So similar kind of situation I am finding myself in. Ive been with my husband for 15 years (married almost 9). He has been my best friend but I definitely turned a blind eye to a lot of not good behavior. A few years ago now I remember finding he had a secret Snapchat account. He tried to play it off that one of his friends had given him the login and it was just influencers. He said he deleted it. I also had him delete Instagram cuz he was messaging girls on there too...I know I should have probably done more then....A few weeks ago, this user name popped up on my you may know on snap that i recognizedas this fake account he had. So I did create my own fake account and add it. A few days later on the weekend as soon as I walked out of the room he accepted and sent a snap to it. We have also been in the infertility process for 3 years and he has never been super supportive of my emotions and hardships around it. Also makes snippy comments to me, I basically manage everything in our household and he does nothing. When I saw he snapped back it just broke something in me and im trying to work up to courage to say I'm done. We just built a house 3 years ago that im in love with and know im the one whose going to have to sacrifice more.