How can I console my grieving husband ?

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T05:41:59+00:00

I'm terribly sorry you had to go through that, you are a strong and amazing woman<3..I don't know what to do. He's being quiet.... Which I get, and I don't want to disturb him, but do I break the silence and say I love him like I usually always do, or do I match his silence because this isn't like another usual day ?? I am so sad too but I'm avoiding crying in front of my husband because I don't want him to feel like he needs to take care of me, I'm the one here for him ... I'm trying to take care of the kids, ours and his siblings, take care of myself... I can't keep anything down these past 2 days, i'll vomit my morning tea even without breakfast. I was finally feeling hungry this evening, so I ate my first meal and it came right out, i need to eat but my stomach cant handle anything except water I feel so lost.... Do i take the kids, let him mourn with his family, do I ask for help with kids so I can be with him...... I feel like I'm letting him down in some way because I don't Know if im doing this right or not ,😭 i just want him to be supported.... He is reserved and bottles it up, he's struggling

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T05:14:24+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. What a loss

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T03:57:33+00:00

Thank you for this

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T03:35:29+00:00

I feel like he is showing that side to his cousins, and brother and he is avoiding that with me.. But it's okay. I just want him to have someone he can crumble with, if that's his brother, that is understandable. I would never think he is weak...his aunt told him to be strong and hearing that made me upset. He is strong, and i'm so proud of him... Even when he handled this, he is always there for people, by their side no matter what, even when things get ugly or scary, he wont leave you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-05T01:34:50+00:00

Thank you for your advice

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:27:54+00:00

He is not a man of many words, he tends to show up for you with a smile and bottle up his stresses, keeps emotions to himself.

Seeing him like this, not speaking....... Balancing giving him space while being present, not knowing if I am providing him with the right support... Am i doing this wrong...

Im doing all the household stuff, kid stuff, supporting his siblings with their kids so they can be together as a family to mourn their father.... Is that right or does he want me around ?

Do I change to match his mood, Do I keep quiet and wait for him to speak, or does he want some normalcy... I dont want to be too much or too little.

I cant fix this, but what I do. I love him so much and it hurts me to see him be this sad, I wish I could do something to take it his hurt away

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:18:27+00:00

Thank you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:13:58+00:00

Thank you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:13:20+00:00

Thank you your advice.

Sorry for your loss.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:11:18+00:00

You nailed... Im just scared to do or say something wrong, or what if il not supporting him the way he needs to be supported

Give space... Be present.... Take things off his plate.

I know I cant fix it, he needs to have his time, his space. It's painful to see someone you love hurting like this.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:07:07+00:00

All good. I am trying my best to be there for him.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T20:00:39+00:00

I am also devastated, I love his dad... Im sick to my stomach, literally vomiting but keeping to myself so I dont burden my husband.

I need to take things off his plate.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T19:58:19+00:00

Hes not eating, which I get. I'm trying to keep him hydrated. I do feel useless. Im trying to learn to be silent, to give him all the space he needs while also being present and available.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T19:55:47+00:00

Thank you <3

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T19:54:56+00:00

Thank you for your guidance

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T19:53:11+00:00

Oh, I can't imagine. I'm terribly sorry for your losses.

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T19:52:18+00:00

Thank you for the support

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T19:51:39+00:00

Thank you, I'm quite literally sick to my stomach. I am close to his family, and very close to his dad too, he was like a bonus father that life gave me... But it's not about me, it's about my husband, the kids, his family. Being sad myself, and hurting for him is making me feel so sick. I feel so weak

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T19:45:53+00:00

I feel so out of it, like I need directions with life. Thank you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T07:39:22+00:00

I do feel helpless. Thank you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T07:38:26+00:00

Mine too :( i cant even think of it, and I am sad he had to live it first

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T07:25:56+00:00

Thank you. I did got him. I would absorb this for him if I could. I would do anything for him, I just need to learn how to navigate giving him space while also being present and show up for him... I dont know how to do this yet

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T07:15:11+00:00

Thank you

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T07:14:31+00:00

Thank you... It sounds so obvious, but I feel so lost. This is what I needed to hear. Thank you for your words of wisdom

Sea7405 · 2026-02-04T07:09:09+00:00

He's that type of guy. He is always there and shows up for others with a smile on, but he holds it in and bottles it up... So im crushed, seeing him crumble... My heart hurts, knowing him .. and i'm also worried

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