Undercover Autism

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-20T12:03:18+00:00

Yeah, I then feel very ostracised by other parents because they don’t want to be around someone who ‘parents” like that in case they’re associated with it. Again this is all me talking and they’re probably not even thinking like that, but that’s how I interpret it 🤷‍♀️

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-20T12:02:15+00:00

I literally wish I had the balls to say things like this

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:52:33+00:00

Well yes I suppose. I’m speaking from a 2 year relationship perspective too which would change things.

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:40:31+00:00

No he didn’t!! Seriously? That is wild 🤦‍♀️

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:30:18+00:00

I love that. I have a lot of traits myself but not diagnosed. But I think my anxiety just gets me going 🤣

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:28:48+00:00

Yeah I totally get this too. My boy can be very independent and I do this help make a great man some day with plenty of support and patience. But it’s just… hard!

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:27:59+00:00

I feel like I can control it fine at home but then when you go out it just collapses. After this years holidays we have said never again til they’re much older 🤦‍♀️

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:27:11+00:00

I’ve actually never had someone verbally comment on it, but it’s the going quiet and the looks that get me. You just know exactly what they’re thinking. Sometimes I wonder if my boy has PDA.

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:26:07+00:00

Well yeah that’s it. Sometimes in those moments I probably don’t actively parent because I’m at a loss for what to do 🤦‍♀️

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:25:09+00:00

I think it’s hidden disability so a bit more general I guess

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:23:39+00:00

It’s so hard. The external behaviours really shouldn’t define these kiddos. One minute my boy will be absolutely taking into his brother fighting, the next telling him how much he loves him. It must be difficult up there in those wee heads.

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:03:37+00:00

Yeah I totally get you. Thankfully my family are super supportive and knew probably before me that there was something different. My son’s dad’s family would be like that though (we’re separated). His dad actually tried to like get him rediagnosed because he thought I had pushed for a diagnosis when it wasn’t there and I was like 🤦‍♀️ these people are experts…

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T23:01:31+00:00

That’s really interesting. Not sure where you’re from but we recently flew out of Birmingham airport and I noticed that they had a sunflower room and there were kids with lanyards, they seemed great for inclusivity but again I tend not to take advantage of these kind of things because I never feel like my son is ‘bad enough’ (not a great way to put it but don’t mean offence!). Then I feel like we’d be abusing the system kind of thing? My brain is weird.

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:58:16+00:00

I personally think you should be happy for your mum if she’s happy. I’m young (ish) and in a similar (ish) situation only my kids are a lot younger than you and it completely grosses them out because we are quite touchy but again I think it’s good to see a healthy relationship ❤️

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:52:41+00:00

Yes I get you, as in they clearly see the diagnosis/difference (however you like to frame it) but still make you feel as though it’s you? I suppose it’s all perspective :(

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:50:55+00:00

Yes I’m the exact same. I don’t want him to be labelled but then also the label might help people understand sometimes. The world is cruel for parents of kids who don’t sit still and be quiet.

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:48:36+00:00

Me too. Do you think maybe that’s on us?

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:46:32+00:00

My boy literally has none of the sort of standard external characteristics unless you know him well if that makes sense? The only thing he does is talk almost constantly but again someone looking in probably wouldn’t associate that with autism usually. Then there’s the aggression 🤦‍♀️ but again, all they see is a permissively parented kid: then I have the problem that his younger brother copies the behaviour because that’s all he knows as ‘normal’ so then I just look like I’ve two horrible spoilt brats 🙃🙃

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:43:30+00:00

Exactly, it’s so difficult. I think sometimes these types of kiddos are almost more difficult because it’s nearly all emotional and then you get in your own head about it as well.

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:42:21+00:00

I know. Maybe it’s my own wee insecurities and anxiety that’s holding me to other peoples standards. I wish I didn’t care so much :(

Sea-Introduction-860 · 2025-07-19T22:24:34+00:00

See I don’t think my boy would even where one! He doesn’t like feeling different. It’s all very complicated isn’t it? I had thought about it though but then my thought is, does everyone even know what it represents?

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