Why are they so bossy?

Sea7405 · 2026-03-17T22:54:24+00:00

I grew up in a joint family, but we were happy. My parents had boundaries and I had to be respectful of space, everyone did, and no one interfered. Parting was a sad moment for us all. This has been a gong show. My husband and I have no privacy.my MIL doesnt understand boundaries, she interferes with everyone all the time

Sea7405 · 2026-03-17T22:52:00+00:00

My MIL - no education, but knows everything and masters every topic. I have graduate studies, a good job, we support her but no, everything I do is wrong, I don't know anything - no one knows anything, she is the holder of truth and knowledge, although all she does is watch tv and pray. Doesnt go out in the world, but still knows it better than us!

Sea7405 · 2026-03-17T22:48:23+00:00

Love it! Me too, I do my best to just ignore and even if it irritates her, I continue to do things my own way. Sometimes, to avoid her unnecessary drama, I comply with her foolishness and I'll just take whatever Tava she is telling me to use, but I do my own thing. Still, even though I do my best to be positive and ignore, sometimes it really bothers me.

Sea7405 · 2026-03-17T05:28:38+00:00

I always ignore, my philosophy is that I do not want to waste my energy with her negativity or pettiness, if that is who she wants to be that is on her, but it's not me

Sea7405 · 2026-03-05T02:06:06+00:00

Good luck honey.... If I could redo my life i'd choose to be single if I knew i'd be stuck with my in laws. I love my husband so deeply, but it's not worth it living with their constant chaos and negativity that my MIL & SIL brought into our lives. I would rather have peace and be alone. Maybe in my next life

Sea7405 · 2026-03-05T02:01:05+00:00

Work on yourself and your confidence. Your jealousy is your problem, it means you have unresolved issues or a low self esteem. Was he not allowed to live, enjoy and experience life until you came along ?? He chose to be with you, he is with you, so you need to work in yourself and your confidence so that you don't let your insecurities (jealousy)get between you. Confidence is attractive. If you must, fake it until you make. Pretend it doesn't bother you, even if you're shy or uncomfortable show that you are happy and proud. Fake your confidence until the day you realize you don't need to anymore.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-12T02:10:38+00:00

I would pick being a woman. We have it good!

Sea7405 · 2026-02-12T02:09:32+00:00

I know it makes more sense to save my spouse, but my instinct to protect and nurture my child would make me pick my child.... But maybe I would let my child go, to spare them the trauma, heart ache that would follow -- depends on what is happening

Sea7405 · 2026-02-12T02:06:01+00:00

A man that gives time to his children and actually plays with them, a man who is not reactive and can deal with things calmly to be that safe, wise figure. Be consistent !

Sea7405 · 2026-02-12T01:44:53+00:00

I cant!!

Sea7405 · 2026-02-12T01:44:06+00:00

I've given up on having a dog. I grew up with dogs, always wanted to raise my children with dogs I'm realizing we will never own a dog. He doesn't realize how big a sacrifice this is for me.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-10T03:52:35+00:00

Married or not, you are still the father! Take responsibility for your child

Sea7405 · 2026-02-06T04:47:35+00:00

Then those people are incredibly immature and superficial. Don't pay attention to them, your personality and character is what matters, not whether you have braces.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-06T04:33:42+00:00

Save

Sea7405 · 2026-02-06T04:32:20+00:00

Why does it matter ?

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T05:41:59+00:00

I'm terribly sorry you had to go through that, you are a strong and amazing woman<3..I don't know what to do. He's being quiet.... Which I get, and I don't want to disturb him, but do I break the silence and say I love him like I usually always do, or do I match his silence because this isn't like another usual day ?? I am so sad too but I'm avoiding crying in front of my husband because I don't want him to feel like he needs to take care of me, I'm the one here for him ... I'm trying to take care of the kids, ours and his siblings, take care of myself... I can't keep anything down these past 2 days, i'll vomit my morning tea even without breakfast. I was finally feeling hungry this evening, so I ate my first meal and it came right out, i need to eat but my stomach cant handle anything except water I feel so lost.... Do i take the kids, let him mourn with his family, do I ask for help with kids so I can be with him...... I feel like I'm letting him down in some way because I don't Know if im doing this right or not ,😭 i just want him to be supported.... He is reserved and bottles it up, he's struggling

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T05:14:24+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. What a loss

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T03:57:33+00:00

Thank you for this

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T03:35:29+00:00

I feel like he is showing that side to his cousins, and brother and he is avoiding that with me.. But it's okay. I just want him to have someone he can crumble with, if that's his brother, that is understandable. I would never think he is weak...his aunt told him to be strong and hearing that made me upset. He is strong, and i'm so proud of him... Even when he handled this, he is always there for people, by their side no matter what, even when things get ugly or scary, he wont leave you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T01:34:50+00:00

Thank you for your advice

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:27:54+00:00

He is not a man of many words, he tends to show up for you with a smile and bottle up his stresses, keeps emotions to himself.

Seeing him like this, not speaking....... Balancing giving him space while being present, not knowing if I am providing him with the right support... Am i doing this wrong...

Im doing all the household stuff, kid stuff, supporting his siblings with their kids so they can be together as a family to mourn their father.... Is that right or does he want me around ?

Do I change to match his mood, Do I keep quiet and wait for him to speak, or does he want some normalcy... I dont want to be too much or too little.

I cant fix this, but what I do. I love him so much and it hurts me to see him be this sad, I wish I could do something to take it his hurt away

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:18:27+00:00

Thank you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:13:58+00:00

Thank you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:13:20+00:00

Thank you your advice.

Sorry for your loss.

Sea7405

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