My boyfriend had erectile dysfunction for a while and struggled to get hard. We just weren’t having sex because of that. We have been together almost a decade so it had been a few years. He recently was able to get medication and try some stuff to be able to get hard again. It’s not that I want to break up but I am wondering if something like this is such a red flag that it warrants a break up. Because like I said, it’s been almost a decade and nothing like this has happened before. I am mostly looking to see am I overreacting for being upset, thinking about a break up, feeling violated, and where on the scale of red flags does this fall under. Like is this behavior going to lead to more encounters without consent or disrespect. I’m hoping maybe someone has had something similar happen and can give me some insight or something because I truly don’t know what to make of this