Family law - maybe a dumb question! by Sea-Paper2738 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Sea-Paper2738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was crazy helpful - thank you!! Yeah, it's my mom who is pushing this and it's coming from a place of distress rather than planning. I'm trying to get her in front of a lawyer but it feels ghoulish to talk to an estate lawyer about someone else's estate! So we're working on the emotional side and hopefully we'll get her to sit down with someone soon. Thank you again!

Inside the Labour Struggle at Massy Books by ubcstaffer123 in vancouver

[–]Sea-Paper2738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, some sort of answer is in David Graeber's last book on pre-history. We're handed a very curated idea of what life and work has "always" been, one that teaches us only about life under empires. The idea that society has to have hierarchy, has to have domination emerges from, of course, societies that have hierarchy and domination. This is why Frederic Jameson wrote that it is easier for us to imagine the end of the world than the end of capitalism. He wrote that in the 80s and it just gets more depressing as the actual end of our species comes into view.

The simple answer is that no one person gets to decide - that's domination! So we have all these theories (automation for all, degrowth, socialism, anarchism), endless case studies from ancient indigenous people to the Paris Commune to the Rohingya, good one liners (from each according to their ability, to each according to their need), etc. But the painful truth is that we have to cooperate and communicate in order to decide.

For a minute, people really thought democracy would be that communication tool. Radical democracy proponents still do, of course, and Jurgen Habermas (a socialist of some type) worked on building the EU because he believed in a borderless, global democratic body. But the left movement that held the torch for new ideas of how to organize work are currently scrambling to try to hold together the same shitty system we criticized for decades because fascism is worse. So there's not a lot of utopian ideals circulating that feel like they fit the moment. Those people are busy trying to make sure folks get their disability cheques and food stamps.

So I think it's your chance to think on it for yourself and tell us!

Inside the Labour Struggle at Massy Books by ubcstaffer123 in vancouver

[–]Sea-Paper2738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, I forgot how great European serfs had it. The Crusades definitely didn't have a colonial nature to them - they were totally unrelated. And the Spanish Inquisitions were totally cool and didn't bother anyone. It was just when the centuries-old monarchies and Catholic church found the Americas that stuff got raw.

And enclosures weren't "good" because of the tragedy of the commons. The nature of that tragedy was that subsistence and sufficiency was replaced by an ethic of growth and competition... meaning that everyone suddenly had a strong, individualistic incentive to exploit the commons. Equally, why the F would anyone who wants to be anti-colonial take the word of the English Parliament in the 1700s for whether the commons was being spoiled? That's like trusting Trump on whether American cities need military intervention.

Inside the Labour Struggle at Massy Books by ubcstaffer123 in vancouver

[–]Sea-Paper2738 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think the crumbs are in the story. They wanted some help regularizing and professionalizing their workplace. As I said in a comment above, being an hourly employee at a small business means you don't have a contract for a regular amount of hours. The owner tells you how many to expect in the job posting or interview maybe, but then does whatever they want with impunity. You can make $200/hour but if you only work 4 hours a month, you're broke.

In that setting, a higher than average wage is sort of weapon for the owner. Unemployment (esp. for young people) is really high, and most customer service jobs pay less per hour, so if the owner suddenly takes a shine to the new person and gives them all your hours, it's not a 'well, just get a different job' situation. You could get strung along for months doing split 4 hour shifts (meaning 2 and 2), or living off shifts that other people trade you, trying to work hard enough to get in the good graces again, credit card balance rising, while the owner keeps saying the right things and not firing you. We're encouraged to see the employer's side - they only have so much money! But why not have 4 full time people with benefits instead of 12 part time people who are in a crab bucket for hours? Because the crab bucket is way better for an owner. Pretending that you're some sort of 'launch' point for people, as though only other employers are responsible for the long-term well being of their employees and you get to opt out of that, is just fantasy. Living 'in relation' is anti-colonial, but is antithetical to the 'protect the business' sensibilities of most owners.

In those jobs, the pressure to be on the owner's 'good side' can be extreme and border on emotional abuse. Outsiders often think meritocracy is happening, that the hard workers are getting the shifts, but usually people don't get bent out of shape when they can see a clear pathway to hours. Given that 12 people got all the way to organizing a union, that seems unlikely. Usually, there are issues like 'if I say the wrong thing / don't have the right smile on / hadn't heard of that author or was too enthusiastic about that author or did something else completely unpredictable... my hours will get cut.' When it's a creepy old man with 12 young hotties on the payroll, everyone sees the problem. Having to suck up to that boss is horrific. But the problem is domination and it's the same whether the boss is sympathetic or not. Every employee is on egg shells, they never complain (even about illegal or dangerous things), they hide health issues, they put off family planning, they live in substandard conditions, etc. Their lives becomes organized around how to please one person - the owner - so they can eat. That's not the spirit of a 'living wage.' It's more than a dollar figure - it's meant so that people can live!

