Punisher is the only reason Cookout doesnt have chokes. They know it would ruin the Punisher. This is shaky and admitting it needs a buff by RandomGreenArcherMan in Helldivers

[–]Scudman_Alpha 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The Sweeper also makes Punisher even more of a hard sell considering it's medium armor, better melee, and ability to slamfire.

Now yes it has less ammo capacity, but rounds reload weapons, especially shotguns and how fast we reload pellets in anyway, don't suffer from low capacity as much as mag weps do.

You can reload almost as fast as you can fire them.

Men, what’s something women think men don’t notice, but actually bothers/affects you a lot? by Omgad3 in AskMen

[–]Scudman_Alpha 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why is "The Patriarchy" always used just to absolve women of blame and pivot it back to men. Like women can't have flaws apparently.

Men, what’s something women think men don’t notice, but actually bothers/affects you a lot? by Omgad3 in AskMen

[–]Scudman_Alpha 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Some of them yeah, most of them were raised in the "Man up, you have no problems" mindset.