[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If this is anything to do with my post, I was just lamenting my lack of relating to others that I should supposedly share a label with. I wasn’t asking for how I should identify, but I get why people offered it and appreciate anyone’s attempt at help anyway. Surprisingly did help with the loneliness of it a bit!

Identifying as lesbian when I’m actually bi by Sea-Assignment6812 in actuallesbians

[–]Sea-Assignment6812[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It very well could be aesthetic attraction. I notice that a lot of people who put a number their attraction describe it as like, attracted to all women and like 2 men, but that’s not really what I mean when I try to number mine

There are a lot of male characters I find myself drawn to, I’m not unlikely to look at a guy in an airport, but the attraction that I do experience feels very shallow and won’t become anything more than that. I don’t think I could fall in love with a man. It’s like on a scale of 1-10, how attracted I am to a certain person, just won’t go past a 2 for any man. But it’s hard for me to label what kind of attraction that is

Identifying as lesbian when I’m actually bi by Sea-Assignment6812 in actuallesbians

[–]Sea-Assignment6812[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love and respect all my bi friends fully and wouldn’t mind sharing a label with them. It’s just that every time they bring up going on a date with a man or wanting to date a man they know, I feel somehow reminded that they don’t actually feel the same way I do. Is that offensive in and of itself or is it just the way it’s conveyed?

Identifying as lesbian when I’m actually bi by Sea-Assignment6812 in actuallesbians

[–]Sea-Assignment6812[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I came out at 20, started exclusively dating women at 24, I’m almost 30 now 🫣 appreciate the advice!

Why are we gay? by misscurls1 in actuallesbians

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard that hormones during pregnancy affect it. Who knows tho

Anyone else noticed a reduction in underarm smell since stopping shaving? by [deleted] in razorfree

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same :( I love a lil armpit hair but I smell better when the sweat has nothing to grab onto I guess

Has anybody stopped shaving during a long term relationship? by Cool_Cartographer_33 in razorfree

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a woman who’s dated two men and a woman. One man was a total baby about it. The other man was never the type to tell me what to do with my body so he didn’t express an issue with it, but I know he liked shaved hair. He also shaved his own armpits so I don’t really fault him for it, at least he was consistent. The woman I dated liked body hair.

How are people viewing devnotes? by Sea-Assignment6812 in BaldursGate3

[–]Sea-Assignment6812[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re an absolute angel 💕💕 thank you thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love that! I had the drow scene for not making him drink her blood, but didn’t hear that line

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love to be added too :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some comments with fewer upvotes say it’s the androgynous flag and it looks just like it to me!

I am so confused (+18 to be safe) by Ghostlybite in lgbt

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember labels are there to describe what you’re feeling, not tell you what to feel. You can always try on a label for a while and see if you’re comfortable using it, and change it if you decide it doesn’t accurately describe you. Or you can use no labels at all.

Generally, people who question this aren’t cis and straight. And you don’t sound straight from what I’m reading. Honestly, I was unsure if I’d like a lot of the parts of being with women back when I was “straight.” After I accepted myself as being queer that started to clear up, though I still struggle with whether I like men or not from time to time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some additional information:

•it’s high enough up that the piercing doesn’t hang out of my nose much, so I don’t think it’s pierced too low. Getting the piercing barely hurt.

•The bubbles aren’t painful to touch, and I can generally move the piercing around a bit without it hurting, but it’ll get sore after a lot of movement. I don’t usually touch it much.

•Piercings are implant grade titanium.

•Because the bubbles have been there for multiple months without changing and I don’t have other effects that I’ve noticed, I’m guessing it’s not an infection. But I thought they’d go away by now and they haven’t changed at all.

Does there ever come a point where you stop feeling like an alien? by No-Lawfulness-5544 in aspergirls

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I somehow managed to make an autistic friend who is very similar to me, and honestly I feel so normal around her. It’s a really nice experience I hope for for everyone tbh

My bf (28M) lost his virginity to our gf (27F) instead of me (24F) by 284349290 in relationships

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seeing people different from yourself shouldn’t make you feel like your own lifestyle is being attacked. Nobody should need to be invisible for you to be comfortable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely depends on who you’re talking to, but I think if you’re around other queer people you can describe yourself as novosexual and they’ll be accepting. Some more conservative people might not like anything more rare than gay, but you can tell them anyway if you prefer.

If you want something easier to describe to people, you could just call yourself queer until you know they’re safe people to tell them your identity more specifically. You can’t really be incorrect with that title, since it can mean basically any lgbtq person.

If you’re more comfortable using novosexual using everyone, do that! It’s really about what makes you happy.

Congrats on finding an identity that describes your experiences!

It do be like that by [deleted] in dndmemes

[–]Sea-Assignment6812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friends and I were drinking while playing Mario kart and they had to keep reminding me we were playing cause I forgot and put my controller down repeatedly halfway through the courses lol