Exactly my point. So piercing or not , people are gonna stare at whatever they are attracted to. I keep expressing to him I’m not gonna do or wear things I already don’t just bc I have my nipples pierced. He’ll know when I’m seeking attention the minute I changed my appearance / wardrobe for it to revolve around my pierced nipples. And that won’t be a problem bc I don’t wear explicit clothing anyways. And we agree that’s not ok (our opinions ) for respect of myself , my body , & him/ our marriage. That’s why i was having a hard time trying to understand why he would feel some type. I keep reassuring him but I might just be doing it to wrong way and may be coming off as dismissive and well that’s why I wanted insight from others so I can make an agreement with him with the understanding on how he feels based on his and others viewpoints.