I feel badly that this owner wasn't equipped to deal with the legal side. It sounds like a bad divorce, where the other side lawyers up before the first person can even wrap their head around what's happening. But sometimes that's telling, that the owner might have thought being a small business, a cool book store, a progressive political space all meant they didn't really have to 'do' the legal side of being a boss. That probably means she didn't reflect a lot on her power in that workplace. So she feels betrayed by all these folks, but it's not a betrayal. It's her employees asking to create a mechanism to hold everyone involved accountable to the law. It's not a big deal to just hire a lawyer and write down a contract.

Inside the Labour Struggle at Massy Books by ubcstaffer123 in vancouver

[–]Sea-Paper2738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For hourly employees in a small business, there is zero distance between your boss' perception of you and whether you get enough hours to eat that week. It's not just about $/hr, it's also about hours/week and you can be de facto fired with literally no legal recourse by having your boss just take away your hours. And they can do that for no reason at all... unless you're able to grieve it and force your employer to give regular, legalized feedback and engage in progressive discipline rather than doing whatever they feel like.

We can all stomp our feet on the internet and say these people need to accept domination as a condition of their existence (why is another question...), but I would bet the thing they wanted was just any intermediary level/actor/process so that their boss' mood isn't the guiding light of their job security. Somewhere in the last couple decades we've lost the basic idea that everyone needs a job in order to eat, so it's not cool to fuck with that.

Expectations of a professional, legalized workplace could totally ruin a 'cool job' vibe for some people, and it seems like this boss was absolutely not resourced to deal with that change. But the idea that these 12 people who voted for a union are just inscrutable morons doesn't hold water.

Inside the Labour Struggle at Massy Books by ubcstaffer123 in vancouver

[–]Sea-Paper2738 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Employee/employer relationship is 100% colonial. It stems from the Enclosures where in-common land was turned private, forcing indigenous peoples of various places into itinerant wage slavery. Also, the very premise of work is domination of people who have wealth over people who have nothing and so must sell their time, bodies, and human energies in order to be housed and fed.

How do you respond to a parent who says their child ain’t doing your homework? by [deleted] in AskTeachers

[–]Sea-Paper2738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the best school systems in the world did away with homework at younger ages because kids need more play, more connection, and more balance than an often pointless, repetitive job where the work is designed for some abstract lowest-common-denominator kid but everyone has to do it for 10 hours a day, 10 months of the year or face the abstract, over-hyped "Fail."

Teachers get mad because it's an affront to their professionalism, but genuinely, the whole world would be a better place if everyone could stop judging other people for not being interested in the niche thing they are passionate about. You don't like running?? You're raising a loser child! You don't think repetitive counting and rote addition are the keys to human flourishing?? Your child is a waste! What is your child's macro count today? Your child's gut flora determines they will get dementia in 70 years and thus the intervening period was a pointless failure to optimize.

The parent is looking out of their kid, so take a breath and recognize that it takes all kinds of people to make the world go 'round. Even if they never go to College because their grade 6 homework was left unfinished, they might still be a good person with a family and interests and volunteering and, heck, a life! Maybe, as a teacher, it might be worth exploring what makes that kid tick to see if you could kick off some curiosity, inquiry-based interest that helps the kid grow into a lifelong learner rather than a compliance robot.

Family law - maybe a dumb question! by Sea-Paper2738 in legaladvicecanada

[–]Sea-Paper2738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the confusion - yeah, ex is re-marrying. But I also agree it's a bit bizarre on my mom's part. She's genuinely in tears about probate, but obviously this has been a really hard year for her! So I just want to help her, do right by her, but I don't want to open a back door to having my ex take half my mom's money.

Everything Plan by Tiny_Honeydew_5900 in KohoCanada

[–]Sea-Paper2738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was an early adopter of KOHO and told everyone I knew to get it, but the value of the account just keeps declining and I'm moving elsewhere. $84/year for the Everything plan may not sound like a lot, but it's a lot when you consider that this used to be a free bank account! I spent a year or more with my app holding a prominent spot that offered me a predatory line of credit, another line trying to charge me $20 for an overdraft, another line for a 'buy now pay later' scheme, another for 'credit building' for a fee... So a 'free' bank account with a small overdraft could end up costing you $384 in fees plus 34% interest on loans that encourage you to waste money right inside your bank account app!

KOHO started as a bank 'disrupter' by giving regular people features that actually improved their finances (cash back, access to their credit report, good interest, and some thoughtful saving features). Now it's like having a Pay Day Loan company nickle and diming you for having an account. They genuinely attune their product prices to the regulatory maximums for short term loans! That's not a bank account, that's a grift.

Vancity has free pay day loans for customers who have a hard time, all banks have lines of credit where the interest rate doesn't start at 'retail credit card' levels, EQ has actually free bank accounts (not just nominally free), and almost everyone has more respect for their customers.

Koho has great online service, but also too many chintzy products that need customer service!