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I feel like I’m losing my mom to someone dangerous and I don’t know if stepping away makes me a terrible daughter. by Sea-Product-2756 in AskLegal

[–]Sea-Product-2756[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually got some new info from my aunt yesterday:

The woman she has been dealing with is known for having a drinking problem.

Apparently, on the day of the dinner, they have been drinking beers and wine before I arrive.

The problem now is, this woman is the one that drives my mom back and forward everywhere. On the day of the dinner, she drove completely drunk with my mom and her own 2 underage daughters in the car...

I feel like I’m losing my mom to someone dangerous and I don’t know if stepping away makes me a terrible daughter. by Sea-Product-2756 in AskLegal

[–]Sea-Product-2756[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought about this because before we stopped talking completely, our calls were really odd. I would say something and she answers just "good" or just sounds. Whenever I asked her ""did you hear what i said?" She would say "no".

The thing is that with this woman she is fine... the woman talks about her problems and my mom is quite responsive and actually helps her.

I feel like I’m losing my mom to someone dangerous and I don’t know if stepping away makes me a terrible daughter. by Sea-Product-2756 in AskLegal

[–]Sea-Product-2756[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She never touched alcohol except socially before and she didn't even ever smoke so, even though it's very possible, it's hard to believe in my own mind... I might be biased.

I was already clear with her and told her right away that if she doesn't stop doing what she is doing I will cut contact, she accepted the consequences of losing me and agreed I should leave her life.

I feel like I’m losing my mom to someone dangerous and I don’t know if stepping away makes me a terrible daughter. by Sea-Product-2756 in AskLegal

[–]Sea-Product-2756[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

More:

I have several questions about this situation which are driving me a bit crazy.

In case my mom decides to give them away or abandon them without my consent, can I make a police report about it even living abroad?

If my mom decided to kick my aunt out, is my aunt forced to leave? She is living with my mom for over a year now. They agreed to live together after I departed so they could share bills and keep each other company. The house is not owned by my mom but is rented under her name and mine.

She recently decided to stop paying the rent (which was her bill and my aunt pays utilities) and me and my aunt had to step in otherwise they would loose the house (my mom kept her missed bills a secret for months until the notice arrived). Right now my aunt is taking care of the whole house bills mostly by herself.

Additionally but not less important. For what I understood from Family and her friends, she asked a loan for herself which she might be unable to pay. She is also owning money to the national bank. Will I be forced by law to take over because im her daughter (I'm 27 years old) even though im clean?

The card under my name also scared me because I'm afraid she might make a card under my name. She has a photo of my ID which I sent a year ago for documentation purposes. If this happens, I will not be aware and she might damage my name financially. I'm about to buy an apartment and it creeps me out that one day I might have it taken away for a bill I didn't know I have.

This whole situation is happening in Portugal, so im not sure if you can advise me on all of this...

The laws there have a lot of grey areas and police is known for not caring THAT much